Perhaps the biggest highlight of this drama is the theme of "women", and it also shapes a transparent woman that everyone wants to be-Aunt Dai.
Also as transparent as the woman everyone envies and wants to learn in this play, and belongs to Ming Lan in Know? Every woman should learn a lot from these two women. If you are a woman and have a daughter, I suggest you watch these two plays, learn from them and live the life you expect, not the life you hate.
The role of Aunt Dai undoubtedly adds a lot of highlights to The Last Romance dramatically. There are not many scenes, but every time she goes out, she answers the questions as a "wise man" and gives the correct direction of life and "peace of mind".
Many women have lived all their lives and experienced many things, but they may not live completely. Some people just repeat it every day. All the past experiences only make her have a lot of complaints and dissatisfaction with life and spend her life in hatred and sadness. But few people can grow up and live a complete life through experience. Dai and he have too many similarities.
1, always look forward and don't regret it.
When Jiang's father lost his mother's house due to huge foreign debts and committed suicide by jumping off a building, Dai came back from Italy to help clean up the mess. This is undoubtedly the biggest blow to the three women who have been spoiled since childhood (Jiang's grandmother, Jiang's mother and Jiang), but at the same time, she has to face the biggest change in her life. Jiang's mother has been rejected by Grandma Jiang for more than 20 years because Jiang is a daughter and unpopular. But when her proud son committed suicide because he couldn't bear the weight of life, it was several women who took care of everything and lived by her granddaughter, only to know that men and women were not concerned about gender, but about the courage and ability to survive in the face of life.
After Dai returned to China, she said to her sister, Mrs. Jiang, who never did housework but only played mahjong and danced.
Dai reminded her sister and her grandson not to indulge in the sadness of the past. The past is the past, and the living should live their own lives. Although the previous life may not be so beautiful and complete, when there is a major change in life, they can decide what kind of mentality to face the future life, look forward to everything and have hope for the future, so that life will not feel too bitter.
The same scene happened to Ming Lan in Do You Know? Ming Lan faced his little grandfather's hesitation about his feelings, and he looked at his family back and forth, thus giving up his feelings with Ming Lan. Later, grandpa regretted it and came to Ming Lan to get back together. Ming Lan refused to see his little grandfather and closed the door to encourage himself:
I have to say that these two sentences by Dai He are enough to show that their first mentality in life is "looking forward". Scenery, regret, beauty and sadness are all in the past, and the past is like smoke. Why are you trapped in the besieged city and can't go out? Things change forever. You really never know what will happen next and what you will meet. Therefore, only by turning the next second into your own joy and living according to your own expectations is the greatest respect for life, and you can live and experience it all your life.
Step 2 be clear
Carrying clearly is the greatest survival magic weapon for both men and women to live well in the world.
Dai, whether in marriage, career or life, is a very sober person, and see what she says:
From everything Dai said above, we can see that she is a super rational person, helping her relatives to make a living instead of letting them rely on her, not insisting on marriage, fighting for her career wholeheartedly, enjoying the silence and loneliness of being rich for life, and keeping a proper distance from her friends, but she never hesitates when it is time to help.
Similarly, in Ming Lan of Know Me, we can also see that she is transparent to others. She married Gu, who is many years older than her. She manages a huge backyard with many servants, estates, houses and contracts. She also has to face the slander and framed by outsiders and jealous people. Without a wise mind and a transparent philosophy of life, how can she have a good family, a good marriage and a good life?
Ming Lan so carry clearly at an early age, of course, is in her childhood experience learned sense motive, conservative experience, see her say:
In addition, the ability to live a "transparent" life, of course, also includes arrogance, spiritual and economic independence, corresponding strong contacts, uninterrupted learning ability, eternal enthusiasm for life, rich ability to be alone and think quietly.
"Transparent" literally means clean and thorough. To be a man, we should have great wisdom, be able to see the essence of things clearly, be open-minded and calm, and know the world, so we are not worldly, analyze the root of problems from a certain height, do not feel sorry for ourselves, take past experience as the cornerstone, live in the present and look forward to the future.
There are two famous sayings in the Diamond Sutra called:
This is a philosophy of self-cultivation, which teaches people not to cling to the present gains and losses, not to think about the past, not to be afraid of the future, to live in the present and not to be stubborn.
And these two sentences in "Caigen Tan":
This means that people can't laugh at pot calling the kettle black, the sea of people ups and downs, the cycle of life and death, the cycle of cause and effect. All mortals will eventually finish this life wave after wave in advance, and today I will become him tomorrow. Who knows if he will be me tomorrow? Thirty years in Hedong and thirty years in Hexi are destined to be the normal state of life. The wind and water turn, why bother to embarrass others, despise others and think highly of themselves today. Things are unpredictable, and years are impermanent. Think about it, is there anything you can't put down on your chest?
Throughout thousands of years of history, how many things are not recurrent? Today, they won, and tomorrow, they will be returned. Win today, lose tomorrow; Today's low tide is another slide from yesterday's high point, and it will climb to the top again tomorrow. How can there be eternal and eternal victory, ups and downs, humiliation and embarrassment, watching the flowers bloom in front of the court, unintentionally staying, drifting with the flow.
This sentence means that there is nothing to see when people are alive or dead. The process of life and mind have completely disappeared. Whatever you care about and hate, put it down. You are like the handwriting written by a pencil, which will be erased by the eraser of time one day. There is no trace to prove that you have been here. What is your obsession?
When you want to open these questions, the word "transparency" will naturally be clearly visible in your mind, and things will not matter.
However, survival and life are, after all, mortal "battlefields". Pessimism does not mean doing nothing in life. Transparency does not mean that nothing is important, there are no requirements and there are no principles.
Like Aunt Dai Xi in "The Last Romance" and Ming Lan in "Do You Understand", it is necessary to clarify each role, what to do at each different stage and what to do well in each relationship: employees should work hard for every minute of their work, be responsible for the boss, be responsible for the project and be responsible for their own efforts and returns; Be loyal to your husband and family when you get married, enjoy your own love time after divorce, don't hold grudges, don't look back, don't stand still, move forward when it's time to move forward, don't hesitate when it's time to retreat, don't fall in love, and be firm when it's time to help, regardless of return.
For example, you can be a bridge, a crutch, an eye, a guide and a solid backing, but all your efforts are to hope that others will die one day, instead of being the support and backing of others, because everyone's life belongs to him, only to himself, and having a clear heart, a bright heart and a transparent life is the capital and source of a happy life.