(1)
When I was very young, I often went to her house, not because of her, but because of my uncle.
Or because of their two sons, my uncle likes girls very much and always buys me various snacks, beautiful clothes and white leather shoes.
But when I was a child, I didn’t have much impression of my aunt. The most important thing was that people always came to the house to look for her. Then she offered incense to the idol on the table, then knelt on the mat in front of her and kowtowed. After a while, he suddenly burps, and then gives answers to those who come to tell fortunes or ask questions.
When I was a child, on the one hand, I liked to listen to her talk about gods and goddesses, but on the other hand, I was afraid, because when I heard what she told others about ghosts and gods during the day, it often made me unable to sleep at night, and I always felt Those things are with me too.
Or maybe, when my parents had conflicts when I was a child, I would ride a bicycle to her house and ask her to mediate the conflict.
It seems that I have asked her for many things, and it has become a habit.
(2)
When I was in my senior year of high school, my mother went to work in Shenzhen. The stress of my senior year and missing my mother caused me to suffer from mental illness. But at that time, I didn’t know This is a disease I didn’t realize until the past few years. For example, I heard that a bus exploded in our area, and then I sat on the bus going home. I thought it would explode, and there would be no point in living anyway. Or maybe the aunt who cleans up in the dormitory will occasionally light some scraps of paper, and then I look at the small flame, hoping that it will burn bigger and bigger and burn the entire building, including me.
At that time, the person sitting behind me was a girl from the county town. Her mother was an English teacher in our high school, and her father worked for the city government. She also seemed a little strange. She didn't come to school for about a week. Later I heard that her parents took her to see a psychiatrist in Beijing.
The last thing I evolved into was that I didn’t want to go to school.
So I asked my head teacher for leave and went home for a few days. I told my dad that I was feeling irritable and didn't want to go to school.
After staying at home for less than a day, my aunt heard about it. She came to my house late at night, listened to my story, and looked at me again. It was said that I was entangled with some unclean things and needed to pay back the "son of man".
Anyway, at nine o'clock the next night, at my grandma's house in our old home, my aunt and one of her friends made paper figures. My dad prepared a big rooster, and my grandma prepared Lots of paper ingots. Then it seemed that I asked the paper man to put on my old clothes and shoes, and they performed rituals. In the end, my grandma sent me to my house, and my dad, my aunt, and her friends took those things to "do errands." That is to say, take those things to a deserted intersection and burn them.
Actually, when I was in elementary school, I would occasionally see some burned things at the intersection after school early, and occasionally there would be unburned paper ingots and clothing. I guess they did the same thing. Such a thing.
After staying at home for a few more days, I don’t know if it was because I was bored or if something really happened, so I went to school again.
(3)
When I was a freshman in college, my parents didn’t accompany me. My parents, who stayed with the earth all day long, were afraid that having their backs to the loess and face to the sky would affect my future life at school, so they insisted on letting my aunt accompany me. Also, at that time, my aunt told fortunes, worshiped Buddha, often went to different places, and she was considered a person who had seen the world.
Along the way, my aunt bought various snacks, two of which I remember clearly. They were also oranges, and they kept urging me to eat them, saying they would prevent me from motion sickness. We took the bus to school. The other thing is refreshing drinks, I bought four plates. I was already 18 years old at that time, and she still treated me as a child.
Go to school, arrange everything for me, and go back immediately. On the one hand, the new semester starts on September 1st, which is when corn is harvested in her hometown, and on the other hand, she has to go out to do errands for others (divine fortune, read Feng Shui, etc.). She took time out of her busy schedule to send me there.
Although she is just my aunt, she has participated in many important moments and decisions in my life.
At that time, I had no financial means, so I could only go home during the holidays and stay at her house for a few days. Most of the time, she and her uncle were busy making all kinds of delicious food for me.
(4)
After graduating from college, I made a living elsewhere.
During holidays, I will call her.
In the spring of the second year after graduation, I bought a spring dress for my mother and my aunt. Although it was not a big brand, my aunt would smile and say to everyone: "My niece bought this." "Actually, that very ordinary piece of clothing is nothing to her, but it's rare that she is very happy.
Later I fell in love with Mr. Zhang, who lives out of town, and my parents always disagreed. For them, marrying their daughter far away is equivalent to losing the daughter they have raised for 24 years.
So I took him to meet his aunt first, and the aunt looked at Mr. Zhang. At 1.71cm tall, although he is not tall in our family, he is gentle and courteous in conversation. The most important thing is that we feel like we are in love. Anyway, she was the one who always advised my parents to accept our relationship and accept Mr. Zhang.
