Hello! I am happy to answer your question.
If you insist on not giving birth, I don’t think anyone can do anything to you? After all, the initiative to have a child is in your own hands. If you have made up your mind not to have a second child, you must first convince your husband to side with you. After all, it is very hard to fight alone. If you want to convince your husband to support you, you have to make a detailed analysis of the overall situation at home with your husband: 1. Whether the family conditions allow it
We all know that the cost of raising a child is very high now, not just Just feed and clothe the children. In this age of trying to raise a child, parents spend a lot of money in order to raise an excellent child. If economic conditions do not allow it, then even if the child is born, at least he will lose in terms of training. You must know that a good financial foundation is the basis for considering whether to have a second child. 2. Do you have the energy to lead?
In this situation of the original poster’s friend, there should still be a strong preference for boys over girls in the family. When old people give birth to their second child, they will always say this: While they are young, while we can still help, while the baby is still young, we can take care of one child, and we can take care of two children. After giving birth to two children, we can bring them up together.
But anyone who has given birth to a second child knows that raising two babies is really tiring. Although the elderly help, they still have to take care of most things by themselves. The two children are too close in age, and if they both make trouble at the same time, the mother will be in a hurry, and sometimes she will even collapse; At this time, the energy is even less than before, and there is often a feeling of conflicting energy.
3. Life plans may be broken. Can the husband bear the burden of supporting the family alone?
Having a child will put all your energy into cultivating a child, and you will have more time and financial resources. When you have time, you can take your children and family out for travel to increase your knowledge, and moms can also have more energy to work hard in the workplace.
After a comprehensive analysis with my father, I wonder if the family has the conditions to bear the pressure of having a second child. Moreover, for a long time, my mother may not be able to contribute much to the family financially. Dad Can you support this family by yourself? Can you give your family a good life? Therefore, when considering whether to have a second child, you cannot rely solely on your feelings. Only when these conditions are met can you ensure that the couple will not have conflicts during the parenting process, and the child will not become a victim of the parents' poor decision-making.
Of course, for parents, we should also understand their painstaking efforts and try not to get into trouble with them over whether to have a second child. The best way is to convince each other. parents.
But if you can't convince your husband, he insists on having a baby, and if your family conditions permit, you can consider having one, so that it won't affect the harmony of the family.
The above is my answer, I hope it can help you. I am @心语Parenting.
Hello, I am @谢二毛 and I am happy to answer your question "What would you do if you give birth to a daughter and are forced to have a second child?"
First of all, I only have one daughter, and I was often urged to have a second child by relatives, friends and neighbors, and some well-meaning people tried to teach me the so-called secret recipe for having a baby, but I usually laughed it off.
If pushed too hard, I would respond like this:
1. I have a daughter and everything is ready for me. I will give birth to whomever I want. Don’t place your hopes on others.
2. It is easy to grow but difficult to raise. Will you help me support the person who gave birth? Or will you help me carry it? Don't keep your lips open and close without taking responsibility.
Regarding whether to have a second child, this is what I think:
First: You must really like your children and be willing to sacrifice for them;
Second: The family's economic conditions can support you in raising two children;
Third: The father must be helpful, and do not raise a widowed child;
Fourth: There is someone in the husband's family who can help at any time;
Fifth: Both husband and wife must be in good physical condition, otherwise there is no need to discuss anything.
If the above conditions are met, I will consider having a second child. After all, you are a living little life, and you must be responsible to the end. You must think twice before you act! ! !
I hope the answer is useful to your friends!
I also hope that she will not be swayed by noisy voices and listen to her true inner thoughts.
Hello, I am happy to answer your question. Your question is that you have a daughter and are forced to have a second child. What would you do?
Judging from this description, it feels like you were given another child because of the daughter you gave birth to.
It is said that I gave birth to a child before and I will have another child.
Maybe the other half of the family or the parents are suspected of favoring sons over daughters, or they hope to have another child so that they can have a son in the second child. Is this true?
I think this can be looked at from two points. The first point is that after you give birth to a second child, who will help take care of the child needs to be considered. In terms of finance, financial strength also needs to be considered. Consider it, if your parents can help you take care of it or your parents-in-law can help you take care of it, and you are relatively well off financially, I think, and if you like to have another child and you have this idea, I think it can be achieved. .
As for the second point, if you are asking your elders not to take care of your children just now, and then you are financially strapped, then I think I may not have enough energy. Then I think you still have to think carefully about it. It may not necessarily be necessary to have children, what do you think?
I think this is a question raised by someone other than you. I think we need to have a good discussion with him. Then, I hope to get their knowledge or hear what they think. Like, let's see if it's reasonable. If it's reasonable, you can definitely give birth to one. If you feel that I have given birth to a girl, it would be good if everyone can work together to raise and accompany her well. La, then I think you need to discuss this issue with your family before deciding what to do.
After all, it is difficult to carry a child for ten months. It is difficult for a woman. It is only ten months. The child is still in your belly. When the child is born, that kind of feeling As mothers, we all know the hardship and hardship. This is something you need to consider carefully.
