Macey has a bad temper. Every time something goes wrong, she loses her temper. In fact, sometimes things are not as serious as she thinks. But when she lost her temper, she lost control.
Once, we went to the field for training together. The child's remedial class had to be entrusted to her mother-in-law temporarily. When the mother-in-law is old, the children make up more lessons. The children can't remember clearly. Once she missed a class, it didn't matter much, so it was over. But when she found out, her mobile phone was turned upside down, which made me embarrassed. Her relationship with her mother-in-law is also much tense.
And the contradiction between Macey and her husband is constant, but her husband generally doesn't care about her. However, it is different at work. Resentments and tantrums often cause complaints, and work is a mess.
In the workplace, most of us stay at a respectful distance from such people. The leader will not give her very important work, and colleagues will not dare to get too close. Therefore, she is isolated at work.
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Oda is the most popular colleague in our unit. Every time a few annoying things pile up, I'm anxious not to see her. She is not rude to children, gentle and careful to her lover, and careful to her mother-in-law. My husband is out of town, and he goes to the company to pick her up every month 10, which makes others envy him.
I had a little trouble with my mother-in-law once. On her mother-in-law's birthday, she was in hospital with her father in Beijing, but she still remembered to order a cake for her mother-in-law and call her to congratulate her birthday. When her father was talking to her mother-in-law in the hospital bed, she didn't feel sad or depressed as expected, but she was still chatting happily with her mother-in-law, although her heart was full of complicated feelings.
People with high emotional intelligence know how to control their emotions. It is precisely because of this. Every time her husband comes back from a business trip, he will bring her a gift. In addition, she will be ordered a bunch of flowers as her birthday, holiday and wedding anniversary. They have been married for ten years, but they are still as sweet as newlyweds.
Because Oda's husband has a solid rear, he has been promoted many times. Now he is the manager of a certain area. Oda has won the trust of the leaders and has been promoted recently.
Good-natured people are generally lucky at work because they have a clear mind and an open mind.
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Under normal circumstances, in the workplace, most people wear masks, and their true personality will not be displayed too much. We dare not offend leaders and colleagues, so we won't lose our temper. But it's easy to get out of control when you go home and face your loved ones and take off your disguise. The child didn't understand the incident and lost his temper. He disagreed with his lover and lost his temper with his mother-in-law. Unconsciously, bad temper makes us exhausted.
So, let's make a slight change, think about how to solve the problem first, and don't lose your temper yet. How's it going?
Some people say that a woman's temper is feng shui at home. A woman is gentle and honest, her husband's career is thriving, and her children are sunny. But if a woman is hysterical, nagging and complaining every day, and the family is not harmonious, it will have an impact on her husband's career and children's achievements.
When you think about it, it's the same reason. Friends and colleagues around us often have harmonious families and prosperous careers. Losing your temper can't solve the problem fundamentally, but it is easy to arouse contradictions.
If you want harmony, you must control your bad temper first. He who can control his temper can control his life.
Good temper can win a better future.