There is a saying in rural areas: "There are three things you don't want to borrow when you have money, there are three things you don't follow when it comes to etiquette, and there are three things you don't follow on the road." With the development of history, this sentence is constantly given new content. Everyone has different opinions. Let me restore what rural people did in the past?
"There are three reasons why you should not borrow money" means:
The first is to borrow money when you are in need but not when you are poor. If a relative or friend has something urgent, such as a child or parent being sick, and asks you to borrow money, you should lend him the money as quickly as you can.
If a relative or friend who is too lazy to work or has nothing to do asks you to borrow money, you must not lend it to him.
It’s not that I pity him for being poor, but I hate that he doesn’t live up to expectations. I usually eat and drink lavishly and enjoy myself more than anyone else. People who rely on borrowing money to survive after running out of money should not be pitied.
In addition, lending money to such people is like beating a dog with a meat bun and never looking back. Because his family is very poor and has no ability to repay, and if you ask him for a debt, he will say unceremoniously: "If you don't need money, you need a life." What can you do to him?
"Secondly, borrow from those who are close rather than those who are far away", which means that if your neighbors want to borrow money from you, you should borrow it at this time. There is a saying: "Distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors, and close neighbors are not as good as each other."
"Bow your head but don't raise your head to see each other" with your neighbors. If you refuse, it will hurt the harmony between the two families. If you are a distant relative or an unfamiliar friend, don't lend him money, since you don't see them often anyway.
Third, borrowing from strangers rather than familiarity sounds counterintuitive. Why lend to strangers but not to acquaintances?
I wonder if anyone has noticed it? In all economic litigation cases, both parties to the lawsuit are acquaintances. They only lend money to them because they think it is an acquaintance, and they can't hide their faces because they are acquaintances. They ignore the evidence of IOUs or borrowing money, which will set the stage for future lawsuits. Complaints leave hidden dangers.
I was once such a victim. When doing business, I lent 20,000 yuan to an acquaintance. Because the acquaintance did not issue an IOU, I asked for it two years later. The acquaintance refused to acknowledge the debt and the 20,000 yuan was returned. After all, it can be considered as a lesson learned.
If you lend money to a stranger, you will be careful and go through all the procedures properly, and the stranger will not dare to cheat.
In the past, in rural areas, there were "three etiquettes that should not be followed":
The first is the etiquette of not following and not following. The meaning is obvious. If you give him a funeral gift, you will never get a return gift. The deceased has no descendants and is a bachelor. Who will repay him in the future?
This is called "a gift of one head" in rural areas, also called "a unique gift".
Second, do not follow the etiquette of high relatives. If you have a powerful relative and there is a happy event or funeral in his family, do not rush to follow the etiquette for him.
You must know that you are not in the right family with your powerful relatives. If you give gifts to others, they will not think highly of you. When you have something to do, they will not return the gifts. This is the meaning of "being poor does not mean to have high relatives" .
Third, don’t follow the ritual of making money. Some people make up their own names and hold banquets for various reasons, such as children’s full moon, children’s further education, children’s entrance examinations, etc. A discerning person will see that it is just to make money. Such a gift for you Don't follow suit.
This kind of person is obsessed with money, and making money is his ultimate goal. This kind of person has no idea of ??reciprocity.
"There are three roads you should not take" means:
First, take the Sunshine Avenue instead of the narrow path. In the past, rural people believed that there were gods protecting both sides of the avenue. As long as you walked on the avenue In the middle, you are not afraid of attacks by evil spirits.
It is said that as long as you walk on the road, there will be a bright light invisible to mortals on each shoulder of the person. It is said that it is the protection of the gods.
There is no protection from the gods when walking on the small roads. Moreover, there are often robbers, wolves, insects, tigers and leopards on the small roads, which is much more dangerous than the main roads.
Secondly, don’t look back.
There is an old saying in the countryside that "a good horse never turns back". A man dares to do things, even if he goes the wrong way, he should take it as a lesson and experience. When he falls, he gets up and continues on his way.
Never lie on the ground crying or turn back, because no one will pity you and help you, and you can only walk on the road of life bravely.
This is the reason why there is no turning back. You have to keep walking on the road you choose!
Third, don’t take dead ends and dead ends. This sentence has two meanings: the first is to choose a good road and don't take a dead end. Generally speaking, the road with more people is a good road.
