Love is like a 100-meter sprint, it needs to explode in ten seconds and * * *; Marriage is a marathon, which requires tens of kilometers of perseverance and persistence. If you run a marathon at the speed of 100 meters, you will definitely "waste" half of it, and you can only start well but not run well. We have always said that marriage is the grave of love, but in fact, the opposite is also true. Love is not the grave of marriage. This reminds me of Tayu Lo's once familiar lyrics: I understand love, but what is it forever?
Only those who can quickly and smoothly turn love into affection after marriage can finally carry the marriage through to the end.
There are about three situations when you marry a person: first, you like the other person, but the other person is not suitable for you; Second, you also like each other, and each other is suitable for you; Third, you don't like each other very much, but they are suitable for you. The former often has unforgettable love, but the ending may not be happy or long-lasting. Although the latter makes you feel dull, it will bring you long-term stability in life. The middle is the happiest, but few people have such great luck.
Therefore, Aunt Qiong Yao once told us to find someone you love to be your lover and someone who loves you to be your lover. This statement makes sense, because in my opinion, the best relationship between lovers is-30% of you who love him or her+70% of her or him who loves you; And the best relationship between husband and wife-20% love +80% affection. Only in this way can we achieve the best marriage feeling, that is,-100% comfort.
We must admit that everything in the universe is moving, and human feelings (including love of course) are no exception. After all, marriage and family should be based on feelings. Without affection for each other, morality and law alone can only maintain the form of family, but can not improve the nature of marriage.
Therefore, even if you are a victim of marital changes, you should summon up courage and walk out of the unhappy marriage cage with your partner. This is not so much that you "release" the other party as that you are releasing yourself. As the saying goes: there is no limit to the sea of suffering, and turning back is the shore. Only when you reluctantly bid farewell to an experience or a relationship, don't just regard it as an end, but as a new starting point. Only in this way can you make yourself less frustrated, more eager, less sad and more confident.
What if marriage is contradictory?
It is inevitable that there will be parents, children, sisters and brothers, couples and other people with the same zodiac in our lives. Although the family loves each other, there will be more contradictions and conflicts between people who share the zodiac, and there will be many unhappy things together, and things will be very unsatisfactory.
On the principle and solution of the collision of the zodiac
The twelve zodiac animals are incompatible with each other, which means they are not suitable for being together. Together, it will lead to conflict and weaken each other. In addition to conflicts, there are also mutual evils, mutual punishments and mutual destruction between the zodiac, such as six reds, six evils, six rivers and three punishments.
Zodiac collision: rats collide at noon; Ugly cows are not sheep; Yin Hou is busy; Hairy rabbits collide with chickens; Dragon and dog fight; The snake collided with the pig.
Zodiac harms each other: rats are not harmed by sheep; Ugly cows kill each other in the afternoon; Yin, tiger and snake kill each other; Mao, rabbit, Chen and dragon kill each other; After the gods, Haizhu harms each other; You killed a dog with a chicken.
Zodiac punishment: pika punishment; Silver tigers, snakes and monkeys are punished; Ugly cows, sheep and dogs are punished; Chenchen (Dragon), Wu Wu (Horse), You You (Chicken) and Hai Hai (Pig) committed suicide.
Zodiac break: mouse and chicken break; Ugly cows, dragons and dragons break each other; Yinhuhai pig is broken; Hair and rabbits break each other at noon; Snakes and monkeys break each other; Both the sheep and the dog are broken.
The essence of the collision, mutual harm, mutual punishment and mutual destruction of the zodiac is the disharmony between yin and yang, the resistance of the five elements and the deviation of orientation. For example, in the five elements, rats belong to yang water, representing the north, and horses belong to yang fire, representing the south. Judging from the five elements, because water is like fire, rats and horses want to rush; From the perspective of yin and yang, rats and horses are yang water and yang fire, both of which are positive, belonging to the disharmony between yin and yang; From the azimuth point of view, it is also the separation of north and south, with the son (mouse) representing the north and the afternoon (horse) representing the south. So, the mouse and the horse rush at noon. Other analogy.
Through the above analysis, we have a good understanding of the principle of collision between genera. It is not that two animals collide together, but that the five elements of the zodiac contain each other, and the yin and yang are not harmonious and in the opposite direction. It is not difficult to understand the principles of collision, mutual harm, mutual punishment and mutual destruction of the zodiac. As long as proper feng shui instruments are used, the circulation of the five elements and the interaction of yin and yang can be guaranteed. There are two common methods.
Method 1: Ask five lines of gossip Fuzhengfu to regulate Qi-flowing, promote the energy circulation of five elements, and adjust the balance of yin and yang gas fields. The cycle of the five elements produces vitality, and the yin and yang are harmonious and auspicious, which can effectively resolve the damage caused by the punishment between the zodiac.
This is a universal solution, which can effectively solve the punishment, rush, break and harm among all zodiac signs. Now there are imitations of five lines of gossip Fu, please don't make a mistake.
