Mother represents tenderness, beauty and happiness. Mother is a beacon for children's growth and a signpost for children's life. The intimacy between mother and son is far more than that of father, because the child and mother spent ten months in the "intimacy period" and truly achieved "flesh and blood blending".
Mother's every move, every word and deed is an example for children to imitate. Mother's cultural literacy and moral literacy directly affect children's conduct. A kind mother, the child is also a very popular person, a well-structured mother, and the child is also a successful and broad-minded person.
Don't underestimate the influence of mothers on their children. Mother's thinking and habits have a "subconscious" influence on children. The world in a mother's eyes determines the world in a child's eyes, so a good mother makes a good child.
Below we know the story of Hu Shi's mother educating her children, which I believe can bring us some thoughts.
Hu Shi (189 1- 1962) has a very appropriate name and words. Modern famous scholars, poets, historians, writers and philosophers. 35 American PhD winners from China University. Shangzhuang, Jixi County, Anhui Province. Because he advocated the literary revolution, he became one of the leaders of the new culture movement.
Hu Shi's father is Hu Chuan, whose word is Tiehua, a tribute student in the late Qing Dynasty. He worked in three northeastern provinces, Guangdong and even the Zhili area in Taitung, Taiwan, and then left Taiwan Province because of the B-Africa War. Mother Feng Shundi (second wife) is 30 years younger than her father, and she is a good woman in the countryside. When Hu Shi was 3 years old, his father died. My 23-year-old widowed mother became the hostess of a large rural family, and gave her only son a careful education, that is, she persistently insisted that he should study according to her husband's instructions and strive to cultivate Hu Shi into a useful person.
When Hu Shi was 3 years old, he was educated with his mother in Shangzhuang, his hometown. 13 years old, left his mother to study in Shanghai.
Nine years of rural life had a great, profound and irreplaceable impact on his life.
In the article "My Mother", Mr. Hu Shi talked about his mother and said with emotion:
My mother is generous, good-natured, kind and gentle, and has never said anything that hurts her feelings.
She is concerned about everything and tolerant of everything. Eldest brother's daughter is one year younger than me, and she always eats and dresses like me. I had a little argument with her, and it was always painful. My mother always blames me and makes me do everything.
Later, both the eldest sister-in-law and the second sister-in-law gave birth to sons. When they are angry, they beat their children and scold them to vent their anger. While hitting, scold others with sharp words. My mother just pretended not to hear. Sometimes she can't help it, just quietly walk out the door. ...
Feng Shundi paid more attention to Hu Shi's childhood research. When he lived in Taiwan Province Province before he was three years old, Hu Shi's parents let him know Chinese characters and learned about 1000 words. When he returned to his hometown in Anhui, Hu Shi was only three years old and a few months old, but his mother was eager to learn and asked him to study in a private school opened by his fourth uncle. Because he was too small, he had to be lifted from the high stool of reading, but Hu Shi was interested in reading since he was a child. Of course, this was also Feng Shundi's good intention and played a great role.
The tuition fee for other children to attend private schools is only 2 yuan. Hu Shi's mother is eager for him to study, hoping that Hu Shi can have a good enlightenment education when he was a child. Therefore, the scholarship for Mr. Hu is particularly generous. It was awarded to 6 yuan in the first year, and then increased every year, and was added to 20 yuan in the last year.
Mother asked Mr. Wang to "read a book" for him. Every time he reads a word, he must say the meaning of a word. Whenever you read a sentence, you must say its meaning. Knowing the book to get the meaning, and avoiding "the young monk recites the scriptures-he has a mouth but no intention", makes Hu Shi more solid in his study than ordinary children. At the age of 9, he can watch the outlaws of the marsh, which opened a fresh world for him in the history of children's life.
He not only "read" many novels, but also "told" novels and told stories to his sisters around him. This kind of "speaking" forced him to translate the story of classical Chinese into Jixi dialect, which made him better understand the arts and sciences of ancient Chinese.
Feng Shundi is both a loving mother and strict father, and Hu Shi's "mentor" and "strict teacher". She never dotes on Hu Shi.
My Mother is the work of Hu Shi, a famous modern scholar and writer. It says:
My mother is the most strict with me. She is a loving mother and a strict father. But she never scolds me or hits me in front of others. I did something wrong and she just looked at me. I was frightened when I saw her stern eyes. The crime was not serious. She waited until I woke up the next morning to teach me a lesson. The crime is serious. When people are quiet, she closes the door, scolds me first, and then punishes me, or kneels down or wrings my flesh. No matter how heavy the punishment is, I am not allowed to cry. She taught her son not to vent his anger and asked others to listen.
