Example: from the end of the world. com:
I haven't seen a positive example of merit perfection around me.
Usually ends with:
1. The borrower has lived for a long time and is used to life. It is natural to take this house for himself. He will not move, buy a house or pay the rent. Then the host became angry and it was difficult to get rid of people. Once he got rid of them, he was blind for so many years that it was difficult to ride a tiger.
The longer the borrower stays, the less he can afford to buy a house. He simply rubbed human feelings to discuss with the owner and wanted to buy the house cheaper. What about the house price? Absolutely shocked+despised+angered the master.
3. In the end, the borrower was completely ungrateful, and the owner was full of grievances and had nowhere to complain. Relatives can break off relatives and friends can break off relations. Looking back now, it is the result of "it was better not to help this at the beginning".
Three relatives and sisters, all daughters of my mother's cousin, have lived together for four or five years. Then my mother wanted to rent it out to make money, so she said to let them find their own house. They also moved away decisively, but in the circle of relatives, it is said that my mother drove them away for money. Later, my aunt's granddaughter came to work here and offered to live in this house. After understanding it in the past, she refused, saying that it had been rented to others.
Twenty years ago, my mother-in-law's sister wanted to buy a house and had no money. My father-in-law saved 50 thousand yuan in business and bought a small house. Later, the small house was demolished, and one was given to two. My sister said that she had no money to pay back, so she gave her two sets to her mother-in-law, who said that she could. My sister said that there was no income at home, so she sold her own set, bought a small frontispiece and rented it out.
6. At present, there is a three-story self-built house in my hometown (small town), which was borrowed by my brother-in-law and lived for at least seven or eight years. I can't imagine how to get it back later. It must be from the south. They are all traditional Chinese characters.
7. The appearance of the husband's family is used by her husband's aunt's son. Never charge rent. Now the husbands are married. I don't even know what to say.
When I was in primary school, I had to study in the morning. Parents bought a suite next to the school for convenience. Later, when my uncle and aunt came back from other places, my mother let them live for free, and my sister lived with them and gave them living expenses. Who knows that they don't feed and dress my sister well, but they always scare my sister and tell my mother how good they are to my sister. If I hadn't lived there for a winter (just going to sleep after class at night), I still don't know where my sister lives. After my repeated insistence, my dad finally let them move out, and then, for several years, they didn't come to my house. My cousin always said that my mother was not good, and my aunt said that they didn't have a house because my mother cheated them! Some baiwenhang, you treat them well, they don't know how to be grateful!
9. My family rented the house to my father's cousin's son for free. He got married and had children in it. Later, when his father died, relatives wanted to buy it at a price nearly half lower than the market price. My mother has just diagnosed cancer and needs money badly. She refused to sell it to him and sold it to someone else. That relative used to come to my house every holiday and never came again.
10, my cousin lived in an empty house for a while, then suddenly came to my house and told me that he was getting married and there was no house to solve his problem. The implication is to give him the empty house.
165438+ Later, this matter was solved through litigation. The owner let others occupy the house for years, turned against each other, and posted legal fees and legal fees.
12, my room is lent to my cousin, because her home is far away, and I can stay when it is inconvenient for her to go to work and go home. She just went to work, so it is impossible for her family to buy a house. It is estimated that she will live long enough to get married. . It's very tangled now. Do you want to help her pay the water and electricity bills?
13, my house was lent to my aunt (my mother's sister) more than ten years ago, and we confiscated a penny. When we took back the house last year, my aunt said everywhere that we forced her to leave. At first, I said that my father promised her this house. I said that our home is not Li Ka-shing, so local tyrants just give it away. Later, I said that my dad promised to keep it for them. I said yes, but now our family is in trouble, so we have to take it back. Finally, when we moved out, we removed all the good furniture left at home in those years, leaving us with furniture that quickly fell apart and a lot of rubbish. And blame us for forcing their family to rent a house. In fact, we gave her a year to find a house before, but they didn't find it until the last half month of our deadline, so we started to rush and start looking for a house. This is our fault, too. . . Now their family has nothing to do with ours. Once her son met my husband at a dinner party and didn't seem to know him.
