My father-in-law is ill and suffered a sudden cerebral infarction. After the doctor's rescue, he is now out of danger, but he has lost consciousness in half of his body, cannot speak, and is incontinent.
My father-in-law is eighty-two years old. It has been more than thirty years since I have known him. I have almost never heard of him getting sick and he has always been very healthy. Just a few days before I fell ill, I took my mother-in-law to the market on an electric tricycle.
My parents-in-law live in the countryside, thirty kilometers away from us. I have always asked them to live with us in the city, but he always refused because he was not used to it. We saw that they were all in good health, so we didn’t force them.
At around one o’clock that afternoon, I received a call from my father-in-law’s neighbor, saying that my father-in-law had fallen and was now unconscious. My wife and I immediately took a taxi and rushed to the countryside to take him to the county hospital. After examination, the doctor asked about the time of his onset of illness and suggested that we take him to the city hospital immediately for "thrombolytic" surgery, saying that the effect might be better. We followed the ambulance to the city hospital without hesitation.
At this time, my father-in-law was already in a deep coma. The attending physician organized the medical staff to rescue the patient while discussing the surgical plan with us.
“The patient’s condition is very serious. The best time to perform thrombolytic surgery is within six hours of the onset of illness. An incision is made from the root of the thigh and a tube is inserted... The cost of the operation is about 65,000... … Considering the patient’s advanced age, there are still certain risks in the operation. According to your description, there is still one hour left before the optimal operation time. You have considered it, signed quickly, and performed the operation immediately..."
My wife and I followed the doctor, who took my father-in-law for a comprehensive examination before the operation: CT, MRI...
At this time, we were already dizzy and could hardly hear the doctor clearly. What I said was just repeating "Okay, okay!" mechanically.
Everything was ready, the operation started immediately, and we were "invited" out of the operating room by the doctor...
Suddenly the doctor's exclamation came from the operating room:
"The old man is awake!"
"The old man is getting up!"
"Don't I’ll perform surgery on you right away!”
My wife and I opened the door to the operating room. I saw my father-in-law getting up from the operating table tremblingly. My wife stepped forward and hugged him: "Dad, don't move. I will perform an operation on you soon. You will be fine after the operation."
The old man who was in a deep coma just now didn't know where he was at this time. With the strength he gained, he got up from the operating table, shook off his son's hand, shook off the doctor's hand, and landed on both feet - the paralyzed and numb right leg miraculously moved firmly, and with the help of his ability to move My wife and I immediately caught up with the old man. The old man ran about thirty meters and then fell to the ground. We hugged the old man and begged him hard for surgery.
My wife knelt in front of the old man, holding him and crying: "Dad, I know you are reluctant to pay the 65,000 yuan for the operation. My son is rich. As long as your disease is taken care of, no matter how much money it takes, It doesn't matter."
The old man collapsed on the ground and said in vague words: "Go home! Go home!"
At this time, the medical staff also surrounded him. He stepped forward and tried to pull the old man up and send him to the operating room again, but it was all in vain - the father-in-law squatted back with all his strength, and he refused to get on the operating table no matter what.
Time passed minute by minute. After the old man’s troubles, the best time for surgery had been missed. The attending doctor spoke at this time: "Since the old man can already move his legs and feet, and it has been more than six hours, the thrombolytic surgery is of little significance. Let's give up the surgery." He said this, but he shook his head and meant A lot of helplessness.
Finally decided to give up the surgery.
When the old man heard that there was no need for surgery, he let out a long breath, and a smile seemed to appear on his face. His face immediately darkened, and he fell into a coma again...
We He was immediately carried into the ward and did not wake up until five days later.
It has been nearly twenty days now, and the old man's condition has hardly improved.
My mother-in-law is blind and will never be able to see the world clearly. My father-in-law fell ill that day, and my mother-in-law said that he usually gets sick at twelve o'clock. Now that I think about it, it must not have been twelve o'clock, because it was twelve o'clock when my mother-in-law discovered that my father-in-law couldn't speak, but he must have been ill before that, but he didn't know it was a sign of cerebral infarction, and her mother-in-law couldn't see it. .
