Nowadays, there are more and more elderly people, and the issue of providing for the aged is also worthy of attention. Due to various reasons, many old people become lonely in the middle, life is not easy, and life alone will be even more difficult.
With the changes of the times, people's way of providing for the aged has also changed. It used to be said that raising children to prevent old age, but now it seems that such a way of providing for the aged is simply unreliable, so it is very important to choose a suitable way of providing for the aged.
Due to the change of people's concept, it is normal for middle-aged and elderly people to live by remarriage, but some people are worried about it, because it is not easy to live happily after remarriage, and there are not a few people who break up halfway after remarriage, so it takes some methods to maintain remarriage for a long time.
02. Talk to: Hu Jie
I am 62 years old. My first marriage ended when I was 50, because my husband left me with an incurable disease. I had two sons before, and they were married when my wife left. Because both sons had their own families at that time, I didn't have a heavy burden. Basically, I just need to live a good life.
I have a pension of more than two thousand yuan every month. Although I don't worry about food and clothing, to be honest, living alone is a bit lonely. In order to keep myself busy, I always find something to do for myself. I usually enrich my life through fitness, reading and traveling.
Then I fell in love with ballroom dancing. It was in the process of dancing during that time that I met my wife now, and we all called him Lao Zhong.
I have known Lao Zhong for more than a year, and I have won the support of my children. Maybe this is fate! In fact, when I first met Lao Zhong, I thought he was a trustworthy person.
In fact, I know very well that remarriage is not as simple as I thought, and before I was with Lao Zhong, some people advised me not to remarry, but I think fate is hard-won, so I will try anyway.
In fact, it is impossible for two people not to quarrel together forever. After being together for a long time, there will inevitably be bumps and bumps. What matters is whether two people can correctly handle the problems they face.
In recent years, I have partnered with Lao Zhong. During this period, we had quarrels, but we never broke up. In the face of emotional crisis, we can always think of solutions. People who don't know don't know that we are remarried couples.
Many people around us envy us, and we are often asked for advice on how to get along with remarried couples. In fact, I still think it is very important for people to choose remarriage, and of course they need a certain way to get along.
The first point: mutual trust and respect.
In the days when I was with Lao Zhong, we always trusted each other and treated each other sincerely. We never worry about each other's ulterior motives. After all, it is tiring to worry about this and that when you are old, and there is no need to guard against thieves every day.
When we live together, we will have different opinions in life, but we will respect each other's opinions. If there are different opinions, we will discuss them together and never ignore each other's feelings.
Many people say that lovers are thieves on the road, so they always suspect each other after being together, fearing that they will suffer, and they can't treat each other sincerely. This way of getting along naturally won't last long.
The second point: learning is preferred.
I remember that after I was with Lao Zhong, once Lao Zhong was ill in hospital, and his child was too busy to come back to see him, so I took care of him wholeheartedly, and I also paid for the medical expenses.
I did pay a double price, both mentally and financially. I also thought that I might not get anything in return, but I still want to try. If the old clock knows how to be grateful, isn't it worthwhile for me to pay before? It also shows that I am right about the old clock.
It really turned out that way. Later, I also got sick. I want my two sons back, but Lao Zhong said it was enough to have him around, so Lao Zhong took care of me wholeheartedly.
The third point: daily expenses and housework sharing.
Old Zhong and I didn't agree to share the daily expenses before, but unconsciously we reached a tacit understanding that no matter what we buy or do, we will take the initiative to bear part of it. This state of balance in life also keeps our feelings in balance.
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In fact, in real life, it is really difficult for remarried people to be tolerant of each other and always consider each other's feelings. It is really important to choose the right person, but it is also indispensable for two people to use the right method in the process of communication.