No one will keep you dependent and help you unconditionally. Dependence on parents and friends is only temporary. You can trust them temporarily, but you can't rely on them for a lifetime.
Parents will eventually get old, relatives can't be around forever, and friends can't continue to help.
Finally, I found out: reliable all my life or only myself?
Depend on others and you will lose.
There is a saying: "People who can't obey themselves must accept orders from others."
How can you control your own destiny by relying on others, looking at their faces, being instructed by others and being pushed around?
The road of life is very long. You always rely on others and pin all your hopes and dreams on others, so you can't get a real sense of security and you can't really have a free and carefree life.
Su Qing, a female writer, was bound by her family because of her arranged marriage.
In order to take care of her family and have children, she gave up her college studies and dropped out of school to raise a baby at home.
In order to have a son, she not only gave birth to four children in succession, but also stopped breastfeeding in June according to her mother-in-law's words, just to resume her menstrual period in advance and get pregnant again.
To protect her family, she forgave her husband's affair twice.
San Xiao was pregnant and she was slapped by her husband. This slap finally woke her up after ten years of indifferent marriage. She finally realized that relying on anyone can't be happy, and happiness can only be achieved by herself.
After the divorce, she began to find herself, writing articles with her talents and words to make a living.
Starting with the book Ten Years of Marriage, she became famous by World War I, and started her first successful war after divorce, becoming one of the hottest best-selling writers in Shanghai literature. Since then, she no longer depends on others for happiness, just to fulfill herself.
As Wang Guozhen said: "Opportunity is for yourself, and fate is in your own hands; Life is your own land, why should you rely on the color of others? "
It is better to rely on your own ability than to rely on others. Only by strengthening yourself without relying on others can you gain the respect and appreciation of others and get a sense of security that truly belongs to you. It is always good for men and women to live on their own.
Self-reliance is the king of survival.
There is a line in "The First Half of My Life": You have to walk slowly step by step on the road, and you have to bear the pain bit by bit, so that you can be reborn in cramping and peeling. There is no other shortcut, countless people want to go, but they will be shattered if they are not careful.
Most of us are ordinary people, not all of us are from superior backgrounds, and not all of us have a prominent family background. We are just a dust in the ordinary world, drifting with the tide.
On the long road of life, only by our own efforts, we can open the way when we meet mountains, bridge when we meet rivers, and walk slowly step by step, so that we can see hope and glory and walk out of Yangguan Avenue on our own.
At this time last year, my friend Hui Ge's happiest number was finally admitted to the dream company, but he found that a colleague from the department came in with family ties, and he was unqualified in terms of work level.
In addition to dragging down the team many times, the relationship with the team is tense and the work attitude is also very lazy. Every time he meets a new project, he always fails and leaves in a few days. Just because she has this relationship, she will not be fired.
After a year, Brother Hui worked hard and got the impression of promotion. Colleagues still stand still.
According to Brother Hui, that colleague was too troublesome to take the initiative to apply and was transferred to a simpler and more leisurely job.
Fate comes out step by step.
If you want to acquire knowledge, you must first improve your ability. If you want to gain trust, you must first be an honest person. If you want to be respected, you must first learn to respect yourself.
Many people are born ordinary, but they don't complain, stand on their own feet, go all the way and try to get rid of a better life on their own.
Instead of pinning our hopes on others, we should devote more time to becoming independent and powerful.
Self-reliance is the king of survival.
People should fulfill themselves.
Zhang Ailing's Half-Life says so. "When you reach middle age, you will always feel lonely, because when you wake up, everyone around you is relying on him for survival, but he has no one to rely on." So learn to get used to living alone from now on, and your future life will be more exciting.
In fact, it's not just middle-aged people. The more experiences, everyone has their own troubles, and every family has endless experiences. It is the duty of others to help you, but it is their duty not to help you.
The more painful you are, the more you need to know how to save yourself.
Difficulties can only grow into trees if they are solved by themselves, money can only face all kinds of difficulties and dangers in life if they earn it by themselves, and families can only be happy if they run their own businesses. Only by relying on your own experience can you be unique in your life.
In Farewell My Concubine, Doudou's master said to them, "This man, only he can fulfill himself."
I deeply believe that a beautiful life will always be made by myself. I have no ability, and it's no use relying on anyone.
How hard you work, how beautiful your life will be, and it is always you who ultimately decides what kind of life you can live.
A person's supporters are only himself, and a great person is himself. No one can help you except himself.
Yu Hua said this. "There is no repetition of the same road in the world, and no one can replace your life. Everyone can enjoy his life only after experiencing many difficulties. "
From now on, don't envy others, don't envy others, be neither humble nor supercilious, be calm, and rely on all your efforts to go on step by step. Sooner or later, you will live the life you want and become the person you want to be.
So, it's up to you to make the wind and water flourish.