The people who can make us entangled in portraits are the closest relatives. They wanted us to live well before they died, and they didn't want us to be too sad when they died. The ancients said that "thinking about things and people for a long time hurts the body", so if the old man at home dies, it is better not to hang the portrait at home. The best memory is not in the form, but in the heart.
Some people say that the living are "Yang people" and the dead are "Yin people". Hanging portraits at home is not good for feng shui. Although this is a superstitious statement, it still has some truth from personal psychology. For example, a huge portrait of my grandfather hangs in my grandmother's living room. Every time I go to see grandpa's portrait, I get goose bumps. I know grandpa loves me very much, and I love him very much, but there is always an unspeakable feeling when I see his portrait.
Two places where portraits of old people should not be hung 1. bedroom
In real life, some people who are very filial and strong in heart can't let go of the death of the old man, and will hang the portrait of the old man in the bedroom, which is actually not desirable.
The bedroom is where people sleep. As the saying goes, if you think about it day and night, you will inevitably dream of the old man when you see the portrait many times before going to bed. Whether it's a good dream or a nightmare, dreaming of the dead is always bad for your health.
If you put the portrait of the old man in the bedroom, you can see it at first sight when you wake up and open your eyes every day. Life on that day will start with sadness, and if you are in a bad mood, you will be absent-minded. In the long run, your luck will decline.
2. Utility room
The utility room is a place where sundries are piled up. It is disrespectful to hang the old man's portrait in the utility room.
Portrait of the old man 1 What should I do? Hanging in the living room.
It is common to put portraits of old people in the living room. The only inappropriate thing is that when guests come home, others will feel a little uncomfortable when they see the portrait hanging in the living room, and it is not without worship.
Suggestion:
The portrait of the old man can be hung in the living room, but it's best not to make it too big, and don't just hang a portrait on the living room wall.
Handling opinions:
(1). Enlarge the portrait and hang it in an inconspicuous position, which will not only remember the old man, but also give the guests an uncomfortable feeling.
(2) Make a photo wall with many family photos and put the portrait of the old man in it.
2. Collect it or make it into an electronic photo album
In fact, it is more appropriate to collect the portrait of the old man or make it into an electronic photo album, which is also the author's most respected.
A photograph is an idea. When you miss old people, you can take them out to have a look. You can put them away after reading them. In this way, we can remember our ancestors without leaving a "psychological burden" on the living.
Burn it after the anniversary
This kind of treatment may not be recognized by many people. The reason why this treatment is listed separately is because I heard a sentence from my uncle, and I deeply agree with it.
When I gave my grandmother the anniversary grave, my uncle took her portrait to the grave and burned it. Neither my mother nor my aunt agreed at that time. My uncle said, "Of course, my brothers and sisters are reluctant to let her go. Now that I am over 70, maybe one day I will follow her (my uncle is in poor health). Xiaojun and I (my uncle's son) can give up my mother's portrait. What about after I die? Maybe it will be put in a corner, and it is better to burn it yourself than throw it away. "
Think about it, too. Many people will give up the portraits of their parents, many people will give up the portraits of their grandparents, but few people will keep the portraits of their great-grandfathers.
Conclusion Some people are willing to give up the portrait of the old man, some people are willing to collect it, and some people simply burn it. Of course, different ideas, different emotions and different angles are different, which is no problem.
When people die, any form of sadness is futile. The old man didn't care before his death, but burned the villa sports car after his death. That's just for the living. When they are alive, this is the most important thing for people nowadays.
Although the concept of this era has changed a lot, the memory of the deceased relatives is still an eternal emotion in our hearts, which is not only accompanied by this life, but also worth spreading for future generations to trace back to the source and cherish the memory of their ancestors. In my humble opinion, it is not necessary to do as the Romans do, but it should not be handled hastily. The last thing to do is to throw it all away.
Let's talk about urban families. Although I lived with my grandparents when I was a child and had deep feelings, my children's understanding of the concepts of death and ancestors was very shallow and simple. As time went on, my impression of them became more and more indifferent. With my own children, I have a deeper understanding of blood and family ties, and my views on photos have also changed. I remember going back to Shanghai at the beginning of the century and seeing some photos of my grandparents in my parents' collection tin box. All kinds of past events suddenly came to my mind, which made me feel very different from before. There is nothing to look forward to. I felt very sorry at that time. It is also good to think about ancestral temples and temples in rural areas in the past. With photos, you can not only see the voices and smiles of the elders who have lived together, but also see the ancestors who have never met before, and experience life intuitively.
Now that an elder in the family has passed away, the average family will put a simple coffin and a photo at home for relatives and friends to pay homage to. After the funeral, most of them will take the photos down, and some will hang them for a while, and some even hang them for several years. Personally, I feel that various practices vary from person to person and are beyond reproach. There is no need to care about other people's comments. How to arrange your own peace of mind is the most important criterion.
