There is no special conclusion about couples sleeping separately. Usually, people take men's left and women's right as the standard, but s
There is no special conclusion about couples sleeping separately. Usually, people take men's left and women's right as the standard, but sleeping in bed at ordinary times is mainly determined by convenience and habit.
We have been married for more than 40 years, and we really haven't considered who sleeps on the left and who sleeps on the right.
I just got married in the countryside and slept on the kang. The countryside is a heated kang. At that time, in the countryside, men used to sleep on the kang. Later, I had a child, and my status plummeted. I moved from the kang to the kang, and the child took my seat.
Later, when I went to town, the children were all older and lived in separate rooms. The wife is in poor health and can't move easily. Our housing area is relatively small, and the bed is placed against the wall. It's inconvenient to get up and down in bed. My wife sleeps outside and I sleep inside.
Under normal circumstances, men sleep by the door and their wives sleep inside, mainly for safety. Considering that the buildings where I live now are all security doors, and there are people in the house, it is not easy to break the door and lock it, so it doesn't matter where I sleep. However, whenever there is a knock at the door, I will answer it.
It doesn't really matter who sleeps there. As you wish, it is very convenient.
Huangdi Neijing says that both men and women have yin and yang attributes, and the left and right are endless meridians of yin and yang. The male belongs to Yang, the left side descends and the right side rises, and the human energy field rotates counterclockwise. Female is yin, the left side rises and the right side falls, and the human energy field rotates clockwise.
The energy fields of people, animals and plants are also rotating. Rotation can receive and transmit energy through the exchange of gases. Why are men left and women right? For example, the transfer of qi from male to female can form a downward convergence field, which has a favorable impact on health; However, the qi flowing from men to the right and women to the left forms an upward divergent field, which has a negative impact on health. Therefore, it is best for couples to follow the rule that men are left and women are right when sleeping in bed.
Is this exquisite? I really don't know, it seems that I am on the right. I had just married my husband at that time. I seem to have heard of male left and female right. I sleep inside, and my husband sleeps outside.
Later, when the baby was born, I slept on the right, that is, near the outside, because I often got up at night to nurse the baby and felt it was more convenient to sleep outside. At that time, the rooms were quite small, with a double bed, wardrobe and dressing table. The room looks small and there is not much space.
I just got married and rented a house at that time. Haven't bought a house yet. After giving birth, it looks more like it. The space is relatively small, so the child starts to sleep in the middle. If my husband gets up, it's inconvenient for me to cross with the children. In addition, if the children are noisy and can't sleep well at night, I will let my husband sleep in the living room.
Later, I bought my own house, and the child was a little older, so we bought a small bed for the child and let him sleep alone. At first, the child was not used to it, crying and making noise, and refused to sleep. He was put on the big bed, very quiet, and there was no way. After he fell asleep, he quietly hugged him. However, when he woke up, he saw that his mother was not in bed and began to cry again, so he had to hug again.
It took him months to get used to it. As children grow up, it is not appropriate to be with their parents. At that time, we also bought a house and could give them a separate room, so that my husband and I could have no scruples.
I remember once, my husband was sleeping outside and didn't know what nightmare he had. I kicked him out of bed. He still doesn't know. Go back to sleep. When he woke up, he found himself sleeping underground. He also told me that he had a dream and was kicked off a cliff. He thought he was dead and struggled for a long time before he woke up and found himself sleeping underground. I smiled at his words.
Actually, there is no difference between us. My husband is not at home on business, so I sleep at his place, which seems to make it easier to fall asleep. I don't know if it's a psychological factor or if it's true.
When the husband and wife sleep, the wife should sleep on the right hand side of the husband. This is also the traditional way of sleeping, the reason why men are left and women are right. In addition, our etiquette in China is also big on the left and small on the right. Because, according to the southeast and northwest directions, Zuo Dong is in the west, and the east is the direction in which the sun rises. Therefore, the greatness of the East is even more important to our family. When guests come, please (elders) sit down first. This is (east) and also on the left. Therefore, male left and female right are the truth. Thank you for your comments!
Husband and wife sleep, are there any points left? This is the first time I heard it. Maybe I am ignorant.
Historically? Feng shui? Yin and Yang or from an aesthetic point of view? I don't know any of this. All I know is that in my bedroom, I always sleep against the wall inside the bed. In my husband's words, after I fall asleep, I will constantly adjust my angle like a child. When I woke up, I didn't know how many directions and positions I had gone through. But my husband just slept the most steadily, like a compass, and slept as straight as standing, not like "standing like a pine" at all. I asked my husband, and his answer was boring: how to sleep comfortably, just like being a man, what to do to be comfortable.
At first I didn't believe how uncomfortable my sleeping position was. Unexpectedly, Mr. Wang directly photographed my elegant sleeping position with his mobile phone. I really can't believe all kinds of indecent sleeping positions if I didn't see them with my own eyes. I didn't expect my sleeping position to be so terrible.
It suddenly occurred to me that after so many years of sleeping, I was on the left and my wife was on the right. After I got married, I lived in three houses, that is, I moved three times. In retrospect, it is still such a habit, and I have not deliberately chosen to sleep on the left or right.
(It's a double bed now)
I am a lover of folk culture. There is no custom and no taboo for husband and wife to share the same bed in all parts of China. At least so far, I haven't learned that some local folk customs are so particular.
In retrospect, this habit of ours was formed in life. The three rooms we lived in after we got married were all near the door on the right side of the bed and the window on the left. I like reading in bed. The bed by the window is brighter, so I naturally sleep by the window. My wife has the habit of getting up early and going to bed early. I don't have to bypass the bedside when I get up in the morning, which reduces my alarm. I can continue to sleep for a while. Later, when she had a child, it was more convenient for her to take care of the child by the door.