Another meaning is that it is inevitable to encounter setbacks in life, so don’t overthink it. There is no mountain of flames that cannot be passed, and no difficulty that cannot be overcome. When you look back after walking through life, you will realize that setbacks and difficulties are only temporary.
Text/Reading the Spring and Autumn Period by Bingzhu
"There are three things you should not borrow when you have money, there are three things you should not follow when it comes to etiquette, and there are three things you should not follow on the road" is a summary of the wisdom in dealing with people and interpersonal relationships.
First, don’t lend it to people you don’t know well. There are many scammers in today's society. If you are not familiar with the other party and don't know the details, and the other party wants to lend you money, you'd better not lend it. If you borrow it, you may never return it.
The second is not to borrow from dishonest people. When a dishonest person borrows money, he is extremely sincere and makes ridiculous claims, such as "I will definitely pay you back before that day"; "Don't worry, I will definitely pay you back and it won't delay your business"; "Don't worry, it will never be in vain." Use your money” and so on. When I borrowed the money, I immediately became an uncle. Pay you back? Let’s talk about it later when I’m in a better mood! You will embark on an extremely troublesome road to debt collection. Therefore, you must check the character of the other party before lending money.
The third is that people with poor aspirations will not borrow. As the saying goes: "Rescue the emergency but not the poor", this is what it means. A poor person has no ambition and lives a mediocre life. Lending him money is like beating a dog with a meat bun.
Think about the kind-hearted Brother Zhu Zhiwen. Those who borrow money from him and refuse to repay them are all among these three types of people. It’s really chilling to not get the respect, praise and gratitude you deserve when you lend money, but don’t take it for granted!
Lending you money is a sign of affection, but not lending it to you is a duty. Think twice before borrowing money. After all, your own money is not easy to earn.
First, don’t take the initiative to follow the courtesy. If others don't inform you when doing things, you shouldn't be in love but stick to your cold butt. If he doesn't notify you of something, he may not have a good relationship with you; he may also look down on you at all. In this case, don't follow the rules just to please someone. Just pretend you don't know without notifying me.
Second, don’t follow the rituals that are intended to make money. In the past, in many places, in order to make money, people would create a grand event in order to make money. From weddings and funerals to children's full moon, as long as there was a reason to receive gifts, relatives and friends would be invited to hold a grand party. The purpose was to get the gifts and let people "see the gifts." "Change" is very annoying. Now that the state has tightened control, this unhealthy trend has been eliminated. Don't follow this kind of etiquette. After all, money does not come with strong winds.
Third, don’t follow the gifts that come but never go away. Suiting with etiquette requires reciprocity. Some people are stingy or like to take advantage of others. When they have something to do, they hope that everyone will follow the etiquette. The bigger the gift, the better. But when others are in trouble, pretend to be deaf or dumb or just give a small courtesy. You'd better not go with such people when something happens, so as not to get angry.
Giving and receiving gifts is a kind of etiquette, the purpose is to enhance the relationship between relatives and friends. Don't let the gift change your taste.
First, we must not take the wrong path.
Be honest and aboveboard and walk the right path. Taking the wrong path will never end well.
The second is that you cannot walk on small roads.
Trails mainly refer to shortcuts. Do things in a down-to-earth manner, one step at a time. Relying on cleverness, taking small paths, and taking shortcuts will never lead to great success.
The third is a dead end.
It is not enough to work hard to do anything. You must keep track of the direction and don't deviate from the goal. If the direction is wrong, you must adjust. Don't go to the dark side and don't know how to adapt.
We must keep our eyes on the distance, identify the target, and walk our path steadily.
I am a little turtle lying on the window watching the rain. Let me answer this question.
There are many common sayings and old sayings, most of which come from the summaries of countless predecessors’ experiences in dealing with people in life. The words are rough but not crude, the words are simple but profound, and they are particularly worthy of our careful appreciation. Today we will take a look at what is meant by "Don't borrow money if there are three things to do; don't follow three principles (etiquette) if you have them; don't follow the path if there are three things to do".
I am Zhenjun, I will answer.
There are three ways to avoid borrowing money
"There are three ways to avoid borrowing money", which refers to "people who don't borrow to make a living, don't borrow to be poor, and don't borrow without integrity".
First of all, "Don't lend money to others" actually means don't lend money to people you don't know well. Many people just meet by chance and have no friendship, and some are even strangers with no connection, such as Friends of friends. When this kind of person comes to borrow money from you, you should be careful. If you lend it out, you may not be able to get it back. If you meet someone on the street who comes to you to borrow money for a taxi or a meal, then nine times out of ten, this person is a liar.
