Wealth is not born, what kind of person you are will attract what kind of feng shui.
When you change your mind, be silent in the trough, be gentle in the hardship, and be virtuous in the down and out, your destiny will change quietly.
Just work hard for the rest of your life and make your own arrangements.
Few words are expensive.
I ching said: "lucky people talk less, impetuous people talk more."
The more peaceful your heart is, the slower you speak.
Really smart people know how to think twice. Words are faster than brains, and speaking without thinking will only bring disaster.
Zeng Guofan, when he was young, also planted his mouth several times.
He often calls a spade a spade, mocking classmates and friends as inferior to himself, seizing the opportunity to make friends with colleagues and showing his abilities everywhere.
As a result, I offended someone once and I didn't know it.
Until one day, in the court, facing the newly enthroned Emperor Xianfeng, he blurted out the accusation: "Small things are smart, big things are confused, and they are only cosmetic, not practical."
Emperor Xianfeng was furious and wanted to punish him. Fortunately, other college students tried to defend themselves to avoid being convicted.
After this robbery, he suddenly woke up. He made a remark that "you can't do things with your heart and you can't talk with your mouth", reminding yourself to keep in mind that you should be steady and speak slowly.
Since then, Zeng Guofan has been particularly cautious.
According to historical records, after Zeng Guofan's speech, he must have been said after others had finished, and he said, you have to prepare ten sentences, otherwise it will be an ice.
Because of this, he was able to become one of the few people in history who served as Lord of Gao Zhen, but died a fair death.
Plato said: "a wise man speaks because he has something to say;" Stupid people talk because they want to talk. "
A wise man speaks with his head; Fool, talk with your mouth.
Before you speak, slow down three points, keep a clear head and keep your thoughts smooth, so as not to say irrational words that you regret.
? Wang Langya, the "first noble family in China", experienced dynasty changes and lasted for thousands of years, creating the miracle of three saints and thirty-five prime ministers.
In his family training, the first rule is: speak slowly.
The depth of the water slows down the flow, and the late words are expensive. Keeping your mouth shut is keeping your blessing.
All reliable people have these two characteristics: speaking slowly and being calm.
Lu Xun said: "once people understand, they will become silent, not because they have no ability to get along with others, but because they are not interested in playing tricks on everyone."
There is no real empathy in this world. I used to be eager for someone to share, but now I learn to digest it alone.
You can be ambitious, but you must keep a low profile.
If people are deeply involved in the noise, all they see is trouble, and only when they calm down can they meet the phoenix.
Before the light shines, we all have to spend a quiet time, either growing up alone or healing in the dark.
Soft people have money.
There is a story in Aesop's Fables:
The sun and the wind argue about who is the best.
But no one can convince each other. Finally, they agreed that whoever takes off the clothes of passers-by first is the best.
Next, the strong wind puffed up his cheeks and blew hard, but the more he blew, the tighter passers-by wrapped his clothes.
The sun gently sprinkled sunlight on passers-by, getting warmer and warmer, and slowly pedestrians took off their coats.
Being gentle and kind is more powerful than demanding, and being too tough is often counterproductive.
Forced pressure, only yield; Soft, but what you get is faith.
Zeng Guofan, who has just entered the officialdom, has a sharp edge and likes to be tough when he is in trouble. On the surface, it seems that the dust has settled, but in fact it hurts the harmony and loses people's hearts.
Finally, I was finally deprived of my military power and went home in a mess.
During that time at home, he repeatedly introspected and realized that it was too rigid and easy to fold, but it was soft and lasting.
When dealing with people, we should not be soft and tactful, we can advance and retreat, and we are doomed to failure.
After his comeback, he was low-key, modest, gentle and polite, and brought the word "soft" to the extreme.
In order to ease the relationship with Zuo, as a coach, he chose to go on foot to show his sincerity.
Go to him, in the face of Zuo Fu only opened a side door of spite, he calmly walked in, an enter a door to look at yourself.
Because of this, his later popularity, popularity and career are invincible.
There is an old saying: Shui Rou is strong, and it benefits everything without dispute. Water is the king of all valleys, and it is good at it.
Softness is never cowardice, but a strength, a mind and a pattern that penetrates people's hearts.
Be gentle with people and things, and you can beat the big with small ones.
When you have a soft heart, impetuousness will fade and happiness will grow.
Morality and honesty make people prosper.
As the saying goes, lucky people have their own nature, and virtue helps them.
I.M. Pei, a world-class architect, was born in a famous family in Suzhou.
People say that they are not rich for three generations, but the Bayesian family is rich 15 generations, and the population is still prosperous.
All this comes from the ancestors' insistence on the word "xian"
The first generation of Bei family made money by setting up stalls, selling herbs and practicing medicine.
Because of their kindness, they gradually became famous and opened a pharmacy in Suzhou.
One day, a robber robbed at home late at night, and the first reaction of the Bay family was to transfer the customer's money.
The medicine was robbed when the robbers left, but the customer's money was well protected.
Later, Bei Jia developed into the largest pharmacy in Suzhou, and his granddaddy Bei Muting still insisted on charity.
When there was a shortage of rice in the disaster year, merchants drove up prices and made huge profits.
Beimuting, on the other hand, sold the stored grain to the people at a low price of two-thirds of the market price.
At the age of 65, Bei Muting was seriously ill, and he donated a lot of property to the poor around him.
After doing these things, he said happily, "I have nothing to worry about, so I can close my eyes."
Bei family always puts the moral character of being a man in the first place and often educates the younger generation:
"It is better to bequeath children by virtue than by virtue; It is better to bequeath public property to children and grandchildren than to bequeath unique property to children and grandchildren. "
Although wealth has been passed down from generation to generation, the Bei family still requires their descendants to work hard, and there has never been a "playboy walking in a cage".
The so-called feng shui is good, that is, a family has a profound heritage, can withstand great twists and turns, and there is no disaster.
With deep roots and luxuriant leaves, it will become a towering tree; Only with a kind heart can there be eternal happiness.
In a family, the most prosperous feng shui is to accumulate virtue, and the most expensive wealth is to do good.
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Writer Bi Shumin said:
"Trees can't grow too fast. One year as firewood, three years and five years as tables and chairs, ten years and a hundred years as pillars. Therefore, it is necessary to increase the depth and wait for time. "
A man's fate lies in his persistence.
Speak slowly and raise your spirits;
Soft nature has its own blessings;
Virtuous and prosperous offspring.
Time is long, so take your time. The quieter we are, the more we can go upstream.