We have always thought that people are rich because of kindness, but they are not. People are kind because they have money. He is rich, his basic life has been solved, and his pursuit of life lies in the spiritual level. So most of his actions are based on spiritual considerations, so he looks kinder without considering some interests.
I thought this sentence was a little biased until one day, I happened to see a video lecture by Li Juming, a famous Hong Kong geomancer. He also said something similar: "In modern society, if you want to choose a good person (get married), the most important thing is to choose a rich person. There are not enough good people, and money is a great person. "
I always thought that women would think so and value money, but he is a man and also thinks that money is a necessary condition for a person to become a good person.
In modern society, it is difficult to move without money. Maybe two young people can talk about love vigorously without money, but they can talk about marriage without money. What do you think life will be like?
When you are in love, even if you have no money, you can recite poems, be ambiguous, and look at the stars and the moon. But marriage is not romantic, but contradictory. It's too realistic to open your eyes and lie every day, eat, drink, wear and live, and spend money in all aspects.
But unlike those who have been poor together, this is an eternal truth.
In ancient times, people paid attention to the right marriage, but in the eyes of modern people, it was too tacky. But after generations of proof, it is torture for both husband and wife, especially for women.
More and more mothers teach their daughters to get married and find a partner, to find a rich man and a suitable person, and never marry, otherwise, marriage will be very difficult.
A mother persuaded her daughter with her own experience: "If you have a choice, don't worry about marrying a rich man. Rich people are much easier to get along with than you think. "
She wrote to her daughter to suggest:
Daughter, I heard that you have a boyfriend. His hometown is in the countryside, his parents are farmers, he is the only son in the family, and he has two sisters, who are loved by thousands, which is the pride of the family and the pride of the village.
I don't quite agree with this marriage. Your boyfriend's income is not high, and there are so many families to take care of at home. I'm talking about financial care. He can't protect himself. If you marry him, the first difficulty you encounter is money.
First: Where will you live after you get married?
It's impossible to rent a house, right? In big cities, you can rent a house when you are single. What about after you get married and have children? Will you keep renting? You can't afford to rent, the cheap infrastructure is not good, there is no sense of security, and there is no place for children to play. Children can't live in villages in cities.
You can't buy a house before marriage, and it's even harder to buy a house after marriage. On the one hand, you have to pay rent and live; On the other hand, raising children is far more expensive than being single. How can you get married when you have a strong economic foundation?
The second point: the support of in-laws.
Your boyfriend is an only child, and basically he supports 100% of his two old parents. On the premise of the first point, he is exhausted and has to take care of two old people. He has to stay in the hospital for life and lost tens of thousands of dollars. This is a big expense for your family. Have you calculated it?
Number three: Who will take care of your children?
You plan to rent a house and want to save money to buy a house, so you have to ask your in-laws to take care of the children. Can you guarantee that your mother-in-law will come? Can you ensure that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along well? 90% rural mother-in-law and urban daughter-in-law have different views and don't like each other. I'm not saying that the rural mother-in-law is not good at all, but there are some qualities in you that she thinks are shortcomings. If you don't like it, you will be scolded behind your back, which is very embarrassing. Your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a bad relationship, your life is sad and your marriage is difficult to support.
Daughter, have you ever thought that all the problems encountered in this marriage come down to one reason: no money.
If you have money, the first point can be properly solved. With a wedding room and a place to stay, you can work with peace of mind. If you don't worry about money, you can live better.
Compare your mother with your aunt. My mother refused to listen to my grandfather and insisted on marrying your father. Your father's family is poor, and there are sick old people at home. I refused to listen and had to marry.
After you got married, you suffered a lot. Do you know what kind of life your mother lived before you were ten years old?
Get up before dawn every day to go to work, take care of my sick grandmother, make breakfast for them, take care of my family, and do odd jobs to supplement my family.
It was not until your grandmother died that mom's life was a little easier. The biggest pain I have ever suffered in my life is the pain of having no money. If I have money, I don't need to get up early and be greedy for the dark, be busy outside and raise two big children by myself.
You are much happier than your aunt, and you can see it yourself.
My uncle went to college, arranged a unit, had a stable job and was not short of money. How many parents are waiting in line to get married? Your grandfather doesn't agree. You should find a woman with similar economic and family conditions as your daughter-in-law.
Your uncle and aunt are relatively well-off financially. After marriage, they don't need to suffer for money at all. I get up at five o'clock every day and she is still dreaming. I can sleep until seven or eight every day. I am only two years older than her, but I look so much older than her. Look at how time ruined my mother's old age.
Can you say that my aunt and your uncle are not on good terms? Don't people have love? The happiness of others is based on wealth. Tired of eating at home, go out to eat out; Travel when you are in a bad mood.
Your mother and I are in a bad mood. I have to water the vegetables in the garden. This is the difference.
Compare your cousin again. Everyone has gone abroad to study, but you don't have the same chance because you have no money.
Although our family doesn't have to suffer from lack of money, it's still far from your uncle's.
Your cousin's future is based on the superior conditions of your parents. And your child's starting line is based on the conditions of you and your husband. You have to think clearly.
Although your young people's marriage is not as bitter as your mother's, and you don't have to grow vegetables and land, the reason is still the same. A marriage without money will suffer from lack of money.
Therefore, I advise you that you can find someone who has no money in love, but not in marriage. If you have a choice, marry a rich man boldly.
Marriage is cruel and realistic. Only after you have experienced it can you know what a stupid choice marriage is that only considers love and not money.
Jane Austen said in Pride and Prejudice: "Marriage that only considers money is absurd, and marriage that does not consider money is stupid."
I hope you will seriously consider your mother's suggestion.
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