The second is "Don't lend money to the poor". Of course, there are preconditions here. It means don't lend money to those who are poor and have no ambition. If you lend money to such people, it is tantamount to borrowing money from them. Rou Baozi will never come back if he beats a dog, and this will not change his living conditions. As the saying goes, it is better to teach a man to fish than to teach him to fish. If you lend money to such a person, it will only make him lazier. Of course, if you want to do some business or other professions to change your destiny, but you need money urgently, you can borrow it.
The third is "Don't borrow from people without integrity". Regarding this point, I think there is no need to go into too much detail. As the saying goes: "It's not difficult to borrow something if you borrow it again." If people always borrow money from you but don't want to pay it back, then there is no need to lend it to them again.
There are three kinds of etiquette and not following etiquette
Following etiquette is a custom of the Chinese people. After all, we have been a country of etiquette since ancient times and attach great importance to etiquette. It is common for people to come and go with etiquette. But these three kinds of etiquette must not be followed. Which three are they? The first is that there is no invitation; it is an ungrateful gift; the third is that there is no return;
First of all, if others have not invited you, then there is no need for you to join in the fun. . Take some banquets in rural areas as an example. Not all hosts invite everyone, but often just some family members, so there is no need for you to join in the fun at this time. Whether someone does it intentionally or not, as long as you are not invited, it is best not to go.
The second is the "immoral gift". In some places, some people hold banquets just to "receive gift money". The purpose is very simple. For example, several families in the author's hometown are like this. As soon as various events occur, banquets will begin. Whether it is a housewarming, a wedding or a funeral, or a child's full moon, or the child's admission to college, it must be held with great fanfare. Of course, control is now stricter, so many of them have stopped. But no matter what, there is no need to follow this kind of ceremony.
The last thing is "a gift that never comes back". Suili is all about reciprocity. You give me a hundred, and when your family has something to do, I will give you 120 or 150. But if the gift is only 50, then the host will naturally be unhappy. Some people don't even follow it at all, so next time you are more discerning about a gift like this, you don't have to follow it.
There are three ways not to take the road
The so-called "the road has three steps" refers to: "Don't take the dangerous road; don't take the crooked road; don't take the unfamiliar road";
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First of all, for those dangerous roads, it is best not to go there unless there are some special reasons. Of course, this kind of road refers to both the road in reality and the road in life.
In reality, dangerous roads are always deserted and full of dangers. For the sake of personal safety, it is best not to go there. As for the dangerous roads in life, although they are often unavoidable, you must be fully prepared before taking them.
The second is not to take the wrong path. The "crooked road" here refers to the "crooked path". People should take the sunny road and should not take the crooked path. No matter what happens, we must behave appropriately and do things rightly, and we should not play around or act recklessly.
The last thing is not to take unfamiliar roads. Of course, this refers not only to the road in real life, but also to the road in life. On a strange road, we don’t know the real situation, and we will fall if we are not careful. So we should actively avoid this path.
There are many common sayings in China. Since they are common sayings and they are still passed down to this day, there must be some truth to them.
Just like "Don't borrow money when there are three things, don't follow etiquette when there are three things, don't follow the road when there are three things." It can be said that many people have learned this after long-term observation.
Let’s talk about why there is such a statement.
1. People who love gambling cannot borrow money.
Because this is harming others, and at the same time, the money you cannot borrow is equivalent to wasting money.
Therefore, you cannot lend money to such a person.
2. You can’t lend money to such a person even if you know he is a scammer.
It can be said that the morality of this kind of person is questionable. If you lend money to him, it means that you do not intend to take the money. In fact, for them, even if they have money, It may not be paid back.
Therefore, you cannot lend money to Lao Lai.
3. Don’t lend money to people you don’t know well.
Some people may borrow money after they have only known each other for a few days. You cannot borrow money like this because you don’t know him or her past.
The risk of lending money to such a person is still very high.
Therefore, the above people must be careful when borrowing money.
Chinese people have the habit of following the etiquette. Generally, when there is something going on at home, such as a wedding or funeral, the folks in the countryside will follow the etiquette.
However, some rituals do not need to be followed.
1. There is no need to follow the etiquette when getting promoted, moving to a new home, or children taking exams.
Although these are all happy events, they have not yet reached the point where everyone should follow the ceremony.
This means don’t be too polite.
