1. Listen carefully and open your child's heart.
Good parents follow the following principles when communicating with their children:
Step 1- Listen:
Let the children speak out and understand what they really mean.
Step 2-Understanding:
Whether it makes sense from the child's point of view, the result is often reasonable.
Step 3- Recommendations:
It makes sense that children may not be able to take the right actions, so parents should give advice here.
Listening is more important than reasoning!
Parents who know how to listen are pressure relief valves for family conflicts. A good listening parent is the greatest happiness in a child's life.
2. Speak well with your mouth and give your child the motivation to get better.
Psychological "south wind effect" reminds us:
When you strongly command and belittle children, children will only become more and more disgusted and resistant to you;
On the contrary, if you can speak in the gentle breeze and drizzle, and let children feel respect, understanding and tolerance, children will become more and more mature and sensible.
The so-called knife mouth is actually the knife heart.
Really effective education is never condescending preaching and criticism, but lowering your voice and instilling truth into children's hearts with continuous whispers.
Learn to speak well, praise what you agree with, encourage what you criticize, and respect what you oppose.
3. Look at the child with your eyes and find the bright spot in him.
Eyes are full of children's shortcomings, often parents have problems.
You can only see the child's shortcomings, and the child has really gone bad; The more you pay attention to your child's strengths and progress, the better the child will become.
Try to find out the advantages of children and give them positive encouragement. "It is better to teach one child than ten.
No matter how bad a child is, there is a good side. As parents, constantly discovering the bright spots, there will be fewer and fewer dark places, and children can be confident about the growth of sunshine, live high.
Every child has a side worth seeing.
4. Read the child, see the child and find the bright spot in him.
Every child is born with a blank sheet of paper, and both parents are painters. What a blank sheet of paper becomes depends on parents.
Practice your ears and listen, and you will have the ability to read your child's heart;
Practice your mouth and talk well, and you will gain a harmonious and intimate parent-child relationship;
Practice your eyes and see the advantages of your child, and you will get a child with fewer and fewer shortcomings.
In your five senses, there is your child's life feng shui. I hope every parent can be responsible for their five senses, keep practicing and give their children a bright future.