14, haha, that's what a friend of mine did. He rented the house to his sister at a low rent, 600 yuan for one month. As a result, he gave it for several months and never gave it again. Ask her for rent, tell her she has no money, and she's stuck anyway. Hehe, I lived for ten years. I heard that I will buy a new house this year and live for two years. Friends can't say anything, they can only spit on me.
15, I also have a house, which is free for my relatives, but he doesn't live here, just keeps some furniture. The monthly rent is 2500, but I haven't moved out after several times. The deadline is 65438+ next year 10, let's see if he is thick-skinned.
Last year, my mother-in-law urged my sister-in-law to bring her children to my house. My husband agreed without saying anything, and I didn't directly refuse, but after only doing 1, she never said that she would come to live.
My husband and I both worked in the south and gave birth to a second child last year and resigned. After giving birth, I stayed in my hometown with my two children for more than half a year. When I was in my hometown, my sister-in-law was at home, because her child was older than my second child, and she was alone. Her husband is two brothers and their children are about the same age. My mother-in-law went to her husband's brother's house to take care of the children, and my father-in-law helped at home.
But her mother-in-law gave her an idea that it was better for her father-in-law to go out to earn money, because her father-in-law said that she would go out to earn money and give the money she earned to my sister-in-law. Then let my sister-in-law live in my house, and my mother-in-law said she could help with the children.
Although my mother-in-law didn't tell me, I didn't care, because in my opinion, it is really inconvenient for my father-in-law to accompany her at home and help her with her children. I feel inconvenient myself. So, I also let her live with my mother-in-law. After all, it is also her home, and the longer she stays, the better. And I think our children are about the same age, and we can take care of each other together.
Then she lived in her parents' house for several months until the Spring Festival. During this time, I found that things were not as simple as I thought. My penis is basically my own. Sometimes the older ones play with me, sometimes with my mother-in-law, who is basically a child who cooks and takes care of her sister-in-law.
I felt very tired at that time, but it is normal to think that I am my own child and take care of myself. My mother-in-law is my sister-in-law's biological mother, and of course she is more distressed by her daughter. This is also human nature.
Then my mother-in-law may think I am easy to talk to. I heard that my sister-in-law also wants to work in our place after the Spring Festival. She wants to take care of the children. I think we should discuss with her behind the scenes to let her live in our house. They told my husband directly, and my husband agreed without saying anything, and then told me.
My mother-in-law and sister-in-law didn't tell me, and I pretended not to know. But I have made it clear to my husband that I can't, because from the situation in my hometown, I will definitely be the most tired. My mother-in-law said after I gave birth to my second child that one person couldn't see two, and I didn't think one person could take two, so I told her that I didn't go to work at that time and wrote for others at home to earn money. She only needs to look after Bao Xiao while I am writing, and I will look after the kindergarten for my eldest daughter.
My sister-in-law will go then. She is looking for a job. Then whoever takes care of the children must be my mother-in-law Then I'll bring two myself. What else can you earn? Not to mention that. When children are about the same age, they will definitely make a fuss from time to time. At that time, children who have been wronged will feel uncomfortable, and there will be contradictions over time.
I guess my sister-in-law guessed that I might disagree. One day we were sunbathing together in the yard, and she tentatively said, "Sister-in-law, shall I go to your house to help you take care of the children?" You can go to work. "I immediately smiled and said," that won't do. Eating one is enough, but eating two is even more unbearable. When they are together, they will definitely fight every day. You don't believe me, ask our mother. Some time ago, my cousin's children lived in my house for two days. At that time, Bao Xiao was not born yet, and she cried for a while, and her head ached. Now that Bao Xiao is born, there are many children, and several children have not demolished the building. At that time, the old lady downstairs estimated that she would come to look for things every day. "
She smiled and said nothing more. I think it was passed on to my mother-in-law later.
In this way, no one mentioned it again, as if it had never happened, and there was no mention of living in my house in front of my husband.