2. People who have not been in contact for many years do not need to be polite.
Just like what many netizens said, classmates who have not seen each other for many years, colleagues who have not been in contact for many years, suddenly contacted one day, and said that they were getting married, that they were going to have children, and that they wanted to get together in the past. .
This is usually called a courtesy. Since there has been no contact for many years, it means that the friendship is not good, so it is better not to give such a gift casually.
3. Don’t give gifts without reason.
Some people may have something to do and need to follow the etiquette, and many people do. However, whether you want to follow the trend or not, you cannot follow the trend. You must consider your relationship with this person and whether you will stick your hot face on someone else's cold ass.
This must be taken into consideration. It is not allowed to follow the etiquette at will without any reason.
1. Don’t take unfamiliar roads.
Everyone should be aware of this. After all, unfamiliar roads may be full of uncertainties. Of course, this is more applicable to ancient times.
2. Don’t take lonely roads.
3. Don’t take the wrong path.
In short, all these common sayings have a certain truth. Of course, some of them may be outdated, but it is undeniable that these common sayings contain a certain philosophy.
In our hometown, there is a saying: "If you have money, don't borrow it; if you have etiquette, don't follow it; if you have road, don't follow it." Every time we chat with the elderly in the village, they always tell us this sentence. Maybe everyone is curious, what does this mean?
The old man in our village explained it this way;
"There are three things you should not borrow money from", which refers to "Don't borrow money to live, don't borrow money from poor people, and don't borrow money from people with no integrity".
First of all, "Don't lend money to others" actually means don't lend money to people you don't know well. Many people just meet by chance and have no friendship, and some are even strangers with no connection, such as Friends of friends. When this kind of person comes to borrow money from you, you have to pay attention. If you lend it out, you may not be able to get it back. If you meet someone on the street who comes to you to borrow money for a taxi or a meal, then nine times out of ten, this person is a liar.
The second is "Don't lend money to the poor". Of course, there are preconditions here. It means don't lend money to those who are poor and have no ambition. If you lend money to such people, it is tantamount to borrowing money from them. Rou Baozi will never come back if he beats a dog, and this will not change his living conditions. As the saying goes, it is better to teach a man to fish than to teach him to fish. If you lend money to such a person, it will only make him lazier. Of course, if you want to do some business or other professions to change your destiny, but you need money urgently, you can borrow it.
The third is "Don't borrow from people without integrity". Regarding this point, I think there is no need to go into too much detail. As the saying goes: "It's not difficult to borrow something if you borrow it again." If people always borrow money from you but don't want to pay it back, then there is no need to lend it to them again.
Following etiquette is a custom of the Chinese people. After all, we have been a country of etiquette since ancient times and attach great importance to etiquette. It is common for people to come and go with etiquette. But these three kinds of etiquette must not be followed. Which three are they? The first is that there is no invitation; it is an ungrateful gift; the third is that there is no return;
First of all, if others have not invited you, then there is no need for you to join in the fun. . Take some banquets in rural areas as an example. Not all hosts invite everyone, but often just some family members, so there is no need for you to join in the fun at this time. Whether someone does it intentionally or not, as long as you are not invited, it is best not to go.
The second is the "immoral gift". In some places, some people hold banquets just to "receive gift money". The purpose is very simple. For example, several families in the author's hometown are like this. As soon as various events occur, banquets will begin. Whether it is a housewarming, a wedding or a funeral, or a child's full moon, or the child's admission to college, it must be held with great fanfare. Of course, control is now stricter, so many of them have stopped. But no matter what, there is no need to follow this kind of ceremony.
The last thing is "a gift that never comes back". Suili is all about reciprocity. You give me a hundred, and when your family has something to do, I will give you 120 or 150. But if the gift is only 50, then the host will naturally be unhappy. Some people don't even follow it at all, so next time you are more discerning about a gift like this, you don't have to follow it.
The so-called "the road has three steps" refers to: "Don't take the dangerous road; don't take the crooked road; don't take the unfamiliar road";
First of all, for those who It is a dangerous road, unless there is some special reason, it is best not to take it. Of course, this kind of road refers to both the road in reality and the road in life. In reality, dangerous roads are always deserted and full of dangers. For the sake of personal safety, it is best not to go there. As for the dangerous roads in life, although they are often unavoidable, you must be fully prepared before taking them.
