The following is the story of a 34-year-old divorced woman. Let's take a look at this person's past experience, hoping that everyone can get some inspiration from it and understand the importance of money to marriage. The story of a 29-year-old divorced woman: I am a 34-year-old woman. She is a well-funded organization with a fixed salary every month and no extra money. I am the happiest person that many colleagues in my family have ever seen, not one of them. After graduation, I married my husband and gave birth to a son in the first year after marriage. Both parents are healthy, have real estate and savings, and there is no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Brothers and sisters have a good relationship, and they also have a good relationship with their sisters-in-law. My son is cheerful and sensible, and lives in the same community as his parents-in-law. They are very concerned about small families and fertility issues. The family atmosphere is harmonious and the relationship between husband and wife is harmonious. As long as my husband is at home, I can basically do what I want without lifting my finger. He can do housework, and my son's study consultation is all-inclusive.
He takes care of his family, makes money, doesn't bother, loves me and respects me. He will give gifts and surprises at various festivals, and they will date or accompany their son to outdoor activities every weekend. Generally speaking, our family lives in a happy family and there is nothing to worry about, so the whole person looks very good, very young, in his thirties, and looks like he is in his twenties. The turning point happened two years ago. Under the influence of this epidemic, my husband's business is basically at a standstill. To make matters worse, he trusted others and invested in two projects elsewhere. One lost hundreds of thousands of dollars. Resignation and another "big project" blocked almost all our assets. I borrowed hundreds of thousands from a friend and 3 million from the bank, so the monthly interest almost used up my salary. But even so, the project is still asking for money, and the repayment date of bank loans is getting closer and closer. From then on, I was completely bad. I'm going to sell my old house to make up for this investment failure, but he still refuses, because he thinks it's ancestral property and can't be sold.
Then I said I sold the part I lived in and bought a small part with the extra money. He said it was too painful, and it was too shameless for relatives and friends to know. So we changed from almost no quarrel in the past to a big quarrel for nearly three days and then a small quarrel for two days. All kinds of economic pressures made him grumpy, and I became anxious, and the family atmosphere became very depressed. I began to pay attention to my son's study and began to blame myself, depressed and colleagues. Everyone says I suddenly look old. After struggling for a year, the debt pressure is getting bigger and bigger. The family is already trying to make ends meet. These people are still trying to keep these two unique houses, and they are still investing in projects with bank money. There is no expectation of making money, and the speed of spending money and bank loans makes us breathless. Of course, the house belongs to my husband, and the debt is borrowed from my own account. Because there is no suitable solution, the child is about to take the college entrance examination. As a last resort, I filed for divorce, hoping to provide a quiet environment for my children. I didn't say anything about money He took on all the debts by himself.
As my income was not high, he promised to let me live with my children in that old house. I refused and took the child home. Although life will be better after divorce, I still can't give up. If my husband decided to invest money and I stopped him in time, then our small family would definitely not be like this. Neither of his parents touched him. Out of embarrassment, her mother-in-law gives her children 3000 yuan a month for living expenses. I began to be frugal and began to think about how to save money quickly, because I experienced a shortage of money and I began to know how to cherish it. Three thousand yuan is used to pay for family expenses and children's study expenses. Because living in my parents' house is not expensive, my salary is saved every month. Divorced for two years, saved more than 200 thousand. The first step of a happy marriage is to let women learn to "save money"
I used to live a stable life without pressure, so I didn't leave myself a way out. I just realized how important it is for a small family to have money. In the future, in many places, children will spend a lot of money in Qian Qian, go to college, work and get married after graduation. I think I still have a long way to go. In this series of changes, I am most grateful for my work. At least she's stable. It gives me a certain sense of security and a fixed income, so I won't face it. Faced with these accidents in my life, I am so scared. Money can solve most contradictions in life. It is true that poor couples are very sad. Women are the feng shui and soul of a family. Women's money is money. Her correct concept of wealth can save money and greatly improve the family's ability to resist risks.
On the one hand, women have a certain understanding of financial management, so when men spend money to invest, they can help to check, don't put their eggs in the same basket, avoid investment failure and return to liberation overnight. Things have happened before. On the other hand, women are more conservative than men, they will save money, and they are even more reluctant to spend money. Money can be used as the basis for small families to guard against risks. The child will prepare for school in the future. If anything happens to his family, the money in hand can also solve the urgent need. Don't believe that there are too many trivial matters in marriage and interpersonal relationships, and every step is inseparable from money. For a woman, the first step in a happy marriage is to learn to "save money" and hold that money in your hand. No matter how good the relationship is, a woman must master at least part of the family financial situation. This is the bottom line that women should have in marriage, and this bottom line must be maintained. Many people may say that men say that I love spending money and I can't manage money, so I'm not allowed to manage money, which leads to my own spending and earning. What should we do in the moonlight?
Then I suggest that you first establish a correct concept of wealth, understand some basic financial management knowledge, and start with a progressive concept to make yourself aware of financial management and family wealth planning. Poor Dad Rich Dad by Japanese-American writer Robert Toru Kiyosaki is probably the best financial book. The sales volume has been the first for many years in a row, and its concept of wealth has influenced countless people. If a woman wants to manage her small family well, she must know how to manage the property at home. She must read this book. Believe me, you will never stop studying "poor dad and rich dad" and "financial quotations" in this book. Even, you can further realize the freedom of wealth through it. I hope every woman (such as Gu Jia in Thirty) can have a long-term vision and regard financial management as a lifelong career. Even though she is a woman, she can rely on her own strength. To protect your little family. As long as the wealth and health of a small family, coupled with the good feelings of husband and wife, then family life will at least not be worse. what do you think?