In Wuhan, a 14 student was invited by his parents for playing poker.
When my mother arrived, she raised her hand and slapped me twice.
He subconsciously blocked it with his hand, but his mother did not calm her anger and continued to raise her hand to poke her son's forehead.
After his mother left, he stood in silence for two minutes, suddenly climbed up the railing and jumped down.
Her mother should just want to teach her son a lesson, but she never thought it would lead to such a result. In the final analysis, she still didn't take each other's feelings to heart.
Many times, we are always polite to outsiders; When we treat our relatives, we always do whatever it takes, and we always forget to leave our best feelings to the closest relatives.
The best family style is not to blame when something happens.
02
Some people say that all happy families are similar, and each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.
There are always mistakes in life. In an unfortunate family, we always choose to criticize and accuse blindly, but we don't know that home is a place to love.
When Zhang Ailing recalls her mother, she always thinks of an angry face.
Her mother is moody and often growls at people when she is angry.
Once, when a guest came to the house, Zhang Ailing found that a chair was missing. Young Zhang Ailing laboriously moved a chair, but her mother shouted in front of all the guests, "What are you doing? Pig! "
When Zhang ailing was ill, her mother had to pay the medical bills and take care of her. Her mother often shouts impatiently, "Anyway, you live to harm people!"
The mother's knife mouth cast a melancholy haze over Zhang Ailing's life.
Liang Qichao's marriage is happy, and his nine children get along well, all of whom have become talents, which is related to Liang Qichao's family management.
One day, Liang Sizhuang, the second daughter, was unhappy because she scored only 16 points in the exam, but Liang Qichao comforted her daughter:
"Strong, so, I am very satisfied. It's a great loss for you to get 16th place among 37 people. Don't worry, just work hard. "
He often says to his children, "Success in the future depends on talent ... but if you ask for hard work, Mo Wen will gain something ... do what you can and where you are."
There is no condescending, no punishment, only encouragement, only trust, only respect.
Under the influence of such a good family style, Liang Qichao's nine children have made extraordinary achievements. It can be said that "one academician and three academicians are all talented."
The most important and precious thing for a family is not the momentary right or wrong, but the true feelings.
Everything goes well at home, and the family is harmonious. Even if the family is new, they will make a fortune.
03
A fire broke out in a residential area in Guiyang. As can be seen from the live video, the fire in the fire room was fierce and the smoke went straight to the residents' homes on the roof.
The fire was controlled in time, but the whole house was in a mess, with cracked walls and charred doors, leaving only a skeleton on the bed.
Ms. Meng, the head of the household, said that she used a hair dryer to blow the sheets and the child cried. She put down the hair dryer to dress the child's trousers, and then the hair dryer exploded, igniting the headrest beside the bed. ......
Ms Meng is very sad and blames herself. The most admirable thing is Ms. Meng's husband, who said:
"This is just a house. It' s a big deal to redecorate, which is equivalent to living in a new house. "
Most netizens said that Ms. Meng married the right person.
Life is doomed to be bumpy, and the reaction before the predicament is often the touchstone of husband and wife's feelings.
The husband's behavior is a good interpretation of the wisdom of husband and wife getting along.
This is an established fact, no one wants to make a mistake, and no matter how much accusation, it can't be redeemed.
It is important to know how to avoid making the same mistake again.
When a mistake happens, if you just pour out your emotions, you don't think the other person is actually regretting and blaming yourself.
The result will only add fuel to the fire and will not help solve the problem.
Don't blame and comfort when things go wrong, this is the preservative of the relationship, and the feelings can be deeper and longer.
As one sentence says:
"The so-called good relationship comes from the tolerance and accommodation of one person and the moderation of another."
Happy families are more tolerant and less accusatory; More understanding, less abuse, natural harmony and happiness.
The world always wants to find a land of feng shui to bless family health, husband and wife harmony, and children and grandchildren.
In fact, the best feng shui for a family is not luxury or money, but that the family does not blame each other and live in harmony.
A harmonious family will naturally prosper.
The so-called home is not a place to reason, but a place to love, miss home and everything.