Qingming Festival
1. Can a wife go to the grave after her husband dies?
There is a saying in the street that a wife can't go to the grave three years before her husband dies. This is a matter of custom, as long as we respect local customs. If there is such a local custom, it is best to avoid it, otherwise it will bring a lot of psychological troubles in the future. If there is no local custom, it has nothing to do with this taboo.
2. Can I accompany my friends to sweep the grave?
For various reasons, many people may encounter the problem of whether to accompany their friends to the grave, such as whether their girlfriends accompany their boyfriends to the grave, whether their subordinates accompany their bosses to the grave, and even whether they accompany their customers to the grave in business. Dr. Zheng thinks it is best for outsiders not to accompany them to the grave because their gas fields are different. If it is really unavoidable, then Dr. Zheng suggests that you wear a mascot to ward off evil spirits, such as mahogany hand beads, otherwise you will commit taboos.
3. Can pregnant women sweep graves in Tomb-Sweeping Day?
Generally speaking, pregnant women should avoid the Qingming Festival, not only that. Strictly speaking, it's best for women not to take part in such activities when they have their period, especially after 3 pm. Dr. Zheng reminded friends that our motherland is vast, and the custom of sweeping graves in the north and south is slightly different. For example, in the south, children usually go to the grave, and in some places in the north, daughters usually don't go to the grave. If it is a married daughter, go to the grave with her husband.
If you are in poor health or depressed, can you go to the grave?
On the day of grave sweeping, if you are in poor health or depressed, Dr. Zheng suggested not to go to the cemetery. Because it is a time of physical and mental weakness, it is easy to get into trouble after returning home. In addition, pregnant women and children under the age of 6 also carefully sweep graves.
1, pregnant women are not suitable for:
Not to mention the fatigue of the boat, the rugged mountain roads, the influence of all kinds of smoke and dust in sacrificial places, and the habit of setting off firecrackers in many places, all of which will affect the health of pregnant women or children. From the folklore point of view, unborn children are not suitable to meet these dead people, because it will easily lead to the death of children. If pregnant women have to go, they have to wrap their bellies in red cloth. But it is strongly recommended not to go.
2, simple surgery is not appropriate:
Weakness is the main factor. According to folklore, if a person who has just had surgery goes to a cemetery, it is easy to be taken away. When the operation is painful and the vitality is weak, evil spirits are particularly easy to invade. People who have just had surgery, for their own health, for their families and for their beauty, still don't go to the grave.
3. Children under three years old are not suitable for:
There is a saying that children under 7 years old are not suitable, but in fact, from the numerology point of view, children under 3 years old are even less suitable, because no matter from Chinese religion or foreign past life theory, it is mentioned that children under 3 years old are the easiest to see another world. From a scientific point of view, children under 3 years old are easy to carry because of various conditions in the grave-sweeping place, and it is easy for children to get sick when they go out to places with relatively heavy pollution. It is not recommended to bring them, and breastfeeding mothers should not bring their own babies.
4. Not suitable for people with dark eyes or blue eyes in Tang Yin:
Black Tang Yin and people with black eyes are in a very unfortunate period. To sweep the grave is to worship the ancestors. Most of the grave rules are not very independent places, but pass through the graves of many other families. It is even more inappropriate to cross the place where yin and qi accumulate.
5, seriously ill patients are not suitable for:
This grave sweeping is not an exercise. Most graves are far from where they live, and most graves have to walk some distance. Seriously ill patients need to recuperate, not overwork, low immunity, body yin deficiency, wandering mind, vulnerable to various pathogens, so it is not recommended.
There are two kinds of people who don't go to the grave. The first kind is minors. Girls 14 years old, boys 16 years old. Before that, sacrifices and grave sweeping were not allowed. If the underage child goes and goes into shock, there is no cure when he comes back. Many children are not sick, and later they are depressed and crazy, but they are actually scared; Including adults who are dizzy and depressed now, most of them are scared. Let me give you a simple example. When walking at night, I occasionally get an electric shock and sweat my pores. Do you know why? That's fear.
Adults are in good health, and their yang is very strong, while children's yang is weak, such as those gloomy places, places where the sun has not been seen all the year round, cemeteries, abandoned buildings and old houses where no one lives all the year round. Don't let children go to these places. Also, when walking at night, try not to slip, let alone take the path. Because both sides are the heaviest places in Yin Qi and the middle is the strongest place in Yang Qi, try to walk in the middle or under the light. If you often walk while walking, you will occasionally feel a little tight and sweat in your pores, which is a sign of being shocked. People with lighters are better. Go in and take a photo.
The other person, who is old and in poor health, should not go to the grave. We will see many contemporaries. For example, it is wrong and unreasonable to bury the old man while the old woman is still alive. Only the younger generation goes to the grave, but the peers don't. The peers said mourning, and the younger generation said filial piety. If you express your grief, don't kneel when you go.
Pregnant women are absolutely not allowed to go. She accounts for two, one is weak and the other is that the baby in her stomach is too small. There are weddings and funerals, and pregnant women can't go. It is reasonable to observe 80% of the customs left in ancient times, so everyone must remember this thing. Tomb-Sweeping Day is celebrated by some people, not everyone, especially the old and the young. This festival is for entertainment, such as outing. Clear and clear qi, yang rising, turbid qi falling. The Ming Dynasty broke up every day, and everything grew. This is called Qingming, which means clean and bright. It's foggy and dusty in winter, so it's hard to separate heaven and earth. Once in Tomb-Sweeping Day, it will be separated and the yang will rise. We have a saying: Before and after the Qingming Festival, when melons and beans were planted, creatures began to grow upward. Therefore, some people can't celebrate this festival. He only celebrated the Yin Festival, but celebrated the Yang Festival, stretching his muscles and taking a walk, taking the sun as the spirit.