On March 2012 14, organize XX class to hold a class meeting with the theme of "Correctly handling conflicts between classmates-what to do if you have conflicts with classmates, and what to do if your friends have conflicts with classmates". At the class meeting, the students actively spoke and discussed, showing how to deal with contradictions and disputes in all aspects.
Now summarize the students' methods as follows:
1. It is normal to have contradictions. It is inevitable that all kinds of things will happen between people, and there will always be unpleasant things, which will lead to contradictions. It's normal to have contradictions, but don't haggle over every ounce, learn to forget some trivial contradictions. Looking back, all kinds of major events in school recently were caused by trivial matters, which shows that students can't deal with problems yet. Therefore, if students are allowed to read more books and concentrate on their studies, they will improve their knowledge and quality at the same time. As long as students have quality and self-cultivation, the occurrence and intensification of contradictions will naturally decrease.
2. Learn to be patient and tolerant. Nowadays, students are so egotistical that they don't know that losing is a blessing. Therefore, we should start from the small things in daily life, let them know what is true tolerance and forbearance, and be able to have an understanding, restraint and tolerance mentality. "Remember people's strengths and forget people's weaknesses" is tolerance, and you can't cling to others' shortcomings. As long as people live in society, they will deal with all kinds of people. A tolerant person can tolerate people or things different from himself. Otherwise, arguing too much will only backfire and lead to a vicious circle. Tolerance and patience teach people how to be a man, how to live in peace and how to cooperate with others for common development.
3. Cold treatment. Calm will resolve contradictions and let students get through the crisis of contradictions. Remember: "it is a fool's behavior to solve problems by violence, which harms others and yourself."
4. When the contradiction develops to a deadlock, we might as well seek the help of teachers, parents and schools through the right channels. Through help, both sides of the contradiction can move from the brink of crisis to the situation of cooperation partners, which is what we usually call "taking a step back and broadening the horizon"
In the process of dealing with contradictions, both sides of the contradiction should adopt the method of "empathy" and put themselves in the other's shoes as much as possible. Criticize yourself first, then others.
6. Always remember each other's goodness
There is a story about two good friends traveling in the desert. A man did something to his friend and his friend wrote it in the sand. Then they moved on, and the man saved his friend's life, and then his friend wrote it on a stone. Out of curiosity, he asked his friend: Why is one thing written in sand and the other in stone? His friend said that my friend did something sorry to me, and I wrote it in the sand to make him disappear in my heart with the wind; My friend saved my life. I want to write him down on a stone as if he were in my heart forever. This story tells us that we should never keep contradictions in our hearts, but always keep others' help in our hearts.
Using bad words and deeds can alert the whole class in class, and learn lessons in the future to reduce the occurrence of contradictions and conflicts between students.
In this class meeting, the students learned a lot, and also learned a lot: there are many feelings in a person's life that are very precious, and one of them is "friendship". Bacon, a famous scientist, said: "Friendship can double happiness and halve pain." Li Bai also told us that although the Peach Blossom Pond is deep in thousands of feet, it is not as deep as the friendship of friends. So students, please open your heart to accept friendship, please hand over your heart and cherish friendship, and you will get incomparable happiness and wealth! Remember: the light of friendship is like fluorescence. The darker it is, the brighter it looks! In contact with classmates, teachers, parents and people in society, we should be tolerant of others. Everyone has his own advantages and disadvantages. Don't look down on others. We should respect him, help him, help others and bring happiness to ourselves. "Give someone a rose and leave a lingering fragrance in your hand."