Then you said that you just want to take good care of this child and do not want to have a second child. I think it is completely understandable. I think that since you have decided this way, then do this and take good care of this child. , don’t think about having a second child anymore. As for my husband, who is also on the side of my father-in-law and mother-in-law, I think we need to gradually communicate with him. I believe that as long as we communicate carefully, we will definitely get the other party's understanding, and I believe the communication will be effective.
A low-quality second child is not as good as a high-quality first child.
Thank you, I will say this today, I hope it will inspire you, thank you.
Maybe your friend is overthinking
Second child is now open
If you give birth to a son, you will be forced to have a second child
As for whether It’s your own decision not to have a second child
If conditions permit, that’s absolutely fine
Get the 1 million first and have the baby right away. After a woman gives birth to a child, she should take good care of herself and be kind to herself. Having money will give her more confidence.
I don’t know if it was your husband or your mother-in-law who urged you? I think this issue must be considered comprehensively
First, it depends on the physical condition. If the first child was born naturally and the body has recovered
Second, it depends on personal wishes, that is, you I also want to give birth.
The third one must be allowed by family conditions. After all, the most important thing when having children now is education.
The child is raised by oneself. If conditions (time, money) permit, you can consider having one. You live your own life, and your feelings as a couple are the most important.
Hello, I am @小秋parenting. This is how I look at this issue. It is always a woman’s own choice to have children. If someone urges us to have children, we ourselves If you don’t want to have a child, you must express your attitude even if you offend everyone. We are not living as a tool for procreation. We must have such courage and courage.
I myself also gave birth to a daughter. After I became pregnant, my husband’s family hoped that I would give birth to a boy. Indeed, many families with traditional concepts still believe that boys will continue the family line and have children to hinder old age. Therefore, after giving birth to a girl, they will be urged to get pregnant again and give birth to a boy. Once you give birth to a boy, everything seems to be fine, and it doesn't matter whether you want to have another baby or not.
After I gave birth to my child, there were always people around me asking me to have a boy. I always smiled and said that it was okay under certain conditions, and then changed the subject and talked about something else. If anyone It's very ignorant. If you want to talk to me in detail, I won't talk to you anymore.
In addition, I found that if a woman is independent enough, has money and status, and others need your help, they will generally not dare to interfere with your choices and decisions.
Your husband’s attitude is very important. Understand why his attitude has changed. Is this attitude firm or is it temporarily influenced by others? This may depend on your understanding of him and you should spend some effort to win him over. To unite with you.
In general, if you don’t want to give birth, don’t give birth. Remember that all decisions must be in your own hands.
The above is my answer, I wish you a happy life!
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Giving birth to a child requires a lot of energy and time. First of all, pregnancy in ten months is a long process. When the child is delivered, the confinement period is also a difficult process. Many mothers have just given birth to a baby. She is very weak, psychologically anxious, prone to negative emotions, and needs careful care. If there is someone at home to help take care of her, it will greatly reduce the burden on the mother, and she can recover as soon as possible.
The country now implements a policy to encourage two children. As long as financial conditions permit, you are healthy, your family relationship is harmonious, and you like children very much, you can consider having a second child. This way, you will not only have a companion but also have one more child in the future. Love your children.
If it’s just your family urging you not to have a baby and you don’t really want it, you must be willing to have the baby yourself and be mentally prepared to bear all the pressure brought about by the second child, so as not to have to worry about raising a child. Negative emotions arise due to problems in other aspects, which affect our own lives. Children are the best gifts given to us by God. We must love them unconditionally and let them grow up happily.
If you don’t want to give birth, don’t give birth. Otherwise, for a long time in the future, you will question why you have such soft ears. Why don't you stick to your opinion? Why not be firmer? !
Why do you say that?
Because taking care of a baby during pregnancy will be tiring and silly, there will be another painful delivery, and you have to endure the pain of confinement and breastfeeding, etc., and then you have to drag two babies! I can’t even think about it! If no one does the housework and the husband is lazy, will it make things worse? ! !
However, there are many benefits to having a second child.
1. Children have multiple playmates.
Although Dabao was not used to having multiple babies at first, and felt that a lot of the love and attention that belonged to him was taken away by the little ones, as time goes by and they eat and sleep together every day, they will soon be able to Mingle.
Dabao is also happy to have a little follower. Dabao points to the east, but Xiaobao will never go west; Dabao says one, but Xiaobao will never say two; Dabao asks him to play a game, and Xiaobao will definitely follow him. It’s really fun and warm!
2. Multiple children compete to promote self-management.
They compete to eat, help their mother do things, pack toys, etc. Both children are very active.
Although it will be very tiring to take two of them, I am still very happy most of the time.
3. When you are older, you can have more than one person to rely on, and the children can also discuss it.
As you get older and have more experience, you will feel that it is better to have more children! It was hard when the children were young. When the children grow up, and when you are old, you will know the benefits of having more children.
When you are young and strong, you can bear the hardships of raising a baby, but you will soon get better after having one more baby.
The questioner should think about it carefully. Don't think about having a second child when you are in your forties or fifties. It will be too late.
There is such a person around me. When she was young, everyone advised her to have a second child, but she didn’t want to. When I got older and had more life experiences, I wanted to have another baby, but unfortunately I couldn't get pregnant.
It is important to understand what age you should do what you do!