My wife and I blame ourselves. We should have brought them to our side a long time ago. At least at the beginning of his illness, we could have realized that the father-in-law’s illness would not be so serious.
Father-in-law and mother-in-law are married by fingertips. My mother-in-law was born when my father-in-law was six years old. She was born with unusual eyes, and it was not until decades later that the root cause was discovered - congenital glaucoma. The father-in-law has always disagreed with this arranged marriage. He fought with his father, but in the end he could not resist his father's majesty.
On the wedding day, my father-in-law ran away from the wedding. But three days later, she was found by her family and had to admit this extremely reluctant marriage.
Although my mother-in-law cannot see, she is very kind and hardworking. She just suffered her father-in-law's unwelcome treatment silently, not daring to complain at all. She felt that her eyesight was bad and she was too thin and small to be worthy of her handsome and tall father-in-law. Only by using her actions to influence her father-in-law, she believed that maybe one day her father-in-law would accept her. In the big family of her father-in-law, she rushed to do everything, never said much, and only answered her father-in-law's cold words with a smile.
Year after year, she finally influenced her father-in-law with her actions, and slowly her father-in-law accepted her mother-in-law. My love was born in the sixth year of marriage.
After having a child, the two hearts become closer and closer. The words that my father-in-law often talks about are "I am your eyes." No matter where he goes, he holds the hand of my mother-in-law. In my father-in-law's hometown, people will always see a tall man holding the hand of a thin woman. Hands, walking in the fields and ridges, in front of and behind the house, walking in the market...
They were in love all their lives, and their stories spread far and wide in the local area.
My parents-in-law only gave birth to one child, my wife, who went out to study when he was a teenager. Everything in the family belongs to my father-in-law. He became the production team leader when he was in his twenties and has been doing this for decades. He is a good person from all over the country. Whenever any family has any difficulties or any family conflicts, they always come to him to resolve any family conflicts.
For decades, he has been keen on studying the "Book of Changes". He helps fellow villagers look at house foundations, lays foundations for new houses, predicts a good life for newlyweds, uses fortune-telling to match marriages that are about to break up, and shows dead people the Feng Shui for burial... But he never accepts anyone. money. I often laugh at him and call him a charlatan, but he always smiles and says, "You don't understand. This is a good thing."
Now that he is ill, he doesn't know anything anymore. I later asked the doctor: "Why can a patient in a deep coma suddenly get up from the operating table and run thirty meters?"
The attending doctor said: "It is difficult to explain from a medical point of view. . Maybe it was his tenacity and love for his son.”
The doctor’s words made me enlightened. Yes, my father-in-law has told us more than once: "If I get seriously ill, I will definitely not drag my son down."
The old man is very ill now, and almost all our relatives have asked us to take him back. The family let him die slowly at home.
But my wife and I firmly disagreed. We insisted that the old man be treated in the hospital. We even thought it was worth keeping him alive for one more day. We all feel that we are ashamed of the old man. If we had taken him to live with him earlier, he would not have become so sick.
My father-in-law and mother-in-law have been very loving throughout their lives. They have been married for more than sixty years and have almost never been separated. My mother-in-law misses her sick father-in-law and talks about it every day, but she cannot see and it is not convenient to take her to the city hospital.
A few days later, in order to make it easier for the two elderly people to see each other and to take care of the blind mother-in-law, we transferred my father-in-law to the county people's hospital where we are located for continued treatment.
After more than twenty days of treatment, care, and recovery, he slowly gained some vague consciousness.
Sometimes I hold his hand and he holds it hard, and I know he thanks me for not giving up on him.
My wife and I have given up everything now, and we want to do our best to accompany the old man through his life.
The doctor said that my father-in-law’s IQ is now about the same as that of an eight-month-old baby. My mother-in-law sits next to him every day and tells him about the past, trying to revive his memory. My mother-in-law's words often bring tears to my eyes. I have actually watched their loving scenes on TV.
