Generally speaking, the theme is located in the position facing the door; If there is no position facing the door in a large private room with multiple dining tables, then it is the main position facing the TV.
The square table defines four directions, facing the theme of the door. If you are eating, the right side of the main seat is the main seat, the left side is the auxiliary seat, and the third one is sitting below; If you sit on the podium, you are the main guest seat, the deputy guest seat is on the right, and the junior students sit below.
A round table is usually a table for ten people, or the main seat facing the door/TV. Then the right side of the main seat is the main guest seat, and the left side is the opposite deputy guest seat, and then the two sides are arranged downwards in turn. For a simple example, the central ministries and commissions went to a provincial capital city to inspect the work. The central leadership sits in the theme, the deputy mayor sits on the right side of the theme, and the municipal personnel director (who must be the director of the personnel bureau) sits on the left side of the theme, and then the two sides sit down in turn.
Some high-end hotels don't specify the location of the theme, but the color of the chair cover of each chair on the round table (or the folding way of the napkin on the table) is different. A chair will be folded high like a hat, which is the theme.
2. When do you order? Everyone is here, so it's better to be early. Who will order? How many courses does each person have?
The first is the time to order. Generally speaking, the invited person has the greatest face, so the big leader is usually late 10- 15 minutes (but the office director or secretary-general of the leader must arrive early! )。 It's the first time to order food before the leader comes, and the cold dishes must be cooked when the leader comes. Don't leave the table empty! This is taboo. After the leader arrives, it is the second time to order food, but the general leader will not order food by himself, and most of them are ordered by second-class or third-class people.
Secondly, the philosophy of ordering food. Generally speaking, social parties are round tables for ten people. The basic specifications are "eight cool and eight hot" and "four meat and four vegetables", and there must be a fish in it, which means "more than one year"; Sometimes the banquet is relatively large, with 20 people at a table, so it is "sixteen cool and sixteen hot" and "eight meats and eight vegetarian dishes".
Finally, according to the level of invited leaders, the number of "hard dishes" at dinner is different. The minimum specification is 1 hard dish, and the maximum specification is 4 "hard dishes". "Hard food" is not necessarily the most expensive dish, but it must be upgraded, and it is best to bring a little content and meaning that you want to treat. At least when it comes to the end, everyone can see that it is a "hard food." If the invited leadership level is really high enough (above the deputy provincial level), you may need to order seafood, such as a fish for each person.
3. When pouring wine, how to pour white wine? What about red wine? What utensils are used? How much is appropriate?
Pour a small glass of white wine, you can drink it all at once;
Before pouring red wine, you should open the bottle and then put it on a large wine separator to "sober up". The function is to let red wine come into contact with air and ferment again. After the whole bottle is sober, pour it for everyone. Everyone should gently shake the glass before drinking, which is a kind of "second hangover". Never drink it all at once! .
When do you propose a toast? From whom? How much do you want to clink glasses? How much do you drink without touching it?
Generally speaking, guests begin to propose a toast and judge the "situation" of the big leader in the process of respect. A * * * three points for "drinking too much". After three rounds of wine, you can start toasting, starting from the main seat, followed by the main seat and the auxiliary seat.
If you clink a glass, you must finish it. Don't touch it casually In some places, there is another way called "offering wine", that is, holding a glass instead of drinking it to show respect for people.
5. When should I give the leader a drink? What is decent?
There is no fixed moment, it depends entirely on the will of the leaders; If the leader asks you to replace the wine, you must replace the wine. If the leader doesn't let you substitute wine, you must never substitute wine, or you will lose face to the leader.
Under normal circumstances, every meal will be arranged in advance among the accompanying staff: the secretary is the first generation and the chief of staff is the second generation. Then a person will be arranged in advance to pretend that he can't drink, and then he will be put on duty when nothing else works, which is equivalent to "reserve". In the process of urban inspection under the leadership of leaders at all levels, sometimes there will be extreme situations, that is, everyone falls down = = At this time, the driver still has to fight (the driver does not drive afterwards), because the leader can't fall down anyway, and the entourage is all for the leader.
