There is a saying that "those who love to go out love to come back, and those who are blessed will be blessed."
You think of others, and I believe others will think of you. If you help others and contribute your own blessings, your blessings will be more and more in the future. This is a blessing for people.
Why do we often talk about "getting married"? It is because of good karma that it is not only related to our own happiness, but also to the rise and fall of our family.
As the saying goes, "it is always difficult for a good man to be bad at home." When people are prosperous and families are prosperous, then happiness will come. "
It's good to be blessed. However, if our family is not blessed, then we will be unlucky. If we do well by ourselves and have a good family, future generations will be more prosperous.
Of course, the blessing of family will not appear out of thin air after all, it needs us to pay something. There is a saying that "always say what you think and seek more happiness." Blessing, we earned it.
You will eventually understand that the best "good karma" of a family is mostly related to these points.
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The first point: The family wants Qi Xin to work together and fight less.
If you want a family to lose quickly, you only need to do one thing, that is, let the whole family "fight each other."
You are against me, I am against her, and she is against you. In this way, the family has become a mess, and everyone has their own small abacus. I believe this family will never develop.
There are two families in the town. The family is rich and powerful, but they all like fighting. The other family is ordinary, but the whole family is friendly.
Ten years later, the first family lost because of "throats", and all the money was lost by future generations. The second family made a fortune because of the family's Qi Xin, and now they are relatively rich.
Between the rich and the poor, there is only the word "Qi Xin works together". Don't think that a person who is strong can ignore his family. Sometimes, when the whole family is strong together, the effect of "one plus one is greater than two" can be exerted.
The greatest blessing of a family is that you and I work together to fight for the rise of the family.
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The second point: the family should be United and there should be no cracks in the relationship.
Why does the family in "Self-cultivation and Family Harmony" rank behind self-cultivation?
People who don't know how to cultivate self-cultivation and deal with family relations can't even manage their families well, let alone make a bigger career.
Dealing with family relationships seems simple, but it is particularly difficult to do. For example, how to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, how to maintain the parent-child relationship, and how to keep the relationship between husband and wife fresh are all issues we need to think about.
If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not handled well, the problem of "separation of relationship" will appear.
If the parent-child relationship is not handled well, the relationship between parents and children will fall apart.
If the relationship between husband and wife is not handled well, it is the most fatal, because the whole family will be affected by the "contradiction between husband and wife."
In order to properly handle these relations, our first step is to balance the interests of all parties and try to be "United".
Family members are satisfied and know "single-minded". How bad can families be?
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The third point: pay attention to family style and family education.
Some educators believe that the ethos of a family will have an immeasurable impact on the next generation. Perhaps most people's life trends are related to the family atmosphere.
Some people are gentle, especially educated and speak in an orderly way, so his family style will never be bad. And some people are furious and violent, so there must be something wrong with his family.
Why does "family style" affect a person's temperament and cultivation?
In some real families, they emphasize "family atmosphere". For example, the families of intellectuals emphasize the atmosphere of reading, the families of businessmen emphasize the atmosphere of socializing, and the simple families emphasize the atmosphere of diligence.
These good atmospheres will enable children to receive "excellent" and "irreplaceable" education. On the other hand, once the family atmosphere deteriorates, our future generations will fall into the land of "beyond redemption".
Therefore, attaching importance to family style construction and family education are complementary.
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The fourth point: be honest and not too mean.
Mencius said that I am good at cultivating my noble spirit.
In Mencius' view, people should cultivate their own "noble spirit". Awesome spirit is the most masculine and upright breath in the world. It can also be attributed to people's positive and enterprising spirit.
In modern society, families tend to be more feminine and less masculine, which is a bad phenomenon.
Especially in some families with incorrect outlook on life, parents educate their children to gain their own interests by suppressing others by any means. This is not correct.
There are also some families who basically regard the word "money" as a family motto and only instill the concept of making money in their children. This is not conducive to family development.
All extreme thoughts, all violent acts and all improper means will create a dark atmosphere. The result will only make people feel sinister and dark, without any benefit.
Only by cultivating honesty and integrity is the right way for families and even the whole society.
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