In fact, in my opinion, no matter how close people are, distance will produce beauty. My relationship with my sister-in-law is ok. We are both polite and kind to our children, but I can guess that if we really live together, our relationship will definitely deteriorate. She can live in my mother-in-law's house, because it is her own home, and I have no right to say anything, just like I live in my mother-in-law's house, and I hope my sister-in-law can tolerate me.
But if I want to live in my own small home, I have to think about it rationally. I told my husband at that time that I could help them find a house. If they can't afford to rent a house, they can lend them money, but they can't live together. As long as we live together, we can't do anything every day, and then the daily expenses are still there. If there is a dispute between children, it will make both sides unhappy. It is better to refuse early. If they explicitly ask me, then I will definitely refuse; If they did it indirectly, then I indirectly refused.
For the situation in the topic, I think we can consider the following methods to see if we can try these tricks:
First, the elders refused. Now that your parents live in the house, you agree, but your wife doesn't agree, so you can convey the couple's opinions to your parents and ask them to refuse. Children have the responsibility to support their parents, what's more, parents are still helping to repay the loan, so it is appropriate for parents to live. But my brother wants to live. If my sister-in-law doesn't agree, you can refuse. The old man can clearly tell his brother about your wife's attitude, but as long as his brother and wife know how to put themselves in their shoes, they won't mention it again.
Second, your wife refused directly. Although you promised to borrow the house, it is not your own, but your wife's. Since they are all divorced because of the house, you should know that it is your wife, not your brother, who will spend your life with you, and you should give priority to your wife's feelings. If the wife is willing to be the villain, then you can just let the wife and brother say that she doesn't approve of their moving in.
Third, tell your brother your wife's attitude again. If your wife doesn't want to be a villain, you can also tell your brother that your wife knows this and doesn't agree. If they live in it, her wife will divorce you. I'm sure my brother can't hold on. As a brother, you can also tell your brother to help him find a house near the hospital or something. Try to communicate with your brother alone first, not with your sister-in-law, because the two brothers grew up in a family, and your brother should understand your situation. After he knows your wife's attitude, it will be better to communicate with her.
Finally, I want to say: every family has a difficult lesson. Whatever happens, husband and wife should respect each other. When considering things, they should put their wives first, not their younger brothers, because everyone has their own small family. No matter what problems they deal with, they should definitely put their small family first. Everything goes well at home. If your small family is not harmonious, many other things are meaningless. Sometimes face is not that important. Face is nothing compared with your lover. You should learn to refuse appropriately and give the other half a sense of security and trust.
Remember "it's easy to ask God, but it's difficult to ask God"! Your brother is going to have a baby, which means he is destined to have a confinement in your new house. His toes are humble. His parents live in their own house, while his brother and sister-in-law have children, which is understandable. Besides, your family belongs to two daughters, so it is not excluded that they have a son, and your parents will pay off the mortgage to blackmail you into giving them the house. This kind of thing, this kind of family, this kind of person has seen a lot! Don't bother your daughter-in-law, think for her, think for her, husband and wife are closer than brothers. Failure to keep your mouth shut is divorce. You think you might be okay. After the divorce, you are nothing. Some women are the god of wealth in men's lives. Once divorced, not only the family will be separated, but also the family property will be scattered. A man who can't make a woman happy is a knot in his head! You think you are the head of the family and ignore your wife, then you are doomed to be unhappy. Your brother rented a house without a house, so why bother? Why do you have to quarrel again when you know that you quarreled about the house once before? I just think my sister-in-law is easy to talk to and bully! What's wrong with an empty room? In this society, house prices are rising. A few years ago, people who had no money rushed to buy a house. There are many vacant rooms. If everything is like your home, the Civil Affairs Bureau will not be busy to death!
As you can see from your description, this house is your and your wife's wedding room and the only one in your hometown. Although not alive for the time being, I will go back one day after all.
I don't understand what your brother's family is thinking. Where can't they have children? They are going to their brother's house to have a baby. Obviously, they are up to no good and give their brother a problem. If your sister-in-law gives birth to a child and wants her parents to serve her next month, you can take the old man to your home. There's no need to go to your house.
