I once saw a clip about the position of mother in children's hearts. When children come home from school, the first thing they say when they enter the door is to call their mother. If he can't see his mother at a glance, he will ask his father, where has her gone?
Mother's words and deeds at home, every move, are imperceptibly affecting our growth.
A good pattern of mother brings us positive energy love, while a bad pattern will affect the atmosphere of the whole family and the normal physical and mental development of children.
Her attitude towards us and her love for us affect our character and our understanding of the world.
The film Spring Tide is about three generations of grandparents and grandchildren living together, and the mother's behavior affects her daughter and granddaughter. Her disagreement with her daughter caused indelible harm to her daughter. I watched the whole movie, and the atmosphere was very depressing.
Seeing this film brought some enlightenment.
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She left the best for strangers and the worst for the closest people.
Ji Minglan is a mother and a community leader. She is warm, considerate and amiable to the people in the community. If you don't like your daughter, either fight or scold.
She is very controlling, and the whole family atmosphere is very depressing and suffocating.
She cursed her daughter with the most vicious language in the world and insulted her daughter with the worst words.
While taking care of them, she asked her daughter for living expenses and called her shameless.
Guo Jianbo, irresistible, sat on the bed, angry, wronged and depressed. She doesn't quarrel with her mother, for fear of affecting her daughter Guo Wanting, so she can only bear it silently.
After her mother turned away, she vented her anger and clenched the cactus with her hand, which was covered with blood.
Mother's words are like cactus thorns, which plunge into her daughter's heart and hit the nail on the head.
Mother's language is like a knife, killing people without blinking. Knife kills people.
Mother is very friendly to outsiders. At home, she seems to be a different person, but the closest relationship is like an enemy.
The people closest to us are the people we need to take good care of and treat well.
Ji is in hospital. Guo Jianbo took her to the hospital. She took care of her and wiped her face and feet.
Her least favorite daughter gave her meticulous care when she needed it most.
Be kind to your family, it is our strong backing and armor.
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Injured by his family background, Guo Jianbo chose to be silent and take a negative attitude instead of actively solving the problem.
She confronted her mother in the most foolish way. Her mother hopes that she can find a good man and have a stable home.
She went against her mother. She is a reporter for a newspaper. When she was young, she got pregnant before marriage and didn't even know who her father was.
Mother hopes to find someone to marry and give her daughter a stable home.
She is rebellious and insists on opposing her mother.
In the film, the object introduced by classmates visited her home, and Ji introduced herself to the blind date, hoping to succeed.
In order to stop her mother from chattering, she sent WeChat to tell him that her daughter was pregnant before marriage, didn't know who her father was, and scared the blind date away with a cynical attitude.
The blind date man ran away, and she smiled proudly, like a prank.
There is a passage in her monologue to her mother. Ji Minglan blamed all her pains on her husband, so she was right.
This passage also suits her. She thinks that all the sufferings are given to her by her mother, so she is not wrong.
As an adult, she has the ability to choose her own life, because she was hurt in family of origin.
She can live without her mother, live in a dormitory with her daughter or rent a house.
She is an excellent reporter and has the ability to support herself and her daughter.
She said that when her mother scolded her, in order not to affect her daughter's growth, she chose silence, thinking that this would reduce the influence on her daughter.
What she did was inaction, and she treated it coldly with a silent and negative attitude, which could not solve practical problems at all.
As an adult, she made a mess of her life in order to resist her mother and hurt herself, which is irresponsible for her life.
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Try to make peace with the past and try to live again.
In Ji's eyes, her husband is a rogue. He ruined her life and was worthless in her eyes. Even if he dies, he will still curse.
No matter whether there are outsiders or not, she has no scruples about her daughter's feelings and insults and slanders him with the worst words.
Even my granddaughter said to speak ill of her husband in front of so many people, okay?
She doesn't want to let go of the past and reconciliation. Her life is full of resentment and negative energy.
She is irritable, depressed and unhappy every day. After her husband died, she transferred all her resentment to her daughter to vent her dissatisfaction.
She said that the family named Guo made her miserable and made her a slave all her life. Her husband is not good to her, life is very hard, and he doesn't want to live.
She has been living in the past, and the atmosphere at home is under her control.
She feels that everyone owes her, her marriage is unhappy, her daughter can't find a suitable object, and her granddaughter wants her to raise it. All this is caused by the Guo family.
She never thinks about her daughter's grades today. Isn't it her responsibility? Her resentment, her anger and her insults destroyed not a family, but the image of a mother.
Every bad word she said about her husband hurt Guo Jianbo deeply. Her father is perfect and competent in her eyes.
On the surface, it took her 40 years to punish her daughter. Every quarrel is a winner's gesture, but family is not a battlefield, and every victory is not glory.
For so many years, she didn't have a hard time with herself, lived in resentment of the past and never went out.
She can change her mind and face life. The past has become history and cannot be changed. Now you can control yourself.
We can't choose to come from a family, but life is up to us. We should face it with a positive attitude.
The past has become the past, make peace with the past and try to start a new life.
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