The excavated hills and remnants are still symbols of a long time ago. In front of me, I dreamed of old residential areas, dilapidated basements and big warehouse full of things, all of which are symbols of the past. In real life, I repeatedly write my previous memories by writing freely, which is actually equivalent to taking protective measures to prevent memories from being forgotten. Writing is also a protective measure.
It is the embodiment that plants are cared for to let the plants grow. I once said that taking care of plants means taking care of myself, so my care for myself has come to fruition in my dream, and the tiger's tail orchid grows well, and the fig also bears fruit. That's great.
The front is in the house. An old lady came in to sprinkle water on the ground. I saw her going to clean up. I'll help find the mop. Actually, there is a glass scraper and a cloth mop. I told her. I didn't do it. I think this is her own business. If I mop the floor for her directly, she won't enjoy mopping the floor and cleaning up. In this, I braked my automatic flattery mode in time. Cleanliness symbolizes exploring oneself, cleaning up old things and releasing emotional energy of trauma. I'm observing the perspective. Who are those old ladies? When I was a child, it was the female elders who automatically flattered me the most, probably these elders.
In the past, I would automatically take on other people's emotions. I automatically identify with each other, automatically enter each other's relationship scripts, and cooperate with each other to complete the repetition of the relationship. The fragment of this dream reminded me that I began to realize that I could brake in time and keep a sense of boundaries.
I think everyone has their own choices. Whether to explore their inner world is up to you. This clip is to remind me not to rush to analyze others and not to interfere with the process of self-exploration of others. It is a great sense of accomplishment to choose to explore and discover yourself and gain something. If I give my analysis and hypothesis directly, it is to break through the border and interfere with others. But also robbed each other of their self-exploration and found their inner secrets to have fun.
I wanted to go shopping in my dream, mainly to buy food, but I didn't go because it was late. Going out, starting, returning, dreaming that these actions are always not smooth. For various reasons, I didn't take action and didn't reach my destination. This may be a symbol of my procrastination. I have many reasons.
The difficulty of procrastination lies in the state of indecision when you take action according to the plan. Of course, doing what is planned is not as comfortable as lying down and playing with your mobile phone. If you feel uncomfortable forcing yourself to do something, you can get into the state in 15 minutes at most as long as you start to act. The difficulty lies in distinguishing the uncomfortable feeling of forcing yourself to do something.
This uncomfortable feeling is very complicated and can be roughly divided into two situations. The feelings caused by these two situations are almost the same, but the logic behind them is different. Feeling confused leads to internal friction, indecision, self-doubt and self-blame.
One is the feeling of being intimidated by adults when I was a child. For example, children have fun and are in a state of flow. Parents see their children's carefree state, which triggers their childhood traumatic experience. Then interrupt the child's mobility, such as letting the child sweep the floor and coercing the child to say that he is willing to sweep the floor. The way to treat children is the carrier of intergenerational transmission of family trauma. Children should verbally agree, do things with the anger of being interrupted, the injustice of being forced to verbally agree, the shame and self-blame of having to yield to authority. When this happens many times, it becomes the same psychological process as conditioned reflex. Once the child is an adult, once colleagues or leaders arrange things, this part of traumatic emotions is triggered, causing so-called procrastination and internal friction.
Even if the child does what he plans as an adult, it will cause sadness at the moment when the plan reminds him to carry it out step by step At this time, it is still in a dilemma. If you do things according to your own plan, you must relive that inexplicable anger and shame; If you don't do something, you will blame yourself later, because if you don't carry out your plan, you are a lazy person and a waste.
The difficulty is that when you start doing things, you can't tell the uncomfortable feeling from the uncomfortable feeling. All we can do is make sure that the current action is my own plan. Is it in my overall interest? If it is your own plan, rather than being forced and kidnapped by others, then you will start to do things with a bad mood, and it will take 15 minutes at most to enter the state. This is my latest understanding of procrastination.