It stands to reason that relatives should help each other, but many negative examples in real life tell us that the people who are helped are not only ungrateful but also bite the hand that feeds them, and their relatives are no exception.
Your wife is right to be worried. Nine times out of ten, your brother's family wants to keep this house for themselves. Although the down payment is yours, the mortgage is borne by the elderly. They can find all kinds of excuses to stay in the future. What can you do with your brother?
When encountering family conflicts, if it is not a matter of life and death, it is the basic criterion for married men to deal with family conflicts. If you don't care about your wife's opinion and insist on helping your brother, then you are ready to break up.
My husband and I are also financially independent. Now we have a suite in our own name. I will live with my grandmother first. My parents and aunts will accompany her occasionally, but not forever. My grandmother is not used to too many people. My cousin said that the new house was not installed and wanted to live first, but I refused because my brother hadn't said this yet. Finally, he put the old house on hold. My grandfather asked me, what if I don't get moved out? I said, sell it and buy something else. I don't believe that the new owner can't get rid of people. Originally, he wanted to give his granddaughter a place to study here. I said this is a degree room. Don't even think about it. Grandma is over eighty, and she will live for twenty years at most. If you see anyone who can't live for 20 years, go live with my grandmother. I'm willing to sell it at the market price.
True story: My family lives in a third-tier city. Two years ago, my husband wanted to sell my old house to his brother. At first he said it was free. Of course, I don't agree with mercaptan. Later, my husband said that he sold it to his brother for 65,438+10,000, the highest150,000. I didn't agree. He asked me: How much will it cost? I said, at least 300 thousand. In fact, I didn't want to sell it at all, because although the house is an old house, the location is a prime location. Wait until the demolition, I want to leave it to my daughter after the demolition. As a result, my husband said I was crazy about money! There is a big gap between me and him. He was very angry. I have always insisted on disagreeing. Later, several friends advised him that my approach was right. He shouldn't spoil his brother too much, or his fraternity will rely too much on his ideas. Later, my husband was seriously ill and almost died. I've been waiting for my husband and never gave up. Fortunately, my husband is recovering slowly now, and my brother doesn't care! What a nuisance! It's a long story Husband knows now that his wife is the most suitable for him! Brothers are relatives, sometimes they are really worse than outsiders!
First of all, you should live with your parents. But it's your fault that your brother didn't discuss it with her when he was alive. You are married, and you and your wife are family. Your brother can only be regarded as a relative, and he can be regarded as a family without marriage. He doesn't care about anything. Marriage is equivalent to two. First of all, if you let your brother have a house without consulting your daughter-in-law, you will no longer treat your daughter-in-law as a family. What do you think? The down payment on the house you bought and the loan paid by your parents. I think there is a sense of insecurity in your heart. Even if you get divorced, you can't get the house and wife. I can understand the idea that I am a man. After all, nobody wants to draw water with a sieve. When you lent your house to your brother's house without consulting your daughter-in-law, I think you crossed the line, brother. Let's settle the accounts. Let's put ourselves in others' shoes. If your family and your daughter-in-law let his relatives live without consulting you, would you? Your daughter-in-law cares about you, which shows that she regards you as family. If she doesn't care about this family, she won't care. You can live with anyone you like. What does this have to do with me?
There is an old saying that it is better to borrow someone else's pair than to borrow someone else's pair, but you must never lend your house or room to others. In some families, family care is better than marriage and love. In fact, such people are sad and stupid. As your brother, you don't know any customs, and you can't figure out the relationship between history and injury. It's really hard for your wife to find you. Your brother's sister-in-law is also an ignorant commodity, with bad intentions and no consideration for other people's families. Besides, you don't understand. Your parents should understand. Your brother and daughter-in-law slept in your bed, which is immoral, corrupts Feng Shui and is very bad for you. Besides, it is easier to ask God than to send him. If you go your own way or don't care about customs, you can really get a divorce. Because no one wants to live with someone like you who treats husband and wife like dirt, regardless of customs and family life.