The second is not to take the wrong path. The "crooked road" here refers to the "crooked path". People should take the sunny road and should not take the crooked path. No matter what happens, we must behave appropriately and do things rightly, and we should not play around or act recklessly.
The last thing is not to take unfamiliar roads. Of course, this refers not only to the road in real life, but also to the road in life.
On a strange road, we don’t know the real situation, and we will fall if we are not careful. Therefore, we should actively avoid this path.
1. There are three reasons not to borrow money. Everyone’s money is earned with their own hard work, so be sure to keep your eyes peeled when borrowing money. The first one is not to borrow money from people you are not particularly familiar with. As the saying goes, a person’s strength is revealed through a long journey, and a person’s heart is revealed over time. Therefore, you should be more careful with the new friends you have just met, so it is best not to borrow money. Second, don’t lend to people who don’t keep their promises. It’s best not to lend to people who don’t keep their promises. The third type is not to lend money to people who benefit from it. When some people borrow money, they will promise that they will pay it back to them twice as much when they have more money. Maybe you will lend it to others casually because of such temptation, but who has Do you know if he will still do it? So we don’t borrow people like this either.
2. There are three things to follow in etiquette. Don't follow the immoral people, that is, those who hold a banquet for big or small things, such as buying a car and treating everyone to dinner. Congratulations, isn't this a clear sign of wanting a share of the money? We don’t want to take this money. Don't follow the courtesy of those who go to other people's banquets by yourself without inviting you. They may have smiles on their faces, but they may look down on them in their hearts. The third kind of people who don’t return your gifts don’t give them the gifts. As the saying goes: it’s not polite to come and not go back. Don’t give the gifts to those who you give them but they don’t give you the gifts. He followed suit.
What does it mean that there are three ways to go? Just don’t take the road that no one has traveled. Lu Xun once said: There is no road in the world. If there are more people walking, it will become a road. But this road will only become successful if there are more people walking on it. It will definitely not work if you are alone, so we mortals should just follow the common road in a down-to-earth manner. Don’t take unfamiliar roads. Everyone should know this very well. After all, there are so many bad people now, and we can’t take it for our own safety. The last way is not to take the road with a high starting point.
"Don't borrow money when there are three things, don't follow etiquette when there are three things, don't walk when there are three ways." is a widely circulated folk saying, although it is difficult to be used again in modern society. People have mentioned it, but what I have to say is that these things that are almost forgotten by us are the important wealth that our ancestors have summarized and left to us after countless confirmations. As for our descendants, we should really summarize and summarize this in order to better pass it on. Let me start here by saying that the sentence mentioned earlier, "Don't borrow money when there are three things, don't follow etiquette when there are three things, don't follow the road when there are three things" is actually mainly talking about how to get along with others.
"There are three things you should not borrow money from", which mainly means that you cannot borrow money from people you have just met, you cannot borrow money from people with bad credit, and you cannot borrow money from people with high interest rates. I have seen many various explanations on the Internet, but my understanding of this is that no matter who you are familiar with or not, if you borrow a little money, you will basically give it away, because you can’t ask for it; if you borrow a lot of money, you will basically give it away. Basically, you should not come back because others may not understand your predicament, so if you want to have a good interpersonal relationship, you must remember to save people in need rather than in poverty.
"There are three kinds of etiquette that are not followed", which mainly refers to not following the etiquette without reason, not following the etiquette when you are not invited, and not following the etiquette when you are not invited in return. This is easy to understand, it is our old saying "courtesy reciprocates". Yes, if you don’t know the other person at all, or you have met him once or twice, but he clearly did not call you, or he turned a blind eye to your courtesy, it is conceivable that none of the above will be reflected. If you show a little bit of respect, then there is no need to return the gift, and it is also considered a "courteous" reciprocity.
"There are three roads not to take", which mainly means not to take the road that others have not tried, the road that you are not familiar with, and the road that is too ambitious. From here we can see that whether it is borrowing money or giving gifts, or even the so-called road mentioned at the end, they are all using the experience of the predecessors to point out the way for our small boat on the vast sea. So at the end, I would like to sum it up very carefully, that is, "Don't borrow money when there are three things, don't follow the etiquette when there are three things, don't follow the road when there are three things." This means, don't help the poor when you are in need, reciprocate courtesy, and be down-to-earth.
First, there are three reasons why you should not borrow money.
