Have you noticed that the status of Chinese women is getting higher and higher?
In fact, it can be seen from the family. In the past, women would generally call their husbands "the head of the family" and he was an out-and-out "virtuous wife". But what now?
In many families, the husband obeys the leadership of his wife, which is completely reversed.
To be honest, in the past, people's thinking was indeed feudal and traditional, which led to the low status of women. However, the times are progressing. What can truly prove that the times are progressing is not that women are strong and men are weak, but that men and women are equal.
Especially in marriage, the best relationship between husband and wife should be equal, where two people respect each other and still retain themselves.
Of course, there is no doubt about the influence of women on the family and marriage. Perhaps we have to admit that women are often more important to the family than men.
Otherwise, there would be no saying that "women are the best feng shui in a family".
When it comes to family, we have to mention the three things of blessing, fortune and luck. Today we will summarize what kind of woman or what kind of characteristics a woman will bring to a man. Have a bad impact.
Don’t believe it, women who “lost their husbands” generally have these same characteristics!
First, he has a strong desire to control.
Once a woman's desire to control is too strong, she will inevitably become strong, domineering, arrogant, and even unreasonable.
I have lost basic respect for my husband, and am self-centered in everything. I easily deny other people’s suggestions and ideas, wanting to consolidate my position and achieve absolute supremacy.
No one is allowed to refute or resist themselves.
In other words, if you want to firmly control others in the palm of your hand, you must obey your own words and force others to act according to your wishes.
You must know that human thoughts are not controlled and cannot be controlled.
If things go on like this, men will either slowly lose themselves and lose the ability to think independently, or they will take the initiative to initiate a war between husband and wife because of their dignity, leading to exhaustion.
Second, being high-spirited and arrogant.
There is a saying that goes like this:
“A long-lasting and harmonious couple depends on the wife’s adoration and admiration for her husband. Once she no longer recognizes her husband, then Such a marriage has reached the point of survival."
For men, once they cannot be recognized and affirmed by their wives.
Over time, he will have no self-confidence and will fall into a long road of self-doubt. It is also very likely that he will never recover due to the blow from his wife.
Confidence is the foundation of men. Men who lack self-confidence usually lose their most important masculinity and find it difficult to achieve success in their careers.
A woman who prefers to be arrogant is always looked down upon and looked down upon by no one.
I always think that my husband is not worthy of me, so in daily life, there will be all kinds of blows, scolding, accusations and ridicules, which is fatal to a man.
Third, think only about yourself.
A selfish woman is like a bottomless pit that can never be filled, and will slowly empty out a man.
To be honest, it is really tiring to get along with such a woman. You have to constantly satisfy her and fulfill her. Once she is dissatisfied with something, she will definitely let you go. No peace.
I lose my temper with you randomly and vent my inner dissatisfaction wantonly, without considering the consequences.
Such a woman is also ungrateful, never remembers your kindness, and always takes others' kindness to her as something she should be doing.
Be nice to her ten times, and your kindness will not be remembered. Treat her badly, and your kindness will always be remembered.
No matter how much you have treated her sincerely, if there is one bad thing, all the good things you have done to her before will be negated because of that bad thing.
They only care about themselves in everything, only think about themselves, and do not respond to, cherish, or be satisfied with the contributions of others.
More likely, she only has her natal family in her eyes and heart, and will never regard you as her own family. Only her natal family is her family, and she has no bottom line to help.
Fourth, I am very greedy for enjoyment.
Those who spend money lavishly and are too greedy for enjoyment are, by nature, indolent, vain, and lazy.
I want the best in everything, but I am unwilling to work hard for it myself.
My desires must be satisfied by my husband. I am not aware of my harshness, let alone my selfishness.
I don’t care how hard it is for my husband to make money, and I don’t care about the future of the family. My daily expenses are not directly proportional to my income, and I have a very strong sense of vanity.
Generally, people like this don’t want to see others living better than themselves, otherwise they will easily become jealous.
Once a man cannot satisfy her vanity, he will inevitably compare his husband with other men outside, then attack him, criticize him, and belittle him to the point of being worthless.
Fifth, the vision is very short-sighted.
A man’s success is definitely not accidental. It depends on his personal ability and luck, but it also depends on his wife’s support.
Women who are short-sighted and short-sighted can only see some immediate benefits and do not understand long-term investment, and they never think there is anything wrong with themselves.
No matter how assertive a man is, he cannot be immune to his wife's influence.
Why? At the very least, when his wife disagrees with him to do something, he will have scruples in his heart, which will prevent him from showing off his talents.
It's normal. He would think that once he goes against his wife's wishes, he will definitely quarrel with himself when he gets home, and the whole family will not be in peace again, so he finally wants to forget it.
So it will bring a lot of burden to men.
Generally, women like this also like to care about everything, restricting men’s social interactions and not allowing him to interact with relatives and friends.
For this reason, a man not only has to endure her nagging and belittling, but when he wants to prove himself, he still doesn't get her support. Instead, she is the first to throw cold water on him.
Sixth, causing trouble outside.
In fact, you should often see news like this online.
It’s nothing more than some rich ladies and official wives who are arrogant and domineering outside. They just don’t know the heights of the world and think that the world belongs to them, so they cause some troubles.
At least it will be settled by paying some money, but at worst it will affect the husband's future and career.
But for ordinary families, there are usually character problems, and some disasters caused involve the family.
As the old saying goes, disaster comes from the mouth.
Such a woman likes to talk about others behind their backs and gossip, or she just likes to see other people’s jokes, eager to make others laugh, causing trouble and deliberately provoking others.
What’s more, she is very scheming and scheming, with a darker heart and is good at calculations.
Seventh, you have bad habits.
For example, gambling. Although he was living a good life, he became addicted to gambling and got out of hand.
This kind of person is generally not something you can persuade. If she refuses to accept your favor, she will resent you for it. Especially if she complains in good faith behind your back, it will make her resent you.
If you win, you still want to win, if you lose, you still want to make money, endless and endless.
There is such an example around me. I had a house and a car, and my life was extremely comfortable. As a result, she owed a huge debt due to gambling. After her husband helped pay it off, she still refused to change her ways.
Hiding it from her husband, the debts she owed outside were increasing, and it had snowballed.
Despite the sincere repentance and vows made at the time, before long, my heart started to get excited again, and I just felt restless.
The above is a summary of the seven characteristics of women who lose their husbands.
To tell the truth, husband and wife have the same interests. In the final analysis, it is not the husband who loses, but also herself. Husband and wife are inherently both prosperous and disadvantaged.
Have you noticed that generally women like this don’t have a good life?
And they like to complain very much, which makes them even worse. Maybe they were okay in the past, but as a result, they are getting worse instead of getting better.
Women are the soul of a family and can be said to directly determine the future of a family.
When a man marries a wife, he must not be careless in this matter. Once he marries the wrong wife, it will not only affect his own happiness in this life, but also his parents and children.
The famous emotional teacher Tu Lei once said:
"Such a woman should be regarded as a treasure. She is a whip for men when they are proud, a pillar for men when they are poor, and a pillar for men when they are in trouble. A nail when you are confused, a spoon when you are hungry!”
This is a woman worth marrying, a woman with a prosperous husband, a “noble man” who can bring you blessings and good luck! .