Method 2: The zodiac signs are consistent. There are not only conflicting relationships, but also consistent relationships between the zodiac signs. As long as a compatible zodiac is introduced between two conflicting zodiac signs, it can effectively resolve the zodiac signs. For example, rats and cows are at six, and horses and sheep are at six. In the case of collision between rats and horses, as long as one of the family members belongs to cattle and rats, or one of them belongs to sheep and horses, the collision between rats and horses can be effectively resolved. If there is no such zodiac between family members, you can put the zodiac mascot cattle or sheep to resolve it.
Get married? 1, male zodiac: cow+female zodiac: dragon, you are a couple who often quarrel. Because both of them have distinct personalities and are stubborn, there are often various conflicts. The best way to maintain a good relationship is to look at each other with praise and communicate with each other with sweet words. Mr. Niu is leisurely and comfortable, cautious and indifferent to fame and fortune, and works in an orderly way. Mrs. Long is cheerful, impulsive and rich in * * *, and she is a modern woman with enterprising spirit. In contrast, Mr. Niu seems to be a little behind Mrs. Long's fast pace. What Mrs. Long needs is a colorful life and energetic friends. Mr. Niu, on the other hand, hopes to have a gentle and reserved lover, who can't adapt to Mrs. Long's whim. Of course, if communication is good, Mrs. Long's lively initiative may infect Mr. Niu and make him more active and active in the circle of friends.
Is it credible that the five elements are born together in marriage? I don't think we should believe it, because true love has nothing to do with these things, but the feelings of two people. Marriage is a very pure thing, don't be complicated by these things.
Generally speaking, the punishment of husband and wife has an impact on married life, but it can be resolved. Details are as follows:
The punishment of husband and wife is not the punishment of two people using knives and guns, but the malignant changes that occur after the husband and wife have sexual relations (referring to the physical and psychological reactions after sexual life).
If there is no penalty pattern in the couple's palace, after marriage or even pre-marital cohabitation, the body yin and Yang Qi produced by the passionate sexual life between husband and wife flow in the body tissues of husband and wife, which in turn causes the changes of physiological tissues and psychology of each other and produces an invisible antibody (spiritual strength), which destroys the feelings, spiritual thoughts, physical health and even family luck of husband and wife.
Some people start to get rich after marriage, and some people have car accidents and financial disasters after marriage, which are all direct reactions caused by the husband and wife palace, and ordinary people don't understand it.
When a person's husband and wife's palace is not good, after the husband and wife have sex, they will feel unwell for a few days or even the next day, or even have a car accident, disaster, fight and criminal injury.
Therefore, keeping a safe boundary between husband and wife's sexual life and premarital marriage and taking care of each other is the best way to overcome the castration of husband and wife and avoid misfortune.
Couples should pay special attention to their innocence before marriage, keep a safe distance from their spouses, and then choose the auspicious day to get married when they are engaged. After the formal wedding ceremony, the punishment of marriage can be minimized, but in today's society without considerable benefits, it is really difficult to control this.
Secondly, sexual life should also be banned in big festivals after marriage. Taboo days are Lunar New Year, Lantern Festival, Dragon Boat Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival and Boxing Day on the first, 15th and 24th day of the lunar calendar.
The above festivals are auspicious days when the world changes and the yin and yang are clear. We can see that the full moon, the lack of the moon and the ebb and flow of the sea can be verified.
As for whether the Christmas of immortals and Buddhists should be taboo, there are different opinions. If we talk about immortals and Buddhists, there are 108,000 gods in the universe. If we want to completely avoid them, we think that only nuns and monks can completely abstain from sex. Immortals and Buddhists are also human beings and have had sex. If we learn from the longevity of immortals and Buddhists, it will be quiet to practice or burn incense and pray for blessings on that day.
Everyone has the impulse of * * * *, but if there are too many taboos, it is meaningless for a spouse to develop abstinence in order to avoid punishment and punishment, but now it is unreasonable for a spouse not to hold a gentle hometown.
Husband and wife are two sides of the same body. They live together and sleep together every day. They should spend more time to understand their spouse's personality, interests, hobbies and ideals, and then choose their own luck to meet him, so that the marriage will be smoother.
In the stage of choosing marriage and love, ideals are indispensable, but we must measure how much weight we have, how to tie the knot, unreasonable demands and too high ideals are all stumbling blocks that cause marriage doubts.
Husband and wife are equal. Praise each other more in front of their spouses, say thank you more, and say sorry more, which can also resolve the punishment effect of the couple's palace.
As for the couple who hinder Dick, it is generally said that a person with a bad marriage can improve the relationship between men and women and resolve the power that hinders Dick. Lonely men and women can change their names and get married.
What does marriage palace mean? Will there be discord after marriage? The 30-point marriage palace refers to the marital status. Mutual restraint naturally means that two people will not be happy or upset together.
But most of these things are deceptive, so don't pay attention to them.
Marriage really has mutual respect, is it the same thing? Of course, but apart from the zodiac, the key eight characters are the last word.