When Hu Shi 13 years old, his mother resolutely sent him to Shanghai to study. Huizhou people have the habit of "leaving their hometown alone at the age of thirteen or fourteen" and send boys out as apprentices to do business. Although Hu Shi was the only son whose mother was young and widowed, her sensible mother did not shed a tear in front of her son and others when she sent her son on the road.
After Hu Shi arrived in Shanghai, he entered Meixi School first, then entered a middle school because of incomplete courses, and then transferred to China Public School. Hu Shi accepted a lot of new knowledge and ideas, and after some twists and turns, he went to study in the United States in the second year of Xuantong in Qing Dynasty (19 10).
At this time he was only 19 years old. As the date of his trip is decided by the government, he can't go home to say goodbye to his mother.
Hu Shi studied agriculture at Cornell University. After a year and a half, I switched to politics, economy, literature and philosophy, and then went to new york Columbia University to study philosophy. During the seven years of studying in the United States, Hu Shi and his mother could only keep in touch with each other. A mother is not allowed to tell her son when she is seriously ill, lest his son interrupt his studies. Not only that, the mother also lent money to her son to buy books.
Hu Shi once wrote in the Diary of Studying Abroad: "I am poor when I receive a letter from home. My mother even borrowed jewelry for the Spring Festival. Not only that, Song Huan's family has a book integration, but now the family is poor and willing to sell it to 80 yuan at a reduced price. My mother knew that I wanted this book, so she lent her son money to buy it. My mother suffered this embarrassment, and I still think about my son everywhere. "
19 17 In July, Hu Shi returned to China after studying in the United States and was hired as a professor by Cai Yuanpei, president of Peking University. In February of 65438+, she was ordered by her mother to return to her hometown and married a rural girl, Jiang Dongxiu. In July of the following year, Jiang Dongxiu went north to reunite with Hu Shi until he was old.
19181kloc-0/In June, Hu Shi's mother died of illness. The next day, Hu Shi received a telegram and took his wife home to attend the funeral. Hu's mother worked hard all her life and was disappointed to see her son become a successful person.
However, the grief in Hu Shi's heart is beyond words. In "My Mother's Travel", he wrote 36 words like this: "If you can't raise your life, you can't take it, you can't work at all, and your life and death are uncertain. Life is painful, why bother! "
An ordinary rural woman tries her best to let her children study and learn knowledge. Hu Shi's achievement can't be separated from his mother Feng Shundi's silent support. Children's growth is always accompanied by silent maternal love.
The great educator Suhomlinski said: "Every moment, when you see a child, you see yourself. When you educate a child, you are also educating yourself and testing your personality. " Because children have an instinctive dependence on their mothers when they are young, their mother's personality, language and behavior will affect their lives.
Hu Shi's mother's education to Hu Shi is strict and lenient, tolerant but not indulgent. This method not only protects children's self-esteem, but also gives Hu Shi a sense of right and wrong and learns to take responsibility. If you make a mistake, you must bear the consequences yourself. Hu Shi's mother didn't directly instill much knowledge into Hu Shi, but she valued virtue and set an example, always encouraging her son to study wholeheartedly and urging him to achieve something.
Hu Shi was gentle all his life and "looked on coldly" to the world. The formation of this character has a lot to do with his mother's influence. Some children are impatient, while others are patient. Some children are quiet, others are noisy; Children's personality is closely related to their parents. As parents, everyone wants their children to have good personality characteristics, peace, honesty and strong will. Parents should start from themselves and set a good example for their children.
Similarly, Mo Yan said frankly: My mother is the person I miss most at the moment. It can be seen that the image of his mother is so tall in his heart, and his mother's influence on him is so great! He once used three words to evaluate his mother: kindness, strength and tolerance.
Therefore, we can say that the mother's pattern is large, and the child's life path is wide. Since childhood, mothers have been subtly guiding children to know themselves, the world, life and the future, so in a sense, mother's education is the most "root" education.
The degree to which a child enjoys maternal love determines how high a child's happiness is throughout his life; How much education a child gets from his mother determines how high his achievements in life are. As the closest and most important person in a child's life, a mother should use your gentleness, your wisdom, your words and deeds to illuminate the child's life path.