In the case of burying the dead, leaving the coffin in temples and other places for future burial can also be called stopping the spirit. Wake: During the wake, relatives and friends present, especially the younger generation of the deceased, take turns to guard the deceased in the mourning hall and accept condolences from mourners. During the whole funeral, the younger generation (called dutiful son/daughter) close to the deceased wore white seamless coarse clothes or jackets, tied with straw ropes or hemp ropes at the waist and sandals at the feet, which was called mourning. Coat: In front of family members, move the deceased into the coffin with a mattress, cover it with a quilt, and nail it to seal the coffin. Wealthy families may use an inner coffin and an outer coffin to place funerary objects. Funeral: Send the coffin to the cemetery for burial. The sign of the beginning of the funeral is that the dutiful son will break a clay basin, which is called "throwing the basin". Led by a dutiful son holding a "talisman", a band played and distributed paper money to the cemetery along the way. The burial ceremony was assisted by Feng Shui master. Burning Seven: After burial, relatives and friends go to the cemetery once every seven days to burn paper money, seven times a day for forty-nine days. There are also similar activities such as evoking souls and burning paper money, which are called "doing seven". The ceremony on the 49th day was called "Breaking Seven", which was the end of the official funeral. Filial piety: According to the Confucian tradition, the dutiful son should stay in front of his parents' grave for three years, during which he should avoid socializing, drinking and eating meat, and the husband and wife should share the same room. Memorial tablet: Family members offer incense to a memorial tablet with the name of the deceased written on it. Grave-sweeping: During their stay in Tomb-Sweeping Day, relatives and friends repair and clean the cemetery.
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Funeral etiquette is a special culture handed down in China for five thousand years. There is a big gap between different regions, even in villages with dozens of miles of sunshine, some remarks and practices are not the same. The following etiquette should be popular in Houcun Town of lanshan district. I don't quite understand some statements. I hope those who know these etiquette can correct me. If someone dies in someone's house, you must give someone some money to apologize before you can move the body. Even if the house belongs to the son-in-law, it is not only the immediate family members who have died that have to give money (immediate family members refer to children and grandchildren), and the money doesn't care how much. Nowadays, many dead people are in the hospital. Generally, the body does not need to be moved home and sent directly to the funeral home. There is no question of who to give the money to. In short, the less the body moves, the better. When the body is moved, the children directly under it are usually there to comfort the body, such as don't be afraid of so-and-so, everyone will take you to your new home and so on. It depends on the person. If you die at home, you need to summon the soul when your body moves. The method is to take a burning piece of paper and move it around the wall. If the burning note is fixed in that place, it means that the soul of the deceased is there. Then collect the soul with burning notes, pass it out of the window, put it next to the body, and enter the cremation furnace with the body. A piece of paper, for those who are in mourning, should be cut on a wooden stick with burnt paper paste and placed in front of the mourning hall. The stick should be made of wicker (what do you mean there is burning paper on the stick? ), stick a burning paper on the door leaf, indicating that someone in the family has passed away (it should be a burning paper for the man's death and a blank paper for the woman). The dutiful son can't go in and out of the house freely, and all foreign affairs activities must stop. (For these, many people have been asked, but they don't understand. People who understand are welcome to correct me. The mourning hall is the temporary residence of the deceased, which is temporarily for future generations or younger generations to pay tribute to. Nowadays, with the improvement of living standards, the remains in cities are generally not kept at home, (in rural areas, they are still mostly kept at home. ) Set a funeral table.
