It is said that you will not be tired if you get along with the three outlooks, which are world view, outlook on life and values. How to judge whether others are on the same wavelength as you, and how to judge whether a circle can help you improve, first check whether the three views are consistent. How to judge whether the three views are consistent? You can easily get the answer with a little care in life.
? Worldview: A person's perspective and attitude towards the world. In this world of mixed joys and sorrows, what you see and talk about is mostly peace, beauty, and interesting life. In short, you think the world is beautiful and you are infinitely grateful; but the other person is full of talk about natural and man-made disasters, and the unfairness of the world. In short, he feels The society is dark and full of complaints. This is because the world view is different. You say the world is beautiful, and he talks about his bitterness. After talking about it, he will say: Actually, you are right, there are still many good people in the world. This is not a worldview disagreement.
Outlook on life: The perspective on the people and things around you is the outlook on life, how you want to live your life. You say that raising a puppy will increase the vitality of the family, but he says that having a puppy is good, but I don’t have the time and energy to take care of it. This is not a disagreement in outlook on life. You said it would be good to have a puppy, but he said that humans and dogs are the same type, you can’t imagine! This is a disagreement in outlook on life. Also, it’s always the case that he can do it but you can’t, and you have to listen to him for your own good. This denigrates other people’s basic understanding and doesn’t believe that others can do good things for themselves. This is also a inconsistent outlook on life.
Values: The concept of money is values. You invest most of your income in studying and studying. He tells you that you don’t have to be so obsessed with studying. Traveling and partying are also a kind of learning. If you think it is necessary to invest in studying, don’t make it difficult for your life. Let money speak for itself. This is not a disagreement in values. You invest in learning, but he says it is useless. If you want to be a master, it is better to drink. This is a difference in values. In short, spending money mainly on what is comfortable, valuable, and worthwhile is a person's values.
In short, people who are comfortable chatting together have basically the same views.
? About right and wrong: There is right and wrong in knowledge, but there is no right or wrong in worldly affairs. All occurrences and choices are due to the combination of causes and conditions, and their existence is reasonable. Nothing happens without reason. If you have to impose a right or wrong, the following method will work: three, five, ten, or several years after making the choice, review the decision again, without regrets (and unwillingness), and do not blame yourself at the time. If the environment is not supportive of others, then it is right; otherwise, it is wrong. In fact, it doesn't matter what is right or wrong. Life is full of unknowns. We don't know which one will come first, death or tomorrow. You just need to live with a little curiosity and heart.
? About good and bad: Don’t complicate simple things, make yourself more and more relaxed, focus more and more on what you should do, become less and less heartless, and become more and more capable of speaking. No, the above is good, the opposite is bad. In fact, good or bad is determined by fate and merit, by living environment and thoughts, and has no direct relationship with how hard you work.
? About the environment: The environment is energy, and the environment is Feng Shui. Years are passing by, people's hearts are in turmoil, and in these disaster years, people just want to survive. It is difficult to pay attention to whether the body, mind, and soul are peaceful and improved. The environment is like a big dyeing vat. If you soak in it for a long time, it will be dyed into a certain color. If you don't like being dyed, just jump out. You can't change the environment, but you can choose the environment.