Bing Xin once said, "I don't know what home is, but boredom and sadness melt away in it."
Yes, it doesn't matter how much money or the size of the house when the family is together.
Because home is not a house, but a harbor of the soul, you can unload all the disguises, and you don't have to be confused or see the wind and frost. Even if the winter outside is like snow, the interior of the spring breeze is warm. The best feng shui for a home is to smell the book, listen to the silence and look at the calmness.
Smell the book fragrance
Su Shi said in "San Tang Huai Ming": "Faithfulness lasts forever, and poetry and books last forever". Only by being loyal and learning can a family develop for a long time. In history, there were three gifted scholars in the family, namely Su Xun, Su Shi and Su Zhe, and the most admirable one was Su Xun, who trained two gifted scholars and left many classic works for later generations. Su Xun, then a father, was also worried. His two sons are naughty and don't like reading, so they insist on reading for fear that it will backfire.
Therefore, he decided to set an example to educate his children, starting with incentives and actively guiding them to make them interested in learning and turn harm into benefit. At first, Su Xun hid in the study and read books every day, sneaking around. When the children saw him, they hid the book and seriously warned them not to enter the study.
This completely aroused the curiosity of the two children. If you don't let us see it, we will. So, the two children tried their best to steal books from the study. In this way, the Su brothers also found the pleasure of reading, and gradually regarded reading as a habit, creating a Gemini miracle in the cultural history, and the Su family also passed on for seven generations. As Yao Wentian said in Qing Dynasty:
"Hundreds of years old curtilage in the world, is nothing more than doing good. The first good thing in the world is reading. "
For a family, the best heirloom is not to leave children a house, a car or money, but to teach them to read. We should know that family education is accompanied by children's life, and parents are their first teachers and lifelong mentors. A family that loves reading will benefit children for life.
Read more books. At first, we may be ordinary, but we are not ignorant. We may be busy, but we are not bored. Because it can not only broaden our horizons and increase our knowledge, but also cultivate our feelings with great men, learn from their wisdom and restrain our ignorance. There is no book in life that is read for nothing, and every page is valuable. Although we can't get rich at once, we can teach our children to find the answers to life and discover the truth, goodness and beauty of life through the knowledge in books.
Hear silence
There is a saying in the Tao Te Ching:
"What can be turbid static Xu Qing? Who can be calm and energetic? "
A cup of turbid water, standing still, will reach a clear state, and so will the family. It will be quiet every day, communicate more and make no noise, so it will not be so upset. Zeng Guofan, the "first perfect man", took seven exams before winning a scholar. But Zeng Guofan's family never scolded him, but always told him gently. As always, when supporting him in his studies, although his father is strict, he will communicate with him, telling him to take his time, take his time, and don't worry. If you don't understand the previous sentence, don't read the next one. Don't finish this book and don't continue the next one. Even Zeng Guofan went to Beijing to catch the exam, but he spent all his money if he failed. Zeng Guofan, who was penniless, also found his father's friend, borrowed one hundred and twenty pieces of silver and bought a set of twenty-three histories. You know, at that time, one hundred and twenty pieces of silver, with my father's income as a teacher, took two years to complete without eating or drinking. The father didn't scold his son for this "failure", but said calmly, you read these books well and I'll pay your debts. Since then, Zeng Guofan has worked hard to become a senior official in Beijing. No matter how many problems Zeng Guofan encountered in his life, he learned to communicate well and treat them calmly, which made the Zeng family spread for more than 200 years and continued to the eighth generation of grandchildren. There was no "black sheep".
It is said that communication is the source of world peace. Indeed, some families often quarrel over trivial matters because of poor communication, which makes their families restless. And a family that can communicate is often quiet and peaceful. Because they know that harmony is a way for a family to flourish. There is no need to speak loudly, because you can hear and speak softly. It's that you show your self-cultivation and quality. You don't need to be high-spirited, because you can see and walk gently, but you have grace and charm.
Home is a harbor, not too big, but very quiet. Although not gorgeous, it is thriving.
Look calmly
Some people say, "children will never listen to adults, but they will certainly imitate adults." Yes, as a parent, everything you say and do will have a subtle influence on your children. When you have an emotional breakdown, children will see if you are habitually reasonable or lose your temper at will.
If you use your mobile phone to brush videos every day and you are lazy and not motivated, how can you ask your child to study hard and be an enterprising person? You know, your children are what you are!
Liang Qichao, the most famous figure in China's modern history, is a politician, thinker and writer, but his greatest strength is not having these auras, but an excellent father.
In the field of educating children, he has his own experience, especially for children's scores. Liang Qichao was never angry because he didn't do well in the exam. He once won 16 in the Liang Sizhuang exam, which is particularly sad. After Liang Qichao knew it, he said calmly: Zhuang Zhuang's achievements are already excellent, even if he failed in the exam, it doesn't matter. Let's take our time. Even when children choose their major, Liang Qi is calm and respects their wishes very much. Unlike parents now, they only consider whether they can make money. Can they find good jobs? Focusing on children's grades, I can't wait to learn mathematics and physics in the first grade of primary school.
It is precisely because of this calmness that Liang Qichao's nine children can play according to their own wishes and finally produce three academicians, all of whom are outstanding. In the final analysis, family education is the best education a person can receive. In the face of life, children may be awkward at first, but as long as we take our time and don't worry too much, we will create a good growth space for our children.
You know, no one can shelter a child from the wind and rain all his life. A good parent should be calm and let the children learn to face the failure in life calmly and control the ups and downs of life easily.
The best feng shui for a family is to be calm, let the children be in their own time zone, take their time, take their time, as live high likes.