The same sentence, different expressions, different attitudes, others' feelings are different, and different expressions give people great contrast.
There is a saying in our hometown: words are symbols of happiness, and words are also swords. This sentence has been affecting me. I didn't speak very well before, and I didn't get along well with teachers, classmates and friends around me, so I was misunderstood by others. Sometimes poor expression will annoy others, and the consequence is that others are tit for tat with you. So it is very important for us to say something nice.
Buddhism speaks love language. The language of love is not love, but kindness. Learn to speak this language. Kindness is to make others happy and speak with kindness from the heart. If there is hatred in your heart, even if it is a good word, others will feel differently. So well said, the heart must be kind.
Everything we say and do can be felt by others, but we can't hide it from anyone. Whether you show yourself sincerely or not is very important. Therefore, to speak the language of good love, we must raise the kindness in our hearts. Buddhism regards all beings as equal, let alone people. What a person can say has a lot to do with his inner cultivation. What people say with love in their hearts is certainly comforting.
Before, my inner cultivation was not enough, and my language expression was prickly, which often made people feel uncomfortable. In the temple, the human figure * * * comes into contact with people who worship Buddha, seek wealth, seek profit and argue right and wrong. After several years of exercise, I learned a truth. The purity of the temple lies not in the right and wrong between people and me, but in my own heart.
I have told many converted disciples to try not to go to places of right and wrong and try to avoid contact with people who are right and wrong. Because when we don't reach that level, we are easily influenced by the environment and the outside world.
To cultivate compassion, we should start from caring for a small life, from the grievances around us, and learn to think from the standpoint of others. We must cultivate our great compassion. As long as we are compassionate, we can speak a language that pleases others.
We also speak soft language in Buddhism. Is to speak acceptable language, don't give others * * * ingredients in it. Exercise in daily life, and gradually we will speak out naturally.
We should say words of encouragement. For some people who are about to lose confidence, we should encourage him, let him raise his love for life, work hard for a better future, and don't let him be discouraged. A person who has lost confidence needs our help very much. We shouldn't make it worse. Speak to the point, don't say too much, be useful, and don't use too many useful words.
We want to say a compliment. We should affirm and admire the help and achievements of others. Prabhadra prays to tell us that praise is coming. Buddha said that all living beings have Buddha nature, and all living beings have Buddha nature.
Therefore, while we are praising the Buddha, we are also praising every life, and each of us is the future Buddha. Even a small ant can become a Buddha when his karma disappears. So we praise everyone, every life. Sometimes praise is more useful than scolding us. I praise him, he will do the same thing well, and I scold him, he will not do it well.
Learn to praise others more in life, even praise others for their little progress. Praise is to make them study earlier and better. We should understand how the unhappiness in our life comes from.
Our Buddhism attaches great importance to speaking, so the founder Dade summed it up: repairing the dental industry is half the battle.
In Buddhism, there is a lie ring in the basic precepts. Don't lie, speak the real language. Sometimes telling the truth may hurt others and even cause tragedy. The founder Dade also showed that it is convenient to talk nonsense.
For example, in order to save others, such as hunters hitting rabbits, in order to save rabbits, we spoke untrue language, which is convenient for nonsense. Or maybe you hear the right and wrong between friends, but it will make others hate it. At this time, you will not tell the truth, but should tell a convenient lie.
If it is for your own benefit, be sincere and don't tell lies. "Four Disciplines" says that public is good, private is evil, and lying for yourself is even worse.
The first kind of nonsense is two tongues, telling right and wrong, making people unhappy and causing trouble to others. This is what every Buddhist disciple needs to stay away from. We should be ourselves, not to talk about other people's grievances, and not to make trouble. Talking about other people's qualities has nothing to do with our lives, and it will also cause trouble to others.
The second kind is called a bad mouth, which uses vicious language to talk to each other. Others may not do what they want to do, so they treat others with vicious language. People with high quality ignore you and laugh it off. Some will have bad consequences.
The third kind is yee language, dirty and low-level language, yellow jokes and yellow jokes, all of which belong to yee language. Because these languages may arouse other people's desires, cause improper behavior and cause social instability.
The Buddha is telling the truth, and we should try our best to repair the dental industry according to what the Buddha said. In our personal practice, we should use good language and avoid four occupations.
We should be ashamed. Why can't I become a Buddha and get praise from the world? It's because we didn't do well and didn't do enough. My language is not convincing. We should try to change ourselves, repent and amend the law.
We should cultivate kindness, let go, cherish the weak life and understand the value of life. You know, every life that is killed is as painful as being killed or cut off. We should pray and repent for the lives we have hurt.
Buddhism is about self-blame, karma. We hurt others, and other people's lives will hurt us. So let's not hurt others, think of others and cultivate compassion.
If we hurt others, we'd better have the courage to apologize in person. If we don't have the courage, we can confess to the Buddha first, and then go home and confess ourselves. If you don't regret it, you can't do it well in the future, and you will blame others if something goes wrong. One of the most practical teachings taught by Buddhism is repentance.
We can purify our body and mind through confession and cultivate a compassionate heart, so that we can all speak well and do well in the future and create a harmonious atmosphere around us. We can be born in a harmonious atmosphere, and I believe that each of us is physically and mentally happy.