Just a portrait, a tree in front of the portrait, folded in white, which says, how old did you die, and so on. The table must be square, and then put four kinds, namely fish, meat, eggs, noodles, and fruit, but peaches are not allowed in the fruit (what do you mean by four dishes? Why not serve peaches? )。 In front is a furnace incense and an ever-burning lamp (the lamp should be made of plates, first find a plate, pour peanut oil into it, and then rub a slender wick with cotton to light it. Cotton thread should burn for three days. Since then, the incense and the ever-burning lamp can't be extinguished, only the body can be moved out or the coffin can be taken away. Humans can't put it out, they will spontaneously put it out. There is a jar in front of the table, called cornucopia (with a common name, called Laopen). All the burnt money is put in this jar and broken at the funeral. The detailed time is when the coffin is carried by "weightlifting". Send the disc field (sound meaning, personally think it should be to send the travelling expenses. ), the night after his death, (and the third day, usually no more than three days), when I saw him off, my eldest son was holding the coffin, and the man directly below him was holding a cane (that is, the wooden stick stained with burning paper mentioned above) to let the old man walk (be sure to lean on the cane with both hands and bow his waist). If the deceased was a male elder, a female elder or a junior, I don't know what to do. The rest of the descendants followed and prayed in a low voice, asking the deceased to take money to the crossroads. After burning the money, draw a circle to show that the money does not overflow. After the fire, relatives walked home crying. After returning to the mourning hall, he continued to cry for his portrait and coffin. At this time, men are usually indoors and women are outside. Then continue to burn paper horses at the crossroads (male elders burn paper horses, female elders burn paper cows, and younger generations don't know what to burn? ) cry bitterly after falling to the ground, and then return to the mourning hall in the order in which you came. Bow down, the mourning hall is usually four heads, and the dead children are around the mourning hall. After coming, others kowtow a few heads, and the dead child has to respond to a few heads. The so-called reciprocate for the elders (usually the eldest grandson is the gift, the lineal male, the lineal female. )。 I wonder how many people kowtow in other places. There are three and four. The etiquette there is to knock four heads, which means three gods and four ghosts, three immortals and four ghosts. In the coffin shed (that is, the coffin shed built before the funeral, not the mourning hall). You don't have to build it. The place is generally fixed, and every village has a fixed place. ), and nine kowtows. At this time, it is usually the son-in-law of the deceased who kowtows to his in-laws. At this time, it is a bow and a bow, and four kowtows are four diligence. The children of the deceased also bow with the bowing person (usually the grandson and nephew metabolize. ), then take three steps forward, bow down again, hold incense in the air first, and then toast three cups (women don't know if this is the case. ), and then take three steps back, four bows and four kowtows, which is the four laziness. There are nine * * * before and after, which is consistent with the saying of three worships and nine kowtows. When others go to worship, sons and grandchildren return gifts, and daughters usually cry on their desks. "Four diligence" means "one bow and one bow" and "four laziness" means "one bow and four bow". There is a gap between them. In Rizhao's view, it is called "four diligence and four laziness". Filial piety is divided into filial piety and filial piety. Filial piety refers to children, sons, daughters and grandchildren. Filial piety means that men wear white coats and shoes, and women wear white pants and shoes. If the grandson and son are not married, they just need to wrap their heads. If you get married, you need to wear a white coat and be filial to your parents. Filial piety is a son-in-law, a consort, and you only need a white cloth around your waist. Baotou is also very particular. If the deceased is male, tie it on the left; If the deceased is a woman, tie it on the right, provided that there are still elders alive, such as grandparents. Grandpa died and grandma is still alive, so the knot is on the left. If grandma dies later, there is no need to tie the knot on the left, just in the middle. A knowledgeable person usually knows who is dead and who is at home when he looks at the mourning clothes and knots. At the funeral, the son, daughter and grandson were in front. They used to hold the coffin. At present, people usually take pictures, walking in front and carrying coffins behind. The filial son, daughter and grandson turned and kowtowed to the coffin to show their respect for their elders. In ancient times, funerals were very grand, but now it seems that there are not many such sayings. Generally, the children or family members of the deceased can set up several tables at home or in restaurants. Weightlifting is the person who carries the coffin. Generally speaking, these people don't need to be paid, just ask them to have a drink together when they are buried. Yuanfen, on the third day after his death, got up early in the morning and went to Yuanfen to redecorate it, because on the day of burial, it is usually enough to add a pit. Three days before the grave, the so-called three days early and seven days late (why three days early and seven days late? )。 Circle the grave, that is, under the leadership of the eldest son, everyone around the grave, holding hooks, turn left three times, turn from three times, which generally means circle the wall for the dead. I don't know much about mourning, mourning, round grave and round grave. Welcome to correct me for my reference. I hope you can correct me.