What does it mean to put your horse before the wedding?

Han people believe in popularity and polytheism. There are door gods in the door, kitchen gods in the kitchen, bed gods in the bed and window gods in the window. There is even a threshold god on the threshold, because each has its own uses, so it seems that each has its own skills and needs to be respected. Therefore, when the bride enters the man's house, it is especially forbidden to offend all kinds of gods. In particular, the threshold is the most important place to be careful.

The bride must never put her feet on the threshold. It is said that it will offend the keeper. Threshold, also called threshold, is the boundary between a family, inside and outside the door, and outside the home. Usually, when someone enters the house, he should avoid stepping on the threshold, thinking that it is disrespectful to the owner, not to mention the bride's body is still suffocating and dirty. It is even more unlucky for the bride to step on the threshold. Is to step on the prestige of the in-laws, and even have serious consequences for the in-laws. Therefore, the wedding custom in Taiwan Province Province has the auspicious phrase "cross the threshold and live to be 102 years old", reminding the bride to cross the threshold instead of stepping on it or tripping.

In folk spoken language, threshold also refers to the ability to find tricks or take advantage. As the saying goes, "You don't know the threshold", "He is too smart to be fooled" and so on. From this perspective, the man is unwilling to let the bride step on the threshold and stand on it. In that case, didn't the daughter-in-law who just entered the door gain the upper hand and get a bargain? Who can protect her from the doorman? Where are the people in the door? Therefore, the man's house is the most taboo for the bride to step on the threshold.

Bride admission rules and taboos

The folk marriage in Henan takes the saddle as the door and lets the bride ride it, which is called "saddle riding". According to "Dream of China in Tokyo" and "Dream of Liang", there was a custom in Song Dynasty to let the bride cross the saddle and scale, which meant "peace". However, some women are strong-willed and often deliberately step on the threshold to resist the idea of husband power.

It has even become a custom for Tujia families in western Hubei to step on the threshold. When the bride stepped into the men's door, she deliberately stepped on the threshold and slammed on the railing with her feet. This situation also shows that women have a strong desire for their own liberation.

Dong people are used to holding weddings at midnight. When the bride walks to the man's house accompanied by the bridesmaid, everyone in the man's house must hide and not peek at the bride's entrance. Otherwise it will lead to family disharmony in the future. After the bride enters the door, she is not allowed to walk around at will An old woman with a full house of children and grandchildren gave her a small bucket symbolizing hard work and housekeeping. The bride entered the purlin with a bucket, placed it on the left side of the ancestral seat of the altar, and then sat next to it with her back against the pillar in the room, commonly known as "sitting in the middle pillar". After the bridesmaid comes in, the bride can leave the post and walk around informally.

These are the rules and taboos I brought to the bride-to-be. I hope I can help you.