On the surface, Confucius really told us to choose our neighbors to live in. But what if we have no choice? Before buying a house or renting a house, you can't know the neighborhood, and it's hard to know after living in it. There are four households in one staircase, six households and eight households. The neighbors basically don't know each other and don't even say hello. How can they "choose the right place"? In ancient times, there should be a lack of choice, such as the poor (poor scholars), it is not easy to choose a residence. Even if a rich man buys a villa, does your neighbor have benevolence? All this is unpredictable. In my opinion, what Confucius emphasizes here is not only the choice of neighbors, but also the warning of learning from others. Kindness in the heart is wisdom, and kindness is a gentleman. On the other hand, if you are heartless, even if you choose "benevolence", the result may not be good. Therefore, we should understand this sentence of Confucius from two directions: inward, let the heart "choose benevolence" and "treat benevolence"; Outward, we should pay attention to the influence of external environment on people. The focus is on the inner "benevolence" and "benevolence".
Unity of knowing and doing: I think of three small examples about the influence of external environment on people. One is my hometown community. It should be said that the construction environment of this community is very good, and there are scenery everywhere, especially the pools downstairs of the seven buildings where I live, which can be described as "a treasure trove of geomantic omen". The construction of the community is very consistent with the name of "Wuyi International New City". However, not long after 20 14 checked in, the pool became a convenient pool for residents to wash trash cans, electric cars, motorcycles and cars; What's more, on the 27th of the twelfth lunar month, the relocated households in Liu Dong set up a cauldron on the lawn to kill chickens and ducks, which stinks and the management office is helpless. So I thought, are you going to give up this community? The second is my parents' "demonstration" of two children. One day, I took two children out to play, and my son threw the used paper towels on the ground. I asked him how he could do this, and he said, "Grandpa always throws them like this!" " "I asked my father to stop littering like this. My father said plausibly," Why can't I throw it when others throw it? "I said," we can't control others, but we can promise not to throw them away. The important thing is to set a good example for our children! " "The third is the family influence of my students. We often say that "children are parents' shadows". As a teacher, home visits are essential. A family environment is in a mess, and children are not good-looking. In a clean family, children are relatively better. Although there is no theoretical support, it is a fact. As the saying goes, "those who are near ink are black, and those who are near ink are black", so "benevolence is beauty" should not only pay attention to the external materialized environment, but also the influence of the ideological and behavioral environment is often far-reaching, so parents must be cautious.
We often can't choose the external environment. Whether we choose benevolence or not depends entirely on me. The so-called "selecting benevolence" means taking benevolence as one's life goal, and "dealing with benevolence" means sticking to the ambition of benevolence all one's life and eventually internalizing it into the blood of life. On the issue of determination, the chapter "Yongye" will be discussed in detail, so I will skip it here. Let's talk about the benefits of "choosing benevolence" and "treating benevolence" to our lives-doesn't everyone want to get the benefits? From the immediate point of view, "selecting benevolence" and "dealing with benevolence" will really lose some so-called "benefits"-many years ago, an "expert" told me that my seat was not good and my colleague's position was good, so I tried to change with him. I was embarrassed. He gave me a "trick" and put a cactus or cactus on the windowsill behind my colleague. He will feel "comfortable" every day and will take the initiative to change with me in a few days. When I heard this, my first reaction was: I can never do such a thing! I didn't change it until I left that office, and there was no problem. Instead, it's smoother than before. Ceng Zi said, "People have good thoughts. Although the blessing has not arrived, it will be a far-reaching disaster. " So there is no need to care about immediate interests, and far-reaching disasters are blessings! Needless to say, there are many similar epigrams. What others say is what others say, and what others have experienced is what others have experienced. If you are really determined to "choose benevolence" and "treat benevolence", you will certainly be able to "prove the truth". Confucius said, how can you be considered wisdom if you don't choose benevolent government? There are many negative textbooks to prove Confucius' point of view. Go to Baidu yourself. Life is only a hundred years, and God can give us few choices. As long as there is "benevolence" in your heart, everything will be the best arrangement!