These days, from time to time, when I'm upset, I just jump out and make trouble, which makes that dog restless.
I deeply know why women are the feng shui of the family, and my mother's mood is stable and the whole family is happy.
All the problems and worries come from frustration and deep frustration in parenting.
from time to time, my brother's fooling around, carelessness, untidiness, lack of hygiene, no desire to learn, overweight play, etc. make me very upset.
Although I know that children's normal emotions are also ups and downs, it is impossible for my low pressure to catch up with children's low tide without contradictions and wars.
Yes, I know. I can't stop talking about my child. The child has to put up with it. It's pathetic. Tears flow and flow. I'm either more angry. If there's anything you can't argue, just cry! Sometimes I feel that I am too cruel, and the children are like this, and I say! Shut up! Really can't scold the children!
There are three people today, all of whom gave me an epiphany!
One of them is the parents of the students in the children's interest class. She is simple, has a particularly good attitude and is particularly relaxed. In her words, if the child can get a double score, the school teacher will not bother the parents and have no homework, which is an extremely good thing. As for me, although I live a simple life, I think too much, and sometimes I am even anxious, which is not good for myself, my children and my family. Without homework, I am afraid that my child will not learn solidly. I feel that my child has problems. The teacher doesn't say anything, thinking that the teacher doesn't care. Maybe it's really not that serious and I don't need to tell my parents. Learning makes your mind better! Mentality determines everything!
There is another author who has spent several years successfully giving up yelling. Tell me, if the relationship between husband and wife is fine, we should understand "acceptance" well. Accept everything about children, accept children as they are, and lower expectations. Maybe everything will be much better.
Another one is my mother, who said that when she was a child, she was afraid of being scolded and beaten, so don't be fierce and beat children, they will be afraid. As long as they do their best, they will do better if they boast more. If you still can't learn anything well, it may not be the material. Just learn other skills to make a living, and don't push it too hard. I think I'm smart, but everyone has their own wisdom! !
By the way, there are parents of my children's kindergarten classmates, and she also gave me many epiphanies. Give children space to release their emotions and give them some free time, and children will be more conscious and manage themselves.
I really need encouragement when I grow up. Thank you for your encouragement!