I used to think it was easy to be kind. As long as you have good intentions and do good deeds, you can bring goodwill and influence others.
A warm word, a sweet smile, and a warm-hearted move sound like such a simple thing.
But then what? Only then did I find that not all kindness can be accepted, and not all kindness can be exchanged for kindness. Many times, goodwill disappears in a chilling response.
I saw a question on Zhihu: When did you decide to be unkind?
The most praised answer is: others take your goodness for granted.
When Sun Li was a young actor in the Art Troupe, he once sponsored a mountain child who was facing dropping out of school because of family difficulties to Christina.
His spirit of reading touched Sun Li. After failing the first college entrance examination, Sun Li asked him to repeat it. It was not until the second college entrance examination that he was successfully admitted to the university.
After going to college, Qing Xiang drifted away, knowing that he was sponsored by Sun Li. He started smoking, drinking, going to bars, and kept making up lies to ask Sun Li for money. In fact, I applied for a grant when I was in college.
Sun Li was very upset when he learned that, so he stopped funding. After knowing Sun Li's identity and years of help, Xiang has forgotten the hardships and initial intentions of life.
He directly wrote a 6000-word reprimand, completely forgetting Sun Li's help to her, denouncing and even slandering Sun Li, and Sun Li's official career was almost destroyed.
The most famous words in it are: "Sun Li raised me for four years, and I'm going to destroy her. It's useless for her to have so much money. She should send me flowers. "
The ancients said: Prospering rice, fighting against rice.
Give appropriate help to others when they are in danger, and they will thank you; But if you give him too much help and make him dependent, once you stop helping, he will hate you.
People are greedy, and if they get something for nothing, they will want more. When they get used to this sweetness, they take it for granted and naturally forget where it comes from.
Therefore, not all sincerity can be exchanged for sincerity, and not all kindness can be exchanged for kindness.
When your kindness becomes the habit of others, your kindness can only touch yourself, but not each other.
It is good that a person is willing to help others with kindness, but don't forget that your kindness is to help each other, not to get them used to your kindness.
Gorky once said: Be a kind person and seek happiness for mankind.
There is no right or wrong in kindness, and it is much more disappointing. Yes, this has also become a mistake.
Chen cursor, a philanthropist known as "the first in China", was born in a poor family when he was a child. In order to share the poverty at home, he used the time after school at noon to carry water to the market town several miles away to sell.
He clearly remembers that despite his hard work, he shouted, "sell water, sell water, 1 share the money!" " But nobody came to buy his water.
Just then, a stranger who will never forget Chen cursor walked to the bucket. He took out twenty cents, gave it to the little cursor and said, "Son, I'll buy water."
He just drank three or two symbolically, then left with a smile. At that time, 20 cents was no less than an astronomical figure for a small cursor.
He held on to twenty cents and a kind seed of life.
Chen cursor started his charity work on 1998, and by July 20 12 17, his total donation had exceeded 2 billion, helping more than 700,000 poor households.
The warm smile of the past finally made this seed grow into a towering tree, which is beautiful in today's world.
If the most selfless emotion in the world is anything, it must be love and kindness.
Really kind people don't weigh the pros and cons and calculate the return before doing something. Good things don't act until they choose the right person.
The purpose of kindness is not to repay, not to repay, but to ask for more warmth and a well-meaning person in this world.
Because half the people in the world are kind and half are evil; If we use goodness to influence evil, the world will become friendly; If evil infects good, the world will become sinister.
Kindness is like dandelion, flying around but still tenacious. Wherever it flies, it takes root and sprouts, and then blooms in every corner of the world.