Will Ma Mao get better when he gets married?
Not necessarily, most of them won't.
I think many people will say that what is more terrible than mambo is the mother who made mambo. Because they are omnipotent, hard-working, omnipotent and have a strong desire to control, they have created Ma Baonan. Indeed, even if we have tried our best to accompany each other, we must learn to let go of the pain.
Why can't you marry Ma Baonan?
1. Poor viability
Ma Baonan, that is to say, the mother always treats her son as a treasure and dotes on him. Obviously, it is difficult for such a man to adapt to complex interpersonal relationships when he enters the society. Because they are used to their mother's obedience at home, once they enter the working environment, no one is used to them, and naturally they feel particularly lost and difficult to adapt. Besides work, life is a mess. If you plan to marry Ma Bao, you should plan to be his other mother or not to marry him!
No matter right or wrong, protect your mother.
Not every mother-in-law is so open-minded that it leads to discord between husband and wife. If you marry a mother, you and his mother are very calm on weekdays. Once the war breaks out, he will stand on his mother's side and ask you, "That's my mother!" " "Obviously, your husband-wife relationship can't beat the parent-child relationship, and you can only be disappointed and sad in the end. You will feel that you and his heart are not together. He is always with his mother's family. Over time, you will feel tired and your marriage will break up.
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With children, most horse-haired men will not help with the children. On the one hand, he feels that he is still an immature child, and everything depends on you and his mother. On the other hand, he will transfer the responsibility of taking care of the children to his mother. As a "treasure man" mother, of course, I feel that this is an unshirkable responsibility. He is used to relying on others, and after a long time, he will develop the habit of avoiding responsibility. If something goes wrong or you are in trouble, someone will help you deal with it, so you won't bother.
What's it like to find Mambo?
1, I hope I can marry into his house and take care of my grandmother who is paralyzed in bed.
When I met my ex-boyfriend, I felt that he was very nice, polite, stable and concerned about me. During a short holiday, I made an appointment with him to travel around the city by car. It only takes two hours to drive, but his mother let us take the bus because it's too dangerous to drive.
After dating several times, my ex-boyfriend said that we had better not eat out in the future, because his mother said that our consumption was too high. Every date is AA, or I pay the bill. But his monthly salary is given to his mother, only 600 yuan a month. Later, he said that he was going to buy a new house at home, so he sold the old one and bought a bigger one. His exact words were as follows: My mother said that after we got married, you could take care of grandma.
Then we broke up, and I was really scared. If I marry their family, I feel that the rest of my life has been completely arranged. Pay, or don't go to work, take care of the old and the young at home, just like a free full-time nanny. It's a little scary to live like this.
I live in a room alone, and he lives in a room with his mother.
When I was in love, I knew that my husband was a treasure mother, but I felt that marriage was separate anyway, and everyone stayed out of it, but the fact was completely different from what I imagined.
After my husband and I got married, my mother-in-law came to my house from time to time to rummage through everything. She wants to see everything. I feel particularly uncomfortable and feel that my privacy has been violated, but my husband says, what's the matter? I was brought up by my mother. What is not hers? She can watch it if she wants! When my husband has a headache and a fever, my mother-in-law will go crazy and always blame me for not taking good care of her son. Half a year later, I was pregnant, and my mother-in-law said she would take care of me, and then she naturally lived with us. Sometimes when I come home from work, I see two people hugging each other, watching TV and chatting.
To tell the truth, I feel extremely uncomfortable in my heart, but I feel that there are some words that I can't say. Later, my mother-in-law also said that because I was pregnant, I was afraid that it would affect my rest and let me live in a room alone. She lives in the same room as her son. What is this? I feel like a tool to carry on the family line? I really can't stand it. I went back to my mother's house. If she doesn't leave, I'll never go back.
I will always be an outsider and can't integrate into his family.
My husband is a person who can't take care of himself at all As soon as I go on a business trip, my family will be in a mess. And in the eyes of my mother-in-law, I'm probably just a third party who destroys her feelings with her son.
After we get married, his mother will ask everything, including what she eats at every meal and where she goes every day. What's more unacceptable is that she will take care of our husband and wife's life. Usually I have something to discuss with them, and I don't consider my opinions and feelings at all. Once there is an argument, whether it is reasonable or not, it is my fault.
Besides, don't expect him to help with family matters. Even if I feel sick, he won't have a word of concern. But he and his mother have endless days and confidences, and sometimes they have to coax her like a girlfriend. Once I asked him if he talked to his mother more often than I did, and he replied naturally: Yes, I don't want to leave her out because I got married. I think it's really tiring to live in such a family. I'm thinking about getting a divorce.
Characteristics of mamao man
First, mom is always right.
This kind of person always says what his mother said, and may not know it at all. When talking, I always feel that what my mother said is right, and the way to treat things sometimes depends on my mother. In such a family, the mother is the "queen" and he is just a "baby boy" who listens to her.
Maybe you didn't realize it at first, but after entering such a family, you will find that you are not married to a husband, but an immature "baby boy" and may well become the new mother of this baby boy.
How can a man who listens to his mother become a qualified husband? Growing up from a "mother-in-law" to a responsible man is bound to go through a long and difficult process, so if a woman doesn't want to be too tired, she'd better keep her eyes open and stay away from the "mother-in-law" when getting married.
Second, it is the eternal treasure in my mother's heart.
Some people say that no matter how old you are this year, you will always be a child in the eyes of your parents. This can be said to be parents' unconditional love for their children, but if this love has no limit, it will make a man a "mother-in-law".
"You are great", "Well done" and "My son is great" ... How can a "mother-in-law" who is used to being praised for everything she does adapt to her wife's requirements for her husband? For families living with their elders, this relationship will make married daughters-in-law more difficult to deal with.
Such a man is used to being taken care of and hopes that his wife can take care of herself like a mother. At the same time, I feel that I am the baby in my mother's heart, and I am very close to my mother, which is not conducive to the establishment of intimate relationship between husband and wife in marriage.
Third, my mother and I are one.
I think my mother and I are one, mine is my mother's and mine is mine. This is absolutely impossible for men who have already formed their own small families. In this relationship, the mother-in-law often regards his wife as a "rival in love", which is not conducive to the stability of marriage and the future growth of children.
Therefore, in any family, the new family and the old family must be separated. Only when both families become independent and healthy individuals can a happy life last for a long time.