However, if you hang photos, it is not recommended to be too rigid, such as standard drawings with black frames, black and white photos and so on. There are many photos now, so it is more appropriate to choose life photos or family reunion photos. Too solemn photos will bring some gloomy atmosphere to the family, but now children who are more independent, free and socialized will feel awe and distance. You know, the deceased relatives used to be living individuals, and they lived with us day and night, and they were very happy to see our happiness. Even if yin and yang are separated, if there are spirits in the sky, they will certainly not want to make us afraid, but would rather be intimate and treat each other as equals?
Another very important suggestion is to set up a special photo album, select a certain number of photos with commemorative value, carefully organize and save them in chronological order, and add explanations if possible, or make them into electronic photo albums for long-term preservation. This not only properly preserves the photos of deceased relatives, but also can be used to look through the mourning from time to time. It is also a story record that directly records family growth and changes, which can be passed down from generation to generation, so that future generations of children can feel the filial piety and family outlook of the Chinese nation, which is a precious gift for their future growth.
The treatment and preservation of the portrait of the old man embodies the master's cultural accomplishment and wisdom. If handled properly, it is yearning and respect for the deceased.
Ordinary people have portraits, which are modern things. I have the impression that in the late 1970s, some well-off and filial children asked the master of the county photo studio to take photos of the elderly before their death. At that time, photography technology was not popular, and the high-spirited old people knew that they were taking "portraits" because they were very lucky to be regarded as photographers in their generation. They put on their shrouds and posed for photos.
After the existence of the portrait, the sacrificial culture spread for thousands of years, injecting the symbols of the times, and the portrait replaced the paper or wooden tablets in the past for worship and sacrifice. With the development of society, photography technology has developed rapidly. Now with one hand and one hand, everyone poses casually, leaving many precious instant pictures and videos in daily life. Many people also set up photo albums or save them on USB flash drives and computers. Old people no longer take special photos of "portraits" before their death, but they will die sooner or later, and they will extract and enlarge them from wonderful photo studios or self-portraits before their death.
Portraits, different from ordinary photos, are solemn and solemn, and they are sacrifices for the dead. There are many rules and regulations in the sacrificial culture. Portraits are not hung casually or often to show respect for the dead, and it does not affect the mood and normal life of future generations. Portrait in our local sacrificial culture has the following rural customs and uses:
One is placed in the center of the funeral table. After the death of the old man, a mourning hall should be set up for the convenience of relatives and friends. There is a special altar in the center of the mourning hall. There are portraits, offerings and incense sticks of the deceased in the center of the altar for people to mourn and sacrifice.
Second, at the funeral, the eldest son walked in front of the coffin with the coffin in his hand and the portrait of the deceased in his arms, leading the deceased to the cemetery. After burial, the portrait was removed from the coffin head of the tomb hall, and then taken home by the eldest son and placed in the center of the table in the main room. Portraits are used to guide the souls of the dead at funerals and funerals.
Third, during the 7749 days (seven days for a memorial day), family members should present incense paper to the deceased as a gift. After July 7, they will make a special box, put the portrait away and put it on the desk or bookcase in the main room. Generally, they will not turn it over or look at it.
Four, every hundred days, one year, two years, three weeks and festivals, please stay on the table for sacrifice and mourning, and then put it back in the original place.
Fifth, on the day of the third anniversary, the portrait of the deceased was brought to the grave by the eldest son and cremated in front of the grave with the ghost ticket, which was no longer permanently preserved. Modern people can keep the original in photo albums or computers. Later, they moved into the shrine of the dead on the genealogy or sacred case and enshrined it in the ancestral hall. Families without ancestral temples are guarded by older people. Please take out your genealogy or sacred case for the holidays or red and white events at home.
Subject, your old man has been dead for many years. Because you don't know the ritual, the portrait of the old man is still there. How do you keep it? Hanging a room, seeing an image, and missing a loved one are easy to cause future generations to miss and affect their normal mood and life; Hanging in the bedroom is disrespectful. After all, the bedroom is a private space. It was your old man who was sent to the ancestral temple. There are no portraits of old people from other clans to be enshrined in the ancestral hall. Only the portrait of your old man is available, and the clan may not agree.
If the portrait of the old man is no longer kept, I will suggest a way for the subject. Next year, Tomb-Sweeping Day will send the portrait of the old man to the grave for cremation and leave the original in the photo album or computer. If you have to save, you can save because you miss the old man, but your children and grandchildren may not be able to do it.
Life is full of plants and trees. Birth, old age, illness and death are the natural laws of the world. Although the colorful world is good, mortals will die sooner or later. As the saying goes, "people die like lights go out." After three weeks of commemoration, future generations have come out of their grief, and their feelings for the elderly have faded unconsciously. Living people, life has to go on, there is no need to keep the portrait of the old man, hanging around like a shadow, disturbing their families and affecting their lives. Out of sight, out of mind, as long as you keep your thoughts in your heart, you can think of the old people normally in the sacrificial activities of Tomb-Sweeping Day, Mid-Autumn Festival and Cold Food Festival.
