I have actually seen this phenomenon in rural areas, because my mother-in-law’s family is from a rural area, so when they build houses there, they really like to compete for heights, because they feel that the houses built are higher than others. , it means that the conditions of your family are better, your life is better, and more importantly, it means that your son is better.
Because many elderly people in rural areas still believe that their sons will support them in old age. Old parents farm or do small jobs in the countryside and do not earn much money, so they all think that they rely on their sons to bring money back home to build a house. So building your house a little higher means telling others that my son makes more money, and he respects me and gives me money to build a house, so we build a house a little higher than yours.
And the house they build doesn’t necessarily have to be much higher than yours. Even if it’s just a little higher than yours, it’s very respectable. My mother-in-law’s family also built their own house, but it’s higher than the one next door. The neighbor's house was a little higher. At that time, I asked, would it make the relationship between the neighbors not so good?
My mother-in-law said no, that’s how it is in rural areas. Whoever builds a higher house means whose son can make more money. He also said that the neighbor's son had no future, loved gambling, and was extremely poor.
In fact, the phenomenon of comparison in rural areas is quite serious. Sometimes they even have more banquets than others. When our baby was one month old, we went back to the countryside to have a full moon banquet. At that time, my The idea is to just set up a few tables and invite relatives at home to eat.
But my mother-in-law said how can that be done? We must set up more tables for everyone at the door to see. They also said that whose house was so good at setting up the full moon wine last time, we should set up more tables than his house.
I don’t know whether to laugh or cry. I don’t like this custom very much. I think it’s good for me to know the quality of my family’s life, so why do I have to show it to others?