However, among many long-distance lovers I know, few people break up just because of distance. Contradictions between long-distance lovers are also reflected in ordinary couples, and there are not as many uncertain factors in long-distance love as expected.
Long-distance relationships break up for many reasons. Here, I will share with you the ways and skills of getting along with long-distance love, based on the situation of a previous netizen, Xiao Lu. Xiao Lu was chosen because his situation is really complicated, not only in different places, but also involving his girlfriend's new love.
Xiao Lu told me that he had been with his girlfriend for six years, but in the end his girlfriend was with someone he had known for six months. On the one hand, he is unwilling, on the other hand, he really loves his girlfriend, so he wants to ask me for help. After further communication with Xiao Lu, I found that his problems with his girlfriend can be summarized as the following two points:
0 1. Lack of effective communication weakens the fun of life.
For couples in love, especially couples in different places, I have always stressed that we must pay attention to communication. Communication is the lubricant of feelings, but Xiao Lu just committed the taboo of lack of communication in long-distance relationship. Because of the distance, long-distance love is inherently lacking in enjoyment in life and cannot appear in time when the other party needs it.
Xiao Lu always thinks that video calling with his girlfriend every day is communication, but the content is boring, which turns communication into a mechanical behavior of punching in at work, and it is impossible to distinguish effective communication from ineffective communication. As a result, there are more and more disputes with his girlfriend. Lv Xiao is always ready to fight the cold war and often quarrel. Xiao Lu stops talking, leaving his girlfriend alone on the phone.
02. Lack of future planning increases instability.
Besides communication problems, what my girlfriend can't stand most is Xiao Lu's perfunctory attitude towards their future. I also talked to Xiao Lu. What women are most afraid of in a long-distance relationship is waiting in the foreseeable future. In my conversation with Xiao Lu, we can also see that what he said most was "I'll think about it when it is stable", except waiting. This attitude of not knowing how to be responsible for the future of both sides is a sign of no sense of responsibility in the eyes of women.
Xiao Lu said that his girlfriend soon found a new lover. In fact, it is not because his girlfriend has found a new home, nor because he is completely indifferent to Xiao Lu, but to convince himself that "it is right to break up" and fall into a tangled and hesitant relationship.
Of course, everyone's situation is different. The situation in Xiao Lu is just a reference, which can help friends with similar situations. However, in order to really solve the problems in long-distance love, these suggestions are still not enough. If you want to maintain your feelings better, you should pay more attention, understand each other more, communicate more and increase your feelings.