It is just a superstition that it is not good to get engaged in the twelfth lunar month.
The fact that you cannot get engaged in the twelfth lunar month is actually based on what people said in ancient times. In ancient times, there was a saying that you could not get married in the first lunar month and you could not get engaged in the twelfth lunar month, otherwise the couple would not be able to grow old together. From the perspective of Feng Shui, the reason why a bride is not married in the first month is because going to the bride during the first month will conflict with every member of the husband's family. If you get engaged in the twelfth lunar month, it will cause a very unfavorable situation for your husband's family, so most people are taboo about this.
But in fact, from a practical point of view, not getting engaged is because every household is very busy when the twelfth lunar month comes. There are more festivals at this time, and the elders in the family need to visit relatives and friends and take into account various etiquettes. If Coupled with the fact that their children are engaged, the pressure is a bit too much. Although getting engaged is very important, many people would rather choose to do it when they are free, not to mention the weather is relatively cold at this time. Therefore, many people would rather advance or postpone it than get engaged in the twelfth lunar month.
Things to note before engagement:
It is best for parents of both parties to meet and discuss once before the engagement banquet to discuss and decide in detail the engagement date, dowry, engagement banquet process, etc. Temporary differences arise and lead to conflicts.
The size of the engagement banquet depends on personal circumstances. If you want to keep everything simple and have a smooth wedding, you can have a family dinner together; if you want to hold a larger engagement ceremony, Just put more effort into preparation.