Children feel ashamed of their parents' work, even hate their parents and feel that they have no face!
In the hit drama "School of Youth", Lin swore at his father because he disliked his father's professional humiliation, and boarded a hot search in Weibo, causing public outrage among netizens!
Lin Dawei, the protagonist in the play, lost his job in middle age and finally found a job in a funeral home.
And my daughter Lin quarreled with her former best friend at school and was ridiculed for it: you don't know that your father works in a funeral home, do you? ?
Lin, who felt humiliated, came home and saw his father pointing at his nose and asked loudly, David Lin, why are you embarrassing yourself? ?
Mother Wang Shengnan quickly explained to her:? People have to do everything, and they have no face. ?
But she didn't listen at all and asked her father to resign immediately.
Father David Lin resisted embarrassment and pretended to let his daughter eat first. As a result, I patted Lin's hand directly and refused to let him eat, because he was dirty.
I believe many people have experienced it during their growth. They are ashamed to let their parents appear at the parent-teacher meeting, afraid to talk about their parents' work with their classmates, and even feel inferior. When they get home, they will lose their temper with their parents who have worked hard all day.
It never occurred to me that parents choose this just because they want to give their children more? Indecent? Work.
So, what kind of works can make children feel long-faced and proudly mention it to everyone?
There is a post on Zhihu that says:
Parents set up stalls, mainly selling egg cakes. Every time he fills in his family information, he has to bite the bullet and write? Self-employed? But when his classmates asked his parents what business they did, he was afraid to tell them. Every time he is vague and perfunctory.
Once after school, he saw his parents setting up a stall at the school gate. Embarrassed, he pretended not to know them and walked away with his head down, fearing that his parents would stop him when they saw him. Once teachers and classmates know, they will definitely look down on him.
He can't help asking for help on the post bar ~
I think parents will feel guilty and uneasy if they know that their children are so inferior and troubled by their careers.
How to guide children to accept their share? Indecent? What's your occupation? To solve their problems? This is the most concerned issue for every ordinary parent.
1. Tell children that every job deserves respect.
Treating every job equally is easier said than done.
In The Tale of Teenagers, a little boy named Li Renzhi publicly confessed to the deliveryman's mother on the rooftop:
She gets up early every day and is greedy for the dark, not afraid of the wind, rain and sun. My mother works very hard, but many people don't respect my mother's career, can't see her sweat, and often give bad reviews for no reason.
Speaking of this, the little boy didn't dislike his mother, but he was filled with heartache. He said that because he is distressed by his mother, he will also be distressed by the same hard-working sanitation workers; Because I hope everyone will be kind to my mother, she will smile at the sanitation workers.
He is not ashamed of his mother's work. Instead, he thinks her mother is great, serving the people and worthy of everyone's respect.
Hearing these accidents, my mother burst into tears. She once thought that her children would dislike her work, but she didn't expect her children to be so sympathetic.
They can do this because they really think that their work is not inferior, and they can get a sense of accomplishment from such work.
Whether you are a sanitation worker, a cleaner, a bather, etc. Don't worry, tell your child boldly: this is not a shame! There is no distinction between high and low occupations, and every occupation is indispensable to society. ?
A job, where it comes from, is divided into three or six grades by narrow-minded people. But every job has its meaning. As long as you work hard, there is no shame in not stealing or robbing.
2. Take the children and experience the fun of work together.
Pale words may not make children really understand the value of their parents' profession. The best way is to take children to experience the nature of their work when conditions permit.
In the parent-child dialogue program "Teacher Please Answer", a single father-Zhou Dad was invited.
17 years ago, when negotiating a divorce with his wife, he chose to lead an honest and clean life in order to get custody of his children. Shortly after the divorce, he was cheated out of 6.5438+0.48 million.
Become overnight? A millionaire? In order to support his children, he began to work day and night, scrimping and saving money.
Even in order to avoid medical expenses, he refused to listen to the doctor's advice, pulled out his dead teeth from the rearview mirror and gargled with mineral water.
Grandma, who takes care of her children's daily life, thinks that children are still young and should not worry about things at home and choose not to tell them. Dad, who has been away all the year round, doesn't want to tell them these things because he feels indebted to his children, for fear that the children can't bear it.
Relatives have been using it? Protection? Self-righteous in the name of excluding children from their own world? For him? Can make him grow up carefree. And how can these children who live in beautiful fairy tales understand the difficulties in life and accept their parents' opinions? Indecent? And then what?
This boy, who was at odds with his father and threatened to sever the relationship between father and son, didn't know his father's efforts to support this family and give him a good material life until he learned of his father's difficulties. His eyes were red, and he smiled at his father for the first time.
Later, he ran a distance from his father, and he understood that everything his father did was for this family. Moreover, this job is not humble, it requires superb driving skills and rapid adaptability, which is not up to casual people.
By sending goods from afar to every household, people smile at the moment they receive the goods. This is the meaning of dad's work and can bring happiness to others.
Only by letting children experience and feel their parents' work can he truly understand the significance of this job and sincerely respect their parents' profession.
As parents, we should change our self-concept.
Many times, children don't understand the quality of their parents' work. Parents' work performance determines their children's later attitude. Because many times, as parents, we always bring adults? Colored glasses? Look at things and feel inferior because of work.
I have seen a short advertisement in Thailand, which tells the voices of three parents and their children who are working hard at the bottom of society.
When asked what they are most afraid of, their answers are surprisingly consistent. I'm afraid my children will think why my father/mother does such a despicable job. However, even if they feel inferior and blame themselves again, they never want to give up in order to give their loved ones a better material life.
But in the eyes of children, everyone thinks that parents are the best.
Dad is great! In order to support the family, we can eat and sleep, just to earn more money to support us. ?
Mom is fine! Although we can't afford to read, she really loves us. I don't think I will be happier when I am someone else's child.
Although my mother's feet are defective and I am often laughed at by my classmates, in my heart, my mother is the biggest hero. I know she works hard, but she never complains ?
Parents will feel sorry for their children because of their humble work. But in children's minds, parents are the greatest superman in their hearts and can always create a better life for them by their own efforts.
Every parent who works hard for his life should stop being ashamed of his work. Please tell your children your work loudly, face them with a peaceful attitude and influence them with a positive attitude.
Establish a correct concept of career choice for children? As long as you don't steal or rob, as long as you work hard again, even if you are humble, you can speak proudly. ?
Those who have a harmonious parent-child relationship, no matter how humble their parents' occupations are, children feel that their parents are the best and follow their example; On the other hand, if the parent-child relationship is not good, parents have a successful career and a high social status, children will not be proud of their parents. ?
Different people have different views on the definition of work. No matter whether it is a sanitation worker or an entrepreneur, no job is inherently superior. But every parent can become the greatest pride in their children's hearts by their own efforts!
As parents, what we should do is not to build a shelter for our children in the name of protection, but to water them with love and trust and plant a seed in their hearts that can look directly at any suffering.
Decent job, high income, and? If it wasn't for you. More importantly, parents can tell their children whenever and no matter what happens. It's okay. Everything has mom and dad? 、? We will always be by your side, doing our best? .
I believe that parents can nourish their children with love and companionship, and they can also respect and understand their parents' career!