Now the eldest son and daughter are responsible for finding the right time to complete the burial for the surviving children as soon as possible. Tomb-Sweeping Day, a native of this province, has to go to two places to visit graves. This is a very complicated matter. Children should be present to contribute their strength. If they can't come because of illness, they should be filial and take out their share of the money.
You can pay someone to handle it, but your children must be present! This is the rule! Do your last filial piety for your parents.
I hope I can help you.