Article | Mr. Ant
I used to think that returning to my hometown would be my last resort, but now I find that returning home has become a somewhat luxurious dream of mine.
One episode of Dou Wentao's talk show "Round Table" talked about young people changing jobs in the workplace. Dou Wentao and four guests, Liang Wendao, Zhang Lixian and Jiang Fangzhou, gathered around a round table to discuss a topic - why are young people today so keen on job-hopping? And the more you dance, the more confused you become?
During the dinner, Jiang Fangzhou put forward a very cruel point of view that touched me very much. When talking about whether young people should be allowed to choose a step-by-step life, Jiang Fangzhou said, "I originally thought that this life can be seen to the end. , is a mediocre life, a very scary life. But now I suddenly discovered that for many young people, a life with the end in sight is a particularly safe life. A luxurious life. ”
In the past, you could survive in life, but in this era, it is very possible that after working in a profession for many years, you will suddenly find that this profession has been eliminated, and surviving in life may not be as expected. sense of security. This feeling is especially true on the Internet.
As the saying goes, if a person removes a living tree, a dead tree will die. There are often enough opportunities lurking in the great uncertainty, if you can find the source of these uncertainties and reduce the chaos to make it stable.
Many people hate joining the system as civil servants. They think that the stable life of seeing the end at a glance is too boring. Stability brings you a sense of security. The opposite side of this coin is the solidification behind stability, which means rise. The price of losing other opportunities behind the clear channel.
However, what still attracts countless people to squeeze in is precisely what is behind the reverse side of this coin, the sense of certainty and security that can perfectly balance work and life, career and family. .
Today’s Internet circle attracts countless people to jump in after graduation. Everyone is eager to change the world. Everyone is unwilling to be born as a cut leek. They hate the sickle, but they are even more eager to be able to change the world. Become a scythe.
This industry has been emphasizing that the most popular word about people's abilities is the word "cognition" - you must either rely on hard work or talent to survive. A mediocre life.
I know the reasons for my inner anxiety better than anyone else. In the face of the current huge chaos and the endless uncertainty of the future, everyone’s abilities and cognitive boundaries are limited. If you cross Once this boundary is crossed, fear strikes and anxiety is inevitable. After all, it's all bubbles.
The essence of human work is to hope that by being attached to a certain group and relying on one's own efforts and diligence, one can obtain linear or even facet rewards from the group, some of which are personal values, and some of which are beliefs. More is actually material.
However, when you realize that the group you are attached to cannot meet your expectations, the huge insecurity will make people breathless. As small as a family, as medium as a business, as large as a country, this is no exception.
When I was in elementary school, I once got double hundred points in the test, and I mistakenly thought that I was the center of the world;
In middle school, as a top student in a small town, I mistakenly thought that I was the proud one of heaven;
When I graduated from college and entered the society to show my ambition, I mistakenly thought that I could change the world.
When reality slaps you one by one, let alone being the center of the world, being the chosen one, or changing the world. You may exhaust all your energy, but you may not be able to achieve the mediocre life you once disdained.
When I make career choices, I often look at the status of my peers who are also doing the same thing, people with three years of experience, people with years of experience, and people with ten years of experience. What is the status of the industry trends that these seniors are attached to.
I know that many people like to watch Chicken Soup for the Soul, and some people have even been brainwashed by Chicken Soup. I once fell into the self-deceptive illusion that chicken soup brought me and couldn't extricate myself, but I had to face a cruel reality - it is difficult to stay in first-tier cities. At the moment when second-tier and third-tier cities are frantically robbing people, according to my own Based on your true strength, it is wise to make a choice as early as possible.
I am not sure whether a life that can be achieved by just tiptoeing is considered a more perfect life.
It is not as boring as the life that is within easy reach, and it is not as out of reach as "the moon in the water and the flower in the mirror". Learning to delay gratification and adapt to reality may not be a bad thing after all.
There is an old Chinese saying that goes: one is fate, two is luck, three is feng shui, the other is accumulation of yin virtue and the fifth is reading. I often think about a question - if pattern determines life, then what determines pattern?
Sometimes when life truly changes qualitatively, it may not be because of how hard you work and diligence, but whether you have seen the situation and yourself correctly, and done what you want at the right time. The right thing, with the right person.
After all, the premise of the 10,000-hour rule is not to do things right, but to only do the right things.
If in the foreseeable future, one predicts that it will be difficult for him to pursue excellence and chooses mediocrity, at least he will not be reduced to the bleak state of having nothing compared to being in a trance many years later. Bar?
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