This question also varies from person to person! After their parents died, they were buried in their hometown, especially in the countryside, and their parents were buried in their hometown cousin's house, so there were photos of their uncles, grandmothers and parents in their hometown cousin's house, and their portraits could be seen every time they went back to their hometown to sweep the grave. I don't think my cousin has any taboos, and her children won't say anything that may be customary. My sister and I live in the city and are not used to putting photos at home. We don't even hang our own photos, but the walls are full of scenery. I also thought about hanging the portrait of my parents on the wall, but I am sentimental. Whenever I see the portrait of my parents, I can't help but shed tears. Up to now, my mother has been dead for more than 30 years, and my father has been dead for 5 years. Whenever I can't sleep at night, I think of them. I think if I always do this, it may be bad for my health, so I always wrap up my parents' portraits and put them in the cupboard. I guess my parents won't complain that we didn't hang their portraits! Sometimes I take out their portraits and look at them. So I think it doesn't matter whether the portraits are hung or not, as long as I always miss them and keep them in my heart. Parents will live in our hearts forever!
In the past, the rural conditions were poor, and the elderly could not take photos when they were alive. After their death, they basically didn't keep any photos. At that time, the old man died without a portrait.
Later, some family conditions gradually improved. In order to leave a souvenir for future generations, I dug up some photos of the old man before his death from home, chose a beautiful one from them and took it to the photo studio in the city for printing. In the professional language at that time, it was called "remake" and enlargement; Some families, in order to save money and take photos, find a "painter" who stands in the city or town to draw a "charcoal portrait" as big as 8-inch paper for preservation.
Now in the countryside, the old man has passed away, and every household has a portrait of the old man.
Some of them were prepared by the old man before his death. At the age of 60, when he was making a coffin, he took a good photo. He chose a standard image from several photos.
On the day of the old man's death, one of the photos taken before his death was quickly taken to the photo studio or advertising company in the town to enlarge. This situation is a temporary rush.
Now the portraits of the old people are all color photos, and the photo frames are beautiful.
Our family says this:
My old father died five years ago, except during the May 7th period (that is, five, seven and thirty-five days after his death), he had to put it on the table of incense table above the main room, and put it in a box at the bottom after May 7th.
Every season, when I am packing clothes and quilts at home and see my mother sorting things alone, I will take out my father's portrait from under the box, watch it over and over again, and then put it back carefully.
I knew that at this time, mom missed dad!
Therefore, for: the portrait of the old man who died at home for many years should be placed under the box!
In this case, only when you are inadvertently sorting things out, take a look and miss your loved ones. This feeling is the best!
If you hang it on the wall, you will often see it, which is not good.
For example, if there are any celebrations at home, it is good for everyone to be happy together. If you suddenly see a picture on the wall, it will make everyone feel heavy. This is not good. Isn't this ruining everyone's fun?
How do you think? Where do you think it should be put?
Storing portraits of ancestors is a way for future generations to remember their ancestors. However, for a long time, there were all kinds of portraits at home. According to folklore, it is easy to produce yin and harmful to health. Generally, it should be properly disposed of after 3 to 7 years. Disposal method 1: put it in the ancestral temple for worship. The second way is to send it to the grave. The third method, the best and most unforgettable method, is to make a porcelain statue and stick it on the tombstone, which will never fade. It will take hundreds of years, and children and grandchildren can see the remains every year when they worship.
After the death of the old man, the portrait should not be hung on any wall at home, nor should it be placed on the table. It should be kept in a cabinet or drawer that is often motionless. It doesn't mean that hanging a portrait at home means filial piety. It's best for old people to be more filial and less accompanied when they are alive, so as not to make them angry. Hanging the portrait at home will affect the shadows of some adults and children at home and also affect the normal living conditions. It is normal for people to move forward, and it is normal for others to continue. It is normal for the next generation to be willing to leave photos or unwilling to leave them or burn them and tear them up. People are like this!
The portrait of my dead parents was kept in my mobile phone five years ago.
Father died in 15, and mother died in 12. At that time, the portrait of my parents was always at my hometown brother's house. Because my brother and I are both in other places, and my brother's family lives in other places, I brought home the portrait of my parents when I went back five years ago. For various reasons, my parents' portraits were not hung up properly, so I took pictures of my parents' portraits and saved them in my mobile phone. Whenever I miss my parents, I can take them out at any time. My parents will always be by my side, and I will always be with my parents.
My father has been dead for almost 20 years. In the first few years, my father's portrait was hung on the side wall of the hall, and you can see it when you open the door. Every time I go back to my hometown, when I open the door, I will say to my father in the photo, "Dad, I'm back"; When I leave, I want to say "Dad, I'm leaving, you have to help me keep my house"; It seems that my father is still alive.
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My father died in 1997 and my mother died in 1999, less than two years apart. After my mother died, I put the portrait of my parents in the same photo frame, hung it in the middle of the living room, and wrote a line under the portrait of my parents: Long live my parents as long as my life is still there! The portrait of parents hanging on the wall has never been taken down. Seeing smiling parents every day, I really feel that they have not left. 20 15, I moved to a new home. It is more than 30 miles away from the old house. Since then, the old house has been empty, and the things in the room have basically not moved. I also thought about taking down the portrait of my parents and bringing it back to my new home. Elder sister also reminded me twice, but I didn't bring it after all. I never thought that in 20 17, all the old houses were demolished without receiving any notice, and the whole old things were with the parents' bones that had been hung for more than ten years.