After we got married, one day, my mother said that my aunt actually didn’t want me to marry far away, but seeing that Mr. Zhang and I had such a deep relationship, and Mr. Zhang was a nice person, she was afraid of being obstructed by my family. , affecting my future happiness. Or I would continue the noisy life of my parents for a lifetime, which she didn’t want to see in me. She wanted me to be happy in the future, so she always supported me and went to my house many times to persuade my parents.
In the fourth year of our relationship, when we were planning to get married, Mr. Zhang and I had a conflict because of poor communication on the wedding and bride price. Years of feelings.
I called my aunt in tears and complained about my grievances. Only in front of her can I dare to tell the truth. I told her that the bride price was put together by Mr. Zhang and I, and that the wedding was planned to be a traveling wedding, just to save money. But I feel very aggrieved. When other girls get married, the man takes care of everything. As for me, for Mr. Zhang, I had to bear all the wedding gifts and wedding gifts. At the moment before the wedding, I didn’t want to.
My aunt was also a little angry, but she still tried to persuade me rationally.
My aunt just asked me: "How do you feel about him in four years?" ""He is not bad, and he treats me very well. However, his parents don't care about the bride price or the wedding, and they still have to bear it on me," I explained. "I know a girl near our hometown. The two of them built the wedding house together, and they are living happily now. Therefore, as long as you identify this person, we will pay the money. After all, the money can be earned again in the future. Also, even if these words are over with me, you cannot mention them in front of him (Mr. Zhang) in the future, let alone let your parents know, they will definitely be angry. ”
Then she called Mr. Zhang to communicate.
In the end, the trip wedding was cancelled, and his parents came forward to hold the wedding.
(Five )
After I got married, I would go to my parents’ house during the holidays, and I always kept it in mind every time I went back to my hometown.
My eldest cousin is already married and has two children. In addition to fortune telling and feng shui, my aunt is also very busy with her own family affairs, but she is still very busy when it comes to my affairs. Take heart.
On my way home from get off work in 2015, I had a traffic accident. The perpetrator sent me to the hospital, but he didn’t show up the next day. Instead, he asked two gangsters from the community to come over and warn me that the police in the area were there. People in their family should not call the police, let alone blackmail. I didn’t call the police at the time, so there is no point in calling the police because the perpetrator’s family is very powerful and the police in the area have also said hello. (Why do you know so clearly? After she was hit, people from nearby supermarkets, car repair shops, and pharmacies came over. Many people said hello to her, and even picked up an old man and a child in the car. My tram was also dropped off by the owner of the car repair shop at their home. Three days. And in a high-end community nearby, we called the police after she left the hospital, but the police refused directly, saying that they didn't call the police immediately.)
I gave it. My mother and aunt both called, and they came over early the next morning. My aunt asked me to do various tests. Fortunately, I didn't hurt my muscles or bones, it was just a skin injury, and I needed to stay in bed for a month. Because I didn’t call the police immediately, the perpetrator never came forward. My aunt didn’t blame me. She just said, “Fortunately, it’s nothing serious. I’ll learn from it in the future.” ”
In August 2017, my daughter was ill and hospitalized. My aunt found out about it and came to the urban hospital with my mother and father to visit her (they were in the countryside below the county seat).
I learned that Mr. Zhang had to go to work and I was alone in the hospital. My parents and her hometown are also busy, and they can't leave. So the aunt asked her cousin to take leave and help take care of her. The aunt said to her cousin: "You and your brother are the only ones here. If you don't help your sister, who will?" The next day, my cousin came to the hospital early in the morning.
If anything happens to my parents, I will tell my aunt and ask her to help take care of it. Sometimes, when something happens at home, my aunt directly helps me without even telling me.
My mother has always been in poor health. Every year, my aunt goes with her for check-ups.
A few years ago, my mother needed minor surgery. Because I was raising the child alone and they didn’t tell me, my aunt took her directly to the hospital for the surgery. After the operation, I needed to replenish my body, so my aunt would bring a chicken over every once in a while for my mother to replenish her body. And all this was only told to me after my mother fully recovered.
My dad also often said to me: "Your aunt has something to do, and as long as you can help, you must help."
And all I can do is for her to come. My little cousin from the city is here, I'm going to see her. I went back to my hometown and went to her house to see her. As for the financial aspect, as long as she opens her mouth, I will definitely help her, but she never opens her mouth to me.
(6)
With my aunt here, I feel at ease outside.
As the saying goes: "My aunt is also half a mother." Indeed, all these years, my aunt has given me love and care. My aunt also tries her best to help our family.
And for all this, she asked for nothing in return. But I silently remembered it in my heart.