My husband has a relative who has always been richer than her husband's family and has given her a lot of favors before. Slowly, our life became better and we bought a house that was more expensive than her. Her attitude towards us has changed. She hasn't been to our new home for several years. During the Chinese New Year holiday, when relatives praised her husband's ability, she would sarcastically say, "Buying a house is nothing. They have to work and raise their own children, and their lives are under great pressure. " In order to repay our kindness, we send some gifts or money every year, but our relatives refuse.
This reminds me of Mi Yue and Mi Fei in The Legend of Mi Yue. Mi Fei was the first princess of Chu, noble and beautiful, and was loved by thousands of people. Princess Mi Yue had a bad time in the palace, and even didn't have enough to eat. However, they are like sisters. Mi Yi often helped Mi Yue, who accompanied her sister Mi Yi to marry the State of Qin. But in the end, the emperor loved Miyue far more than Mi Fei, and my sister was jealous. Mi Yue once gave her sister a gift from the emperor. Mi Yi's servant said, "You only gave it to her since childhood, and now she gives it to you." Mi Fei and the servant had hatred in their eyes.
In life? Many people are "uncomfortable looking at you" because of this mentality. Because they take it for granted that they are better off than you, and now you are better off, breaking her psychological position! First, she is not convinced that people around her turn their eyes from her to you, making her lose focus; Second, she can't give it any more. She feels uncomfortable. In the final analysis, it is lack of self-confidence!
And this situation is more common among relatives and good friends!