Generally speaking, leaders will not arrange female subordinates to change drinks for them, which is a performance of losing face, so girls in your system can rest assured. At the same time, lesbians don't need to finish their toast. ) lesbians generally don't propose a toast first, but gay men will propose a toast first.
6. What do you say when you propose a toast? What do you say to the leader and the male leader? What did the female leader say? The leader deliberately embarrassed you, teased you and didn't drink with you. What should you say?
When toasting, it depends on the situation, whether the other party drinks or not ~ how much to drink ~ the level of the other party ~ the theme at that time ~ and so on. The most popular and common expressions that can be used all year round can include wishing each other good health, or "drinking to friendship" and so on. Give a toast to a female leader, and you can praise each other appropriately.
7. When will you propose a toast with me? When can you never accompany me?
This also depends on the situation, which is roughly the same as the wishes and hints of the leaders of 5, Dependenson.
There is an unwritten rule: above the division level, you generally have the freedom and power not to substitute or accompany wine, but below the division level, you have no right to speak, and everything is subject to the happiness index of the leader.
8. When should I add wine? What if I drink too much? What if the leader is clamoring for wine after drinking too much?
Generally speaking, eating and drinking is to make everyone "drink well" and the atmosphere is good, so subordinates should be very good at observing, seize the opportunity and take action at the appropriate time. If you think everyone is getting drunk and most people are drunk, you can do some fake actions, such as picking up the bottle, shaking it, telling everyone that you are getting drunk, and then putting it aside. At this time, everyone here will generally understand that they will no longer drink.
The situation of clamoring for wine can be divided into two types according to different objects:
First of all, the leaders clamored for wine. At this time, you can't "block" hard. As a clever and capable subordinate, you should learn to "dredge". The most important way is to propose "changing places". Common ones are: going to foot bath, going to teahouse, going to KTV and so on.
The second is that there is a very annoying person across the street who must continue to drink. We cannot be soft on this issue. We need all our employees (except leaders) to go into battle together. Everyone drinks him and finally pours him down = = haha.
9. How to serve tea to leaders? How to add tea? Say what? At the same level?
There are too many details about how to serve tea and how to say it. Because, first of all, the north and the south end in different ways; Secondly, different teas: black tea, oolong tea and green tea, have different procedures for soaking, worshipping and adding water. For example, Tieguanyin in oolong tea can be divided into green tea and cooked tea. Generally, we use green tea to make Kung Fu tea. A * * * is 13 program, the first time is mouthwash tea. Because this problem is mainly aimed at the official wine table culture, I won't go into details here. It's really complicated. You can open another question.
10, how to judge whether this meal needs to be settled by itself? When will the bill be settled and the invoice be issued? What should I do if I meet someone else?
Generally speaking, everyone knows who pays for the banquet in officialdom, because whoever treats, asks for help and pays. Generally speaking, people who scramble to pay the bill are friends (including friends in officialdom, as long as there is no "begging" factor in it), and those who scramble the most actively, shout louder and exaggerate more are not the ones who really want to pay the bill. Therefore, there is no need to entangle "what should I do if I meet someone else who has robbed me?"
The philosophy of paying the bill is: pretend to leave the private room with interfaces such as "I'll go out to answer the phone" and "I'll go to the toilet", quietly go to the front desk to check out, and leave the invoice at the front desk after checking out; When we left, everyone asked who would pay the bill, and then admitted it in a low-key way. When you leave the hotel, quietly go to the front desk to get the invoice and leave.
The above items 10 are all applicable to the wine table culture of most officialdom in China. The following are the differences that some provincial governments should pay attention to when entertaining foreign sister state governments and sister cities:
1, the host is not a VIP, but a host. That is, the biggest leader of the provincial government (usually the deputy governor of a friendly state/province) sits on the main seat, the distinguished guests of the friendly state/province sit on the right side of the main seat, and the director of the provincial foreign affairs office (or the secretary-general of the provincial party Committee) sits opposite the main seat. In other words, whoever treats will take the lead.
You don't need to finish the toast. According to the customs of different countries/regions, guests are the mainstay.