After living in this house, you have nothing. Why? Your parents are still paying the mortgage, and their money will be shared with your brother in the future. The first year was very good, serving pregnant women and taking care of children in the second year. Then I told you that my brother-in-law was in poor health and lived for a while. In the third year, the destructive power of children came out. Then I said that the kindergarten I applied for was relatively close and I lived for three years. It's the best in the local area, and I don't want to delay the children. When I finally want to get my house back, the furniture is either painted or pasted with stickers, and no wall is good. Your brother said, I'll give you a down payment. Brother, find another set.
Never give up. It's easier to ask God than to send him away. My home is a living example.
My family used to have a one-bedroom house in the city, which was allocated by my husband's unit. The property right belongs to the unit, and we only need to pay the rent in 240 yuan every year. Our family lived there for several years. Later, with children, the house was not enough, so I bought a three-bedroom apartment outside. This small single room was vacant, because the rent was relatively low, and we didn't return it to the unit. A few years ago, my husband's niece said that she was going to work in the city and wanted to borrow our house. Of course it's from her niece. The house is empty. It was unreasonable not to give it, so we agreed to move in for her.
Who knows, this niece is a dishonest person, and often drinks with irresponsible people, which is very noisy. Because we don't go back, and the house has been vacant for several years, the new neighbors don't know if the owner is my husband's. When we moved out, some things didn't move out. One day, my husband wanted to go back and get a measuring instrument. At first, we spent thousands of dollars on that measuring instrument. This old measuring instrument has been kept in the old house because there is an extra one on the construction site. When my husband opened the door that day, he was stunned by the scene at home. The room is full of women's underwear and rubbish everywhere. Leftover lunch boxes are thrown away after smelling them. Maggots grow, wine bottles are everywhere, and the whole house smells rotten. My husband covered his nose with his hand and went in to rummage through the measuring instruments. It's gone, and so are some old things in my house.
My husband went to the corridor outside the house to get some air. At this moment, a colleague of the unit saw my husband and asked him if the house was rented to someone else. Husband said no, relatives came to live. That colleague told my husband that my niece often brings irresponsible people to play and often drinks and guesses the code, which affects everyone's rest. Some people knocked on the door several times to dissuade them, but it's still the same. People who come to play are not good at it, and they are afraid of retaliation, so everyone has to endure it.
My husband was very angry when he heard from his colleague, so he called his niece and asked where the measuring instrument was. My niece said she didn't know, and said that our family should have moved when we moved, and we might have lost it before we came back here to look for it. Husband asked her why she brought no three no four people to her home. Make the house look like a dump? At first, my niece denied it. My husband is very angry and says that he is in the room now. She didn't shut up until my husband said that. My husband ordered her to move out of our house today.
My nephew lived in this house for more than a year, during which he spent more than 3 thousand on water and electricity. She didn't pay a penny, because it is a unit house, and even if she owes water and electricity, she won't lose power. We asked my niece to pay the water and electricity bill, but she said we drove her away, and she didn't pay the water and electricity bill until she continued. We are tearing our hair out. Who dares to live with such a person? We don't know when the murder will happen, so we have to admit that we are unlucky.
I don't know what this niece said to her mother. My husband's dear elder sister called us and said that we were too vicious to drive our niece out of the house and let a girl sleep on the street. As soon as I listened to my aunt, I got angry and asked her if she knew what her daughter was doing outside. I brought different men to my house to sleep, and everything I gave home was gone. We helped pay thousands of dollars for water and electricity, not only ungrateful, but also said that.
I scolded my aunt and told her to invite ten Taoist priests and ten Taoist girls to my house to do magic and sweep away those musty smells. If my family can't find food in the future, it will be a problem to take her daughter! My elder sister-in-law didn't shut up until she saw me say that.
After expelling my niece, several relatives offered to stay in this house. As a warning, we simply return this room to the unit, and the matter of relatives borrowing houses has only stopped in recent years.