Human feelings are cold and warm, and the world is cold. Often only those who have experienced it will have a deep understanding. If you have money, everything you say is right; If you have no money, you don't even have to breathe.
Since the world is full of worldly wisdom, we should also know something. As the old saying goes, people are poor and talk little, and people are humble and don't persuade others, so they can't help themselves, and it is difficult to find relatives. After all, human feelings are as thin as paper and things are as new as chess.
In the face of human nature, we should also understand a truth: the poor live in downtown areas and no one asks, while the rich have distant relatives in the mountains. If you don't believe me, look at the wine at the banquet. Let's toast the rich first.
People are poor and inseparable. First, it is related to your own economic situation. Second, they feel that the relationship between relatives has also changed. Because the gap between the rich and the poor is getting wider and wider, relatives feel that the same topic is less. There is nothing to say when we meet, and many people are dealing with it.
If people are poor, they will be very unpopular with the people around them. If you visit relatives during the New Year, relatives will love you and even dislike you. The relationship between relatives is not only maintained by blood relationship, but also by the balance of economic exchange. The gift you took is naturally unpopular. What rural people pay attention to is that you respect me one foot and I respect you one foot. Once this balance is broken, it is strange not to let relatives dislike you.
There is a popular saying recently: "Without money, what can you do to maintain your family ties, stabilize your love and keep in touch with your friendship?"? Stop it, everyone is busy! "
Now most people in this world are too poor to love rich people. You go to visit your relatives, who think you are borrowing money. Because I am poor, I am worried that I can't afford it, so I naturally give each other a dirty look. This is human nature.
You have to rely on yourself in everything. If you are really in trouble, don't expect your relatives to help you. Only your parents will really help you. If you are poor, try to improve yourself and your status, and friends will come naturally. "If you don't believe me, look at the wine in the glass and respect the rich first." That's the reason.
Life is a tree full of monkeys. Looking up, it's all monkey's ass. Looking down, there will be smiling faces. The rich are cruel, but the iron man is cruel. Money makes the mare go, money makes the mare go, and rich bastards sit on the table.
Shen Fu wrote in Six Chapters of a Floating Life that he and his wife were in urgent need of a sum of money, so they borrowed money from their relatives, but the result was a cold shoulder. From then on, he vowed not to ask any relatives for anything, so as not to be humiliated again.
Someone asked Degang Guo, "Does it take time to live clearly?" ? He replied without hesitation: "It doesn't need time, it needs experience." Someone said, "I used to think that listening to Degang Guo was a cross talk, but now it's getting longer and longer. Listen again. It turned out to be a miserable life.
As the saying goes, "poverty does not last long, wealth does not take root, and after ten years, it will turn east and west. Don't laugh at the poor people in rags." Temporary poverty does not mean permanent poverty. As long as we work hard enough, it is not difficult to change the status quo of poverty. "The rich have distant relatives in the mountains, and the poor don't ask in the downtown area." Poor people can ignore it. This is someone else's business, but we have to pay attention to the outside world and learn more. It doesn't matter if relatives and friends really look down on you and ignore you. At least you'll recognize one person, and that's it.
People are poor, and their aspirations cannot be short. Life won't take care of us. As long as we work hard and have integrity, we will be respected by people. Believe in yourself and don't bow to fate. You can't give the world to people who despise you. Life is to meet new possibilities constantly. Love a person, climb a mountain and chase a dream, and life is more meaningful.
When people are poor, it is best not to visit relatives or attend various weddings and banquets. I think that's quite right. Rich, you're right, some people agree, some people agree. Without money, people speak lightly and have no weight, which makes people look down on you and think you are incompetent and incompetent.
When my cousin got married, my husband didn't have a house or a car, and he still owed a school loan. At that time, menstruation's family and all relatives disagreed with their marriage, but my cousin decided to fall in love and married her husband. In the two years after their marriage, relatives will criticize their cousins and think they are incompetent. Any relative who meets his cousin will educate him and tell them what to do. They also feel inferior because they have no money, work hard and try to reduce the walking between relatives.
Later, my cousin's friend asked him to go to Inner Mongolia to develop, and he worked hard to specialize in technology. In just two years, the boss took him into the company and gave him 15% of the shares. Suddenly, my cousin became rich, too. At that time, my cousin didn't want to leave home for thousands of kilometers. Let my cousin's husband go home. Cousin said: I'm afraid I can't live without money. I have money, and people remember my last name. Without money, I am shorter than people walking among relatives. At the insistence of my cousin's husband, the three of them bought a house in Inner Mongolia and settled down.
Now that my cousin's family is back, relatives in my hometown are scrambling to invite them to dinner, and they always let my cousin sit on the table. When people are down and out, they don't visit relatives. When they want a glass of wine, the cups are all for the rich. Don't ask the poor in downtown, the rich have distant relatives in the mountains.
If you are poor, don't go to your relatives' house. The poor are worse than ghosts and tea is worse than water. When people are poor, in front of relatives and friends, no one thinks what you say is right and no one listens. When you are rich, everything you say is good advice.
This statement can be used as a joke, and it must not be taken seriously, let alone put into practice. If people are poor and don't leave their relatives, they will isolate themselves. Obviously, they look down on themselves. Isn't this cowardly mother crying in the middle of the night?
One cannot lack ambition. People often say,' poverty means three generations, and wealth means eternal life'. Who can guarantee that his life will not have three difficulties and eight difficulties, and which family will be smooth sailing? As usual, it is said that' every family has a difficult experience'. People and money are not prosperous. As long as there are people, there is a world. Poverty is temporary, and when the tide turns, there will always be a rich day.
If you don't go to relatives' homes and attend their weddings and banquets because you are poor, it is to cut off contact with relatives. What about immediate family members? How do relatives evaluate themselves? Relatives will certainly not think that they broke up because they were poor and could not afford the gift money. If it's a wedding reception for neighbors or ordinary friends, you don't have to go by yourself. If you don't have the strength to follow the ceremony, it's called beating your face and filling your fat face. If you lose face, you will lose money. Maybe people will laugh at it just to eat their wedding banquet.
Real relatives don't look down on poor relatives. Only more than three generations of distant relatives have broken contact, and they have broken contact at the slightest sign of trouble. This is the real situation.
No matter how poor you are, you should take good care of your real relatives, keep good contacts with them, and never leave them, lest your relatives criticize you!