Out of curiosity, I asked him if he was short of money or something. He simply said, "Money is not money. In fact, there is no big funding problem now. But the most important thing is people. Relatives who can't beat gossip always take the opportunity to come to our house every day. Not only that, there are many friends who have become monks halfway, and they go in and out all day. You said not to let them in, but I'm sorry. After entering the house, they made it difficult for us to be human. "
After listening to my friend's complaints, I seem to understand a little. It is his life that has a taste, and others are eyeing him. And he and his family will not refuse, but will only make do with those people. So, what is the result? That's bitter for yourself, and it hurts your happiness for the rest of your life.
Many post-70s actually have a feeling that most people around you are people who hate and laugh at others. But it is such a person who is obsessed with himself, and you can't get rid of it.
Don't let those who don't care interfere with you all your life. Some people, who embarrass their lives, should leave and get rid of it. Don't let their arrival affect their life and happiness.
Get rid of relatives kidnapped by relatives.
There is a saying in "Augmented Xianwen": "The poor are not in the downtown area, and the rich have distant relatives in the mountains. I don't believe it, but look at the wine on the banquet, and respect the rich first. "
In this "human" society, in fact, everyone is a stranger, including those relatives who are somewhat related by blood. Why do you say that? This is because of their relationship with us. They are not what they seem. This relationship is the money relationship under the cloak of blood.
Especially this kind of relationship makes people feel very difficult. You know, dealing with outsiders is at least a real money relationship, but dealing with relatives is more "human feelings" in it. This favor is everyone's "seven inches".
To tell the truth, when these relatives ask you for a job, you can't refuse. If you refuse, you are afraid that others will gossip about you behind your back. Don't refuse, just afraid that your own interests will be damaged. At this hesitant moment, they will "kidnap" you with affection, you will be more embarrassed to refuse, and people will fall into the trap.
After 70 years, with more experience, you will understand how close such relatives are. It's not that relatives are bad, but people who often kidnap you with affection. They don't treat you as a relative at all, but only as a "big head".
The middle age of forty or fifty years old is a period of great pressure in life. If you don't know how to get rid of such people, how can you live comfortably? Life is not easy, don't always suffer for those who "hold high and step low".
Get rid of friends who "borrow money and don't pay it back"
I have heard a saying: "Borrow money once, and you can see each other's true colors."
The relationship between people, people and money, and money and money is always mutual. Rich, naturally full of guests and friends, many friends. But if you have no money, others will look down on you and even treat you as mud on your feet and grass by the river. Even relatives, let alone outsiders who are not related to you.
Treat outsiders, naturally can't be too harsh. But one thing can't be ignored, that is, "borrowing money and not paying it back." Someone once commented on people who borrowed money and didn't pay it back, saying that they were just a dog skin plaster that was repeatedly stuck, and it would only get tighter and tighter.
When people reach middle age, they are struggling under the pressure of car loans and mortgages. You know, after many people get up, the first thing that comes to mind is today's "three meals". It is in this case that money is under great pressure. Why should we lend money to those who are not grateful?
The relationship between people becomes money and is destroyed by money. There was once a friend who was poor and owed a lot of money to others. But even so, one of his brothers came to borrow money from him. A friend didn't want to embarrass his younger brother, so he embarrassed himself and lent him money outside alone. However, what happened later? It was this good brother who ran away and his friend took on the debt alone.
The friendship on the surface is not equal to the heart. No matter at what stage, people should understand that those who want to borrow money are not necessarily bad people, but those who can borrow money but don't pay it back must be sinister baiwenhang. In this way, only if it is broken, otherwise it can only be troubled by it.
Get rid of that baiwenhang who bites the hand that feeds him.
The old director of the unit once told us such a thing.
More than ten years ago, the old factory director and his classmates went to work in a factory together. When I first entered the factory, the old factory director was immediately promoted to a small manager of a department by the boss because of his outstanding ability and practical work. However, his classmates are not liked by their superiors because of their exaggeration, and they are often scolded by their superiors.
Seeing his classmates in such an environment, the old director always helps him cover up some things and do his duty as a friend. But because of this incident, the students thought that the old director looked down on him, so they moved their minds.
Once the old director received a task to discuss with the customer. That day, the classmate took the old director to drink, but the old director was embarrassed to refuse and promised to have a few drinks. Who knows, my classmate got him drunk with a trick. The old factory director also lost this list, and the factory suffered huge losses. The boss fired him because of his dereliction of duty.
The old director feels that he treats his classmates sincerely, but the classmates bite the hand that feeds them, turning their enemies into friends, which makes people feel chilling.
In middle age, don't let the baiwenhang surround you. Some people are born "anti-bone", just like a wolf. If you give it your own benefits, it will not only be ungrateful, but also want to eat you. Such people are a disaster, and no matter how good you are to them, you just get hurt again and again with your own money and blessings.
Get rid of relatives and friends who "hit people when they are down"
As the saying goes, "icing on the cake is easy, but giving charcoal in the snow is difficult."
In the past, people always thought that people in need were good friends. However, if you come across it frequently in the society, you will understand that the so-called "icing on the cake" is just an illusion, and it is not bad for others not to "hit people when they are down".
I once read a reader's message that he is almost in his fifth year this year, and there are many relatives and friends around him, but few people are really kind to him. There is quite a feeling of "I want to focus on the bright moon and the bright moon shines on the ditch" in Gao Ming's pen.
He said that his second brother borrowed100000 from him earlier, but he hasn't paid it back yet. Not only that, the second brother also told him that he just wanted to see him live badly and let him taste the taste of being down and out. This reader is very chilling because he knows that his second brother still has two properties and a large amount of business. Paying back money is a trivial matter. But others just want to hit people when they are down. What can they do?
In this case, I am still a brother. I can't help feeling that the ancients said that "brothers, clear accounts" is very realistic. Not only did you calculate the accounts clearly, but someone stabbed you in the back. This is the relationship, let alone the relationship. Even if we kiss again, we are just "enemies".
There is no need to harm people, and there is no need to prevent people. Many post-70 s people will also run for five. Don't be a fool for the rest of your life. We should know people by their eyes and distinguish between "human heart" and "wolf heart" In this way, the future days can be "empty of people and money" and full of happiness.
Text/There are deer in Shushan