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I've always wanted to write to you and raise my pen as if I wanted to see you-of course I do, but I don't know what to say for fear of offending you. I'm afraid this feeling and obstacle of not being able to communicate with you has existed since I was born. I didn't mean to blame you for saying this. I was born unable to choose my destiny. Only when you grow up and have a high level of cognition can you say that "fate is not determined by heaven", and only a few brave and lucky people can do it.
? Even so, no matter how one controls his own life, anyone has to accept the fact that life is impermanent. These four words are the best explanation for the disaster pain, and there is no explanation. For example, in recent March, flight MU5735, 2 1, crashed, and 100 people were put out instantly. Therefore, people can grasp the present and be grateful to live. Especially relatives and friends will care about you and remember you. This kind of emotional transmission makes us not lonely, more able to bear the pressure, and make a more appropriate response in the face of pain and difficulties. Life is the fact that 10% happens to you, and 90% is your reaction. What we should cultivate is the reaction to outsiders, that is, the attitude towards life.
I hope you don't tell your fortune easily. Although fortune-telling is a science left by our ancestors, it is not superstition. It's just that high-level people are hard to meet. You lack self-knowledge and the most basic self-confidence. What outsiders say and believe will hurt you. When I went back to my hometown last year, my mother gave my brother a breakdown and was deeply desperate. I hate this deep fear and powerlessness. Why should I believe such a negative thing? You believe that fate cannot be changed in this way, or it may be true. If you believe that you can change, there is at least hope that you can change. Which is a good person and a good life, born instead of cultivated? Born carefree, it is too rare to have a good life. The fate of our practitioners is unpredictable, so give up knowing and doing and spend money on fortune telling.
One life, two fortunes, three geomantic omen, four virtues and five studies. Six seven-phase and eight-worship, nine friends and ten health-preserving people. If young people want to go uphill, they must learn from virtue. When you are old, health and exercise are the first, and you can worship a god occasionally.
I've always been a little worried about the habit of speaking. In my eyes, my mother has always been a very smart, capable and rich-looking person. Her bad personality personally destroyed her advantage. Mom, I have been with you since I was a child, and I am very close to you, but I have always admired you.
? Since 17 went to Guangzhou Cancer Hospital, I have met many people like my mother, who are irritable and easy to get angry, and have too many complicated ideas. Many people's tumors recur every few years and cannot be eradicated. I took care of my mother for a month, and it happened that Mengzi was about two years old. During the outbreak of depression, I received psychotherapy and studied psychology, which greatly changed my life. In particular, I have a lot of positive sunshine in my heart, and it is handy and effortless to educate Dreamboy. I have a close relationship with her, there is no communication barrier, I am confident and cheerful, and I have a naive childlike innocence. Seeing that my husband has never trusted, disliked and relied, now he is more appreciative and grateful.
He loses his temper easily, which always gives me a headache. He has always tolerated my bad temper and habits, and rarely said cruel words that don't hit people. However, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has plagued him in recent years, and he has no motivation to develop his career. Home and everything prosper. How many people can work hard to achieve such a simple and profound truth? No matter at home or outside, you should control your temper and don't hurt people casually. Do to others what you want them to do to you. This sentence is posted on the wall. I hope you can read it together three times a week in sincere words, give each other a smile and say something that others like to hear to make people happy. Three minutes is a small ceremony, but it is very important. I hope you must pay attention to it. Sharing happiness with others is an increasingly valued ability in the future. You can always say which family has made millions this year, but a large number of families are rich and may not be happy, and they may not be happy without much money. If the growth environment is not good, even the cleverest child may not have enough energy and stamina to study and study, and will not succeed.
You may think that education is not important, as long as you can do business. You people in the sixties had the courage to start a business abroad at the beginning of the reform and opening up. There were so many opportunities that you could make money by luck. People in the 1970s can stand in big cities with a little cultural background. People in the 1980s have little chance to come to big cities, and the starting point after the 1990s is higher than ours. The less you study, the greater the gap in the world. Don't you study and sell coolies? Let's read more books and write a weekly diary every week. Drawing while writing is also the freest expression. Being bullied and treated well can be vented in the right way, which is also the cultivation of writing ability. If you are in a bad mood and uncomfortable, you are not allowed to say it. People who want to say it but don't listen will have psychological problems, not to mention that writing is a skill that is generally valued in big cities. I regret my low college education now. A high degree is like having more skills and more ways. Although it is not absolute, any field needs strong learning ability. You are the most bitter generation in history. It is a big problem to have enough food and clothing since childhood. Small places are backward in thinking, and they don't know without comparison. I hope I can get out more smoothly than me.
Strictly control the use time of electronic products, with two hours as the upper limit every day, so that she can learn to endure boredom and gradually develop the habit of reading. Besides reading more books and taking her to exercise more, her physique and mood are more positive and stable. Mengzai's biggest interest now is drawing and playing football. I'll send you some books this time. Primary schools can be exposed to football, basketball and table tennis. You must cultivate a sports hobby. Come to Beijing to strengthen specialty training during my good winter and summer vacation. She is interested in supporting as much as possible, without too many restrictions and permissions. Life is too bitter, the bigger the challenge. She needs encouragement as much as I did when I was a child. I used to hate you. It only hurt my confidence. In fact, if you can't control your emotions, you will scold. The key is that a healthy family will appease the child after the child scolds, make the child feel balanced, and even say "I'm sorry" can resolve many misunderstandings and pains. It is difficult for people to accept information and ideas that are contrary to existing knowledge and experience. You can't completely put down your arrogant parental airs, and you don't need filial piety to ask us to be unfair. What I do is the best planning and consideration for myself. I am not a born fool, but we have more knowledge than our parents, which is hard for you to admit.
Have some basic knowledge, I hope you can keep pace with the times. Teach children not to always ask for "obedience" Children are people, not machines and not slaves. Only when you have patience and set aside a little time to listen carefully to your children will you feel valued. A better way to make children obedient is to cooperate with adults voluntarily on the basis of mutual understanding and consent. I grew up under your orders, majesty and even abuse. I hope she will be treated better than me because of "parents' divorce" and your anger in your later years.
? The whole social atmosphere is very bad for girls. Girls are sold as commodities in blind date markets or when parents marry their daughters. Many of my classmates feel the same way. The closest classmates get married and the housing in Beijing is worth tens of millions. Parents and relatives want to be exposed, which destroys the relationship between husband and wife. The right to speak is definitely tilted towards people with capital and influence. Changing jobs, developing interest is very limited. The most important headline of marriage is not whether there is money or not. Equal communication rights are the most important. Won't unequal status be wronged everywhere? If you don't make some contribution, people will coax you into giving you a good face? Modern women's earning power is essential. After all, it is their lifelong dependence, but the natural advantage of gentleness should not be lost. It is very important for women to give full play to their advantages in getting along with others after proper emotional control.
? I hope you are healthy and harmonious, and I sincerely hope that you will have a successful study and a bright future!
2022-3-25