As for some people who divide the status of husband and wife sharing the same bed by "male left and female right", I am afraid this is not a matter of feudal thought, but a misunderstanding of traditional culture, and it is a statement that "male left and female right" is regarded as the golden rule and mechanically attached to the meeting.
The current bed is a high-low bed, that is, one end is high, which can be used as a backrest, and most couples sleep at this end. The other end should be low and the feet should face that end, so that there is a difference between the left side and the right side of the bed.
(Ancient Frame Structure Diagram)
In the past, the bed was usually a bed, placed against the wall or behind the wardrobe. Even the poor can't afford to make a crib, which is also called a "flat bed", that is, there is no wooden frame with mosquito nets on it. This kind of bed is also against the wall, unlike the current bed arrangement, both sides can get out of bed. In the past, any old bed could only get out of bed at one side. Therefore, in the past, there was no distinction between the left and right sides of the bed, only the inside and outside of the bed.
In the past, the position where the husband slept in the bed was not fixed. When they are newly married, husband and wife sleep together. Generally speaking, the husband sleeps inside and the wife sleeps outside. Because in the past, kannika nimtragol could not sleep late, get up early, boil water for cooking, wait on her in-laws and do other housework. If you sleep in it, you will inevitably wake your husband when you get up. The biggest taboo in feudal society was that women could not cross their husbands' bodies. Women sleep outside to avoid this kind of thing.
After having children, the husband's position should be given to the children. Generally speaking, men should sleep at the other end of the bed, outside the bed. The wife sleeps in the middle and the children sleep in it. The advantages of this sleep method are:
First, it can prevent the husband from crushing the children. In the past, some young couples didn't understand this method, and there was a tragedy that adults slept too hard and crushed their babies. This kind of thing happened twice in our village when I was a child.
(What was put on the bed before was a real map)
The second is to prevent the husband from wetting the bed. It is normal for children to wet the bed. In the past, children used to tie a piece of cloth and wet the bed after a long time. When the child is older, he can pee half a bed in one bubble. Now young couples use diapers, which can avoid this situation. In the past, couples didn't need diapers, and it was common to sleep in the bed.
When the children grow up one by one, only husband and wife are left in a bed. At this point, they are an old couple. Some couples share the same bed, and some still share the same bed. It is difficult to change their habits and sleep until they are old.
In short, in traditional folk customs, it is really difficult for couples to form a unified standard on which side to sleep, and there are no taboos in folk customs. If "male left and female right" is forcibly imposed on the sleeping position of husband and wife, the ancients did not say so, but this is a dependent statement of modern people and is not credible.
My wife and I have been married for two years. Let me tell you the secret of sleeping left and right.
When I have no children, I always sleep in the bed, which is on the right. When we have children, the two of us will change places. My wife sleeps on the right and I sleep on the left, which is the bedside. At first, I didn't know how to sleep well. Why did you change my position? It took me a long time to understand the mystery. Now I'll tell you why.
Our family usually has supper early. My wife goes to bed before 7 pm, and I usually go to bed later. I don't go to bed until about 9 o'clock when I play with my children. I was told to sleep on the left because he wanted something to eat and drink, which is the advantage of sleeping on the left.
Under normal circumstances, after 7 o'clock, my wife will be fine. It's all my business to wash my child's face and wipe my ass and get up in the middle of the night to make milk powder. Have you ever given me the same male compatriots, the same treatment? I'll see how many there are.
In our rural hometown, couples usually sleep outside the bed and the woman sleeps inside. There are two versions. One is that the man is the head of the family, the man is outside and the woman is included. Another way of saying it, in rural areas, was superstitious in those days, and there were ghosts and gods. Women were afraid of sleeping outside, and the old population said that "women have low internal heat" and were afraid of unclean things.
This sleeping position has continued from ancient times to modern times, and now there is not much emphasis between husband and wife, which may mean equality between men and women. Modern lovers have broken the traditional concept, and their sleeping position is based on their own comfort, and they will not be bound by the traditional concept. No matter men or women, they can sleep there if they want. Of course, there are also some modern couples, especially men with serious male chauvinism. Generally, such men like to sleep outside, and some particularly powerful women also like to sleep outside.
In my opinion, there is no need to be so particular about where couples sleep. It is most important for a husband to protect his wife.
I haven't noticed which of us sleeps on the left. There seems to be no concept of "left and right" in this respect, but it has always been a distinction between "inside and outside".
No matter whether we are at home or going to other places, my wife sleeps next to me wherever there is accommodation. Not only sleeping, but also traveling, crossing the road and so on. This is one of the good habits we have maintained since we fell in love.
Why? Can be summarized as follows.
First, the wife is timid. She is a mouse, which fully proves the idiom "as timid as a mouse". When sleeping, she used to grab my arm and hold it in her arms, or sleep in my arms.
Second, because his wife is highly nearsighted, glasses, books and cups must be placed on the small bookcase in front of the bed. It is mainly convenient for her to use, and it is not easy to be knocked off.
Third, my wife has insomnia. If she doesn't "grind" me to accompany her at night, she will stand at the window and watch the night scene. What stars, the moon, lights. As long as she is in a daze, after a while, she will either write something or fall asleep with rich associations.
In fact, the most important thing is that our feelings have been the same for many years.
As a man, I like her and want to protect her, which has become a habit. I've always kept her with me. No matter what happens, I will protect her or hold her in my arms in time. This is a husband's understandable responsibility and obligation.
It should be natural for husband and wife to live in the same room. There is no distinction between left and right, only the difference between inside and outside. Men lie outside and women sleep inside. Whether it is a kang or a bed, it should be like this every night. Only for security reasons, other reasons are in Mo Wen.