Her mother grabbed her, because the strength was too great, and the little girl stumbled. The opening was:
The little girl seemed frightened, her eyes were dim, like a puppet, and she let her mother ramble.
How much hatred do you have with your children, so that you can curse your children to die in the Mid-Autumn Festival?
Why do parents always blurt out these hurtful words, especially for children who are pregnant for ten months?
Words are often the sharpest weapon. These words, like bayonets, inadvertently hurt the child's heart deeply.
The meanness of parents hides their humbleness and helplessness.
Mother's mouth
Hiding the temperature of a child's life
A Xuan was always compared when she was a child and never praised by her mother.
Every time in front of relatives, my mother directly says that she is not good.
She was deeply wronged, and her tears kept falling, but her efforts were never recognized, and she kept saying when she caught the wrong one.
A Xuan offered to help with the housework, but her mother felt it was slow and unclean.
She doesn't do housework, but also says that she is lazy, doesn't know how to pay for her family, and cares for her parents.
A Xuan's mother never gives up any chance to bring up the past. Like a broken record player, she talks endlessly about her children's bad behavior and how they embarrass her.
Mother's harsh and paranoid words have planted the seeds of inferiority in 12-year-old A Xuan's heart. How many things are caused by these trivial things?
A child is like a jar. The adults threw all their dissatisfaction and well-meaning words into this jar. One day, this jar will explode.
As soon as the vicious and mean words blurted out, all mother's kindness vanished.
No child can shine in the dark.
I'm your mother. How dare you talk back to me? The grateful heart has also become a complaining heart.
Mother's mouth
Determine the height of a child's life.
Hu Shi once wrote in the article My Mother:
But in reality, how many parents are afraid to praise their children a few more words and go to heaven, and they will be unkind if they play less.
Sweet has never been able to make her change her mother's way of speaking, which is her most puzzling problem.
Sweets try to be gentle, try to please, try to be spoiled, try to be fierce, and try to buy something for her mother. But it seems that only when mother wants to do this can she talk to her well.
Sweet doesn't like the way her mother talks, but she feels more and more like her mother.
Mother occasionally swears and shouts, and sweet words are absorbed and internalized unconsciously.
These things are presented by sweet speech acts, so when sweet communicates with her mother, she often can't communicate calmly.
They often quarrel over that trifle.
This seems to be a curse.
What sweets really doesn't like is herself. The saddest thing is that children can never convince their parents.
Even if parents are used to facing their children with ugly faces, children must never say no.
Praising children is too fond of their performance; Blame and criticize, even beat and scold, is the correct direction of parenting.
When children grow up, they can distinguish right from wrong and live independently from their parents, but those habits of inferiority, timidity and self-denial that go deep into the bone marrow will accompany their children all their lives.
In order to prevent the same situation from happening to children's next generation, children need to spend a lot of time and energy to calm their hearts, give them courage and give them confidence.
Parents' mouths
It is the feng shui of a family.
Emerson has a famous saying:
Every child's heart is soft and tender, and parents' understatement is sometimes more painful than slapping the past.
Huanhuan is 32 years old this year. In my impression, shopping with her mother is not sweet. Even though she tried to change the rigid relationship with her mother after marriage, she later found that easing the relationship could not change her mother's temper.
Before getting married, her mother scolded the ring almost every day. Her mother wants her to live up to expectations and think she knows the ring.
My mother has been holding her as a parent, thinking that it is normal to beat and scold children, and Huanhuan should be tolerated as a child.
Huanhuan has been called crazy by her mother. After listening for a long time, she sometimes really doubts whether she is crazy.
Lack of care is a gap, and a dark family environment is a sharp knife.
Talking is the lowest cost. Well said, it tests the wisdom and pattern of parents.
Smart parents, in life, never make people embarrassed, but treat people kindly, like a spring breeze.
A family's attitude towards life and mental outlook will be passed down from generation to generation in a subtle way.
Parents' mouths are the best feng shui for a family.
Talking well is a lifelong practice of parents.
What kind of experience is it to be added up by parents' bad words?
I'm afraid only those who are in it can feel that feeling: fear, tension and anger are intertwined.
If the children don't quarrel with their parents, the scene will be even more out of control.
In this case, I don't know how many children I have accompanied in my childhood.
Maybe mom and dad forgot after scolding, and even didn't know that they had said these words, and simply regarded the child as an emotional "trash can".
Children feel unreasonable when they are angry.
In the face of verbal violence from parents, some children regard painful feelings as a part of their lives and even rationalize them:
Sometimes, can parents educate their children by changing their way of speaking?
The mother who cleaned the house all day was very tired, and then she said angrily to her child:
At this time, I might as well say this:
If there is anything wrong with the child, you can point it out and insult the child. It is really not desirable.
After a trip in the world, it can't be said that being a relative is a kind of fate.
Don't say hurtful words, say warm words.
Considering children's feelings and speaking well is a kindness of being a mother and a lifelong practice.
Cai Yuanpei once wrote in "The Cultivation of China People":
For parents, parenting is also parenting.
Who can sow a cactus seed and finally get a bunch of orchids?
Parents also come from children, giving hugs and warmth to every child who suffers from language violence.
Family happiness, no sharp accusations and angry beatings.