Marriage problem is one of the important factors that seriously affect health. "Happy families are all similar, but unhappy families are different!" . A happy marriage is the special secret core of a happy family; As we all know, a happy marriage can make people live a long and healthy life. This shows how important a happy marriage is. Marriage is an ancient custom. In ancient times, both men and women needed to exchange Geng posts before marriage to see if the eight characters were consistent, and then put forward reasonable suggestions on the inconsistencies. Eight-character marriage should be carried out from the following aspects.
1, both men and women are not suitable for punishing each other, because the year is the root, the month is the seedling, the day is the flower, and the time is the fruit. Nianzhu is the soul and foundation of a person, so it is not suitable for both sides to punish each other when they meet Nianzhu, and it is easy to have great disasters after marriage.
It is inappropriate for men and women to punish each other, because the day is a flower, not a husband-and-wife palace. It is inappropriate for husband and wife to punish each other, and the relationship between husband and wife is not easy to be harmonious after marriage.
Neither male nor female should be punished for the four-poster zodiac, because the year is the parents' palace, the month is the brothers and sisters' palace, the day is the husband and wife's palace, and the time is the children's palace. The four pillars interact with each other, which is not good for both parents, six parents, family and children.
4. If the male life is full of yang, it must match the female life, the male life matches the female life, and the female life is the same, so as to coordinate yin and yang.
5. Neither men's nor women's palaces should be punished, because the Palace of Life is the destination of human life. "Three Life Club" said: God has no temple and no home, people have no house and no home, and the hall of life has no owner. The palace of life is like a person's residence, which shows its importance. If the two houses compete with each other, the family foundation and emotional foundation after marriage will be unstable, which will easily lead to a sense of crisis and lack of security.
6. It is inappropriate for men and women to be punished for loving God in the eight characters, because loving God is a medicine to cure an eight-character character. If the love of God is restrained by the other party, it will be difficult for the husband and wife to unite as one after marriage, which will easily lead to contradictions and opinions. One goes east, one goes west, one goes to Beijing and one goes to Tianjin. So it's easy to part ways.
7. The three-dimensional palace for men and women should be combined, which is also called divination marriage or three-dimensional marriage for men and women. The three-dimensional marriage between men and women is represented by eight directions of gossip, namely, dry, Kun, Kan, divorce, earthquake, root, ten-day and intercourse, and then the respective houses of the two parties are matched, and the matching results are blessing, anger, heavenly medicine, returning to the soul and wandering.
Marriage needs to be combined with the whole process of marriage, combined with the comprehensive analysis of the lifelong Universiade of both parties, and give reasonable suggestions for marriage of both parties. You can't combine or not combine from only one aspect.
What are the four taboos of marriage matching? Marriage plays an important role in human life, both at home and abroad. There is a saying that all happy families are similar, but each unhappy family is different. The same is true of marriage. Happy marriages are all similar, but unhappy marriages are different! So, what are the reasons for the unhappy marriage? There are different angles to this problem. From the psychological point of view, there are psychological reasons, from the behavioral analysis, there are behavioral roots, and from the eight-character analysis, there are congenital reasons. But from the perspective of Zhouyi theory, generally speaking, fate and acquired environment always dominate everyone's marriage life. The eight-character combination in marriage is very important, which belongs to the complementary psychological personality to some extent. In order to avoid unfortunate marriage, we should first pay more attention to the combination of eight characters. Of course, it is not enough to rely solely on the combination of eight characters, and two of a kind and other factors cannot be ignored. Below I mainly introduce the collocation taboos of the zodiac for your reference. Rats: Yulong, monkey and cow are lucky, sheep, horse, rabbit and chicken are not suitable, and other animals are common. Cattle: It's lucky to meet rats, snakes and chickens. It's not suitable for dragons, horses, sheep, dogs and rabbits. It's common in other animals. Tiger: When it comes to horses and dogs, it's not suitable for snakes and monkeys. Other animals are normal. Rabbit: When it comes to sheep, dogs and pigs, it is not suitable for mice. Cattle, dragons, chickens and horses are common in other animals. Dragon: When it comes to mice, monkeys and chickens, it is not suitable for dogs, cows, dragons and rabbits. It is common in other animals. Snakes: When it comes to cows and chickens, they are not suitable for tigers, monkeys and pigs. Other animals are common. Horse: When it comes to tigers, sheep and dogs, it is not suitable for mice, cows, rabbits and horses. Other animals are common. Sheep: When it comes to rabbits, horses and pigs, it is not suitable for mice, cows and dogs. Other animals are normal. Monkey: When it comes to rats and dragons, it's not suitable for tigers, snakes and pigs. Other animals are common. Chicken: When it comes to cows, dragons and snakes, it is not suitable for rabbits, chickens and dogs. Other animals are normal. Dog: When it comes to tigers, rabbits and horses, it is not suitable for cows, dragons, sheep and chickens. It is common in other animals.
Is it really impossible to get married when the five elements of marriage are in harmony? False, this example is also an excuse for two people to feel contradictory, tit-for-tat, and true love without taboo.
The mouse wants to watch the marriage song, but don't rest ~ don't watch the longicorn! Tigers and snakes are like knives ~ Qinglong is not worthy of rabbits! Chickens see dogs run away ~ apes talk to pigs with tears in their eyes ...