Don't lend money to people you don't know well, people you don't have any contact with or meet by chance, as they will either never get the money back, or they are just plain scammers. I hope you won't be fooled. Second, people who don't borrow money are already heavily in debt and have to borrow money from others to fill their own financial holes. The day when they can pay back the money is far away. People who don't lend money and are untrustworthy borrow money over and over again without any intention of returning it. Then please don't extend a kind helping hand. When you are in need of money, you will know what "it's the uncle who borrowed the money." It’s the grandson who has the money.”
Second, there are three things that don’t follow the etiquette. If you don't follow the unscrupulous people, some people use the pretext of entertaining guests to squeeze money from relatives and friends. As long as there is a little happy event at home, they will entertain guests with great fanfare. In fact, it is all for everyone's gift money. Please treat it carefully. Second, don’t show up to someone you haven’t invited. If you are not invited at all during a wedding, there is no need to show up with such a gift. This is a sign of lack of sincerity, so why should anyone ask someone to show up with a gift? Three non-reciprocal etiquettes. If someone invites you as a guest and you accept the etiquette, but when your own family invites guests, the other person does not attend and does not follow the etiquette. The next time his family entertains guests, there is no need to follow the etiquette. Reciprocity is the principle of reciprocity. It is a tradition that reciprocating gifts is a virtue. Although you don't want the gift money, you should treat others how others treat you. Don't suffer in vain because of face issues.
Third, there are three roads not to take. Don't take the road to nowhere, don't take the road that no one has traveled before, because you don't know whether the next step will lead to an abyss or a trap. Second, don’t take the road you haven’t traveled before. If you rush forward in an unfamiliar place, you are likely to get lost or walk into a den of tigers and wolves. Third, do not take dangerous roads. If you are on a too narrow and dangerous road, you may fall into an abyss accidentally. In fact, this also reflects the choices in life. Don't be the first to try something that no one has done before; don't do it easily if you are unfamiliar with a career. Although you should be brave enough to challenge it, you must also see it clearly. Whether it is a trap by others, or it is full of difficulties, and the rewards are not proportional to the efforts; please think twice before doing anything that is too risky, there is no regret medicine in the world.
Our ancestors left us many sayings, and these sayings are all very reasonable. Once you learn these common sayings, you can handle the relationship between people well.
As the saying goes, "Don't borrow money if there are three things, don't follow etiquette if there are three things, and don't follow the road if there are three things to do."
So, what do these three sentences mean?
There are three things you should not lend money to: The general meaning is that if you are an unreliable person, you cannot lend him money.
Gamblers cannot borrow: The first of the three no-borrows means that if this person is a gambler, such a person must not lend money to them. If you lend money to them, you are harming them. Of course, the most important thing is that you are also harming yourself.
Lao Lai cannot borrow: The second type of the three "no borrowing" means that if this person is a Lao Lai, he will never repay the money he borrows. Of course, such a person cannot borrow money. Lent to him.
Lazy people cannot borrow: The third type of "three no borrowings" refers to the person who has both feet, but is a lazy man and does nothing. Of course, such a person cannot borrow money. Gave it to him.
There are three things to follow when it comes to etiquette. People living in rural areas know that following etiquette is a common thing, but there are also things to pay attention to when following etiquette.
Some rituals can be performed anywhere, while some rituals cannot be performed anywhere.
Type 1: If you haven’t seen someone for many years, don’t use this kind of courtesy. Because such people have no fixed abode, you have not seen them before, and you may not see them in the future.
Even if such a gift is given casually, it will be like wasting money in vain. What we pay attention to with etiquette is reciprocity and reciprocity. So don’t take this kind of random gift lightly.
The second type: A gift that does not invite you will not come anywhere.
For example, if someone holds an event and you were not invited originally, in this case, don't go along with the ceremony to avoid embarrassment.
The third type: Don’t follow the etiquette that is unclear. We all pay attention to the etiquette. For example, when we are named on the gold medal list, we marry a wife or have a daughter or there are elderly people in the family, we must follow the etiquette. . We should not follow other rituals that are cleverly named.
So, why does the road have three steps?
The first type is that you cannot take the path of breaking the law. Everyone knows that you cannot do illegal things. We won’t explain this, everyone knows it.
The second type is that you cannot take the dangerous road. Generally speaking, when we do things, we must pay attention to safety. We cannot take the path where there is a risk of luck.
The third type is that you cannot follow the path set by others.
People are selfish. What we have to believe in is ourselves. If we take a path planned by others, we must also examine whether this path can work.
So it is better to believe in yourself than in others.