Now we have to turn him over every two hours and wipe him every four hours. But the most difficult thing is to deal with his defecation.
My father-in-law has always been in good health and eats a lot. Even though he was unconscious after getting sick, he still had to eat a lot of rice and porridge and urinate a lot.
When he was somewhat conscious, I changed his diaper. He was embarrassed and blocked his lower body with his hands, refusing to let me change it. I held his hand and gently said to him: "If you can give birth to a son, you can give birth to a wife. You only have one son, and I am your daughter. Grandma cannot see, so how can your son stay by your side all the time?" If I don't change it for you, who will?"
He slowly let go of his hand, and I could clearly see the tears in his eyes.
That day I finished handling his stool, wiped him clean, and went to get a diaper to put on for him. But when he turned around, he pulled again, grabbed it with his hand, and touched his head and face.
Seeing feces everywhere on his head, face, pillow, sheets, and quilt. Looking at this tall old man weighing more than 170 kilograms, I didn’t know what to do for a moment. I couldn't help but cry before I could clean it all up.
When he saw me crying, he looked at me blankly like a primary school student who had done something wrong. He didn’t understand what he had done wrong?
I vomited that day and couldn’t eat for the whole day. My mother-in-law felt very distressed when she saw it. She groped and patted me, and said to me apologetically: "I've made it difficult for you. It's all my fault that I can't see. All the things I should have done have been left to you!"
My mother-in-law’s words made me embarrassed. From now on, when I deal with my father-in-law's defecation, I try my best to restrain myself. Even if I want to vomit, I try not to make a sound. I'm afraid that my mother-in-law will feel sad after hearing this.
My wife has been staying in the hospital every day and night for more than 20 days, and she has lost a lot of weight. When the father-in-law is awake, he will sigh when he looks at his son. My wife comforted my father-in-law: "Dad, your life has not been easy. I have been working outside for so many years, and you have taken care of my mother for me for decades. When you are sick, it is my duty to take care of you. You just need to rest and recuperate!"
Sometimes my wife is tired and falls asleep beside my father-in-law’s bed. My father-in-law puts his hand on his son’s head and touches it slowly...
Every time I see this situation, I can't help crying. I saw a loving father and a filial son.
Yes, you grew up with me and I grew old with you. This picture is really heartwarming.
The doctor said to me: The old man is recovering very well, but this is only the first step in a long journey of thousands of miles. In the long days to come, the old man’s recovery will not only depend on medicines but also home care. Rehabilitation exercise is so important. The burden on both of you is too heavy to take care of a paralyzed 80-year-old man.
I told my spouse to find a caregiver. My wife firmly refused: "I would rather suffer myself. I can't let my old father suffer. He may not have long to live in this world. I want him to leave with peace of mind and myself with peace of mind."
My lover’s actions also touched my children. My son works in a government department. No matter how late every day, he always takes time to go to the hospital to accompany his grandfather. Sometimes he also helps with urination and defecation. He does not dislike the elderly at all. My son-in-law happened to be back from the army on vacation. He stayed with me in the hospital every night, got up several times a night, and even stayed up all night without any complaints.
Because of the old man’s illness, I feel that our family is closer, and I feel even more the value of family ties.
The little granddaughter, who is just over six months old, looks at the old man quietly in the video. The daughter-in-law asks her to call her "grandpa", and sometimes the old man can actually smile.
My daughter patted her belly when she was five months pregnant and said to her grandfather: "Grandpa, please get well soon. I still have to take care of my child!"...
This afternoon I With the help of my son-in-law, my wife moved my father-in-law into a wheelchair, took my mother-in-law with me, and pushed my father-in-law out to bask in the sun. Looking at the back of this family of three hugging each other and walking forward, my eyes became moist again...
My father-in-law is sick, and he may need us to take care of him for a long time, and maybe we will meet again There are a lot of difficulties, but as long as the family love is there, we will get through it smoothly. I also believe that my father-in-law will get better!
I wish my father-in-law a speedy recovery! I wish the elderly a long life!