Speaking of which, you are considered a senior and I shouldn’t be the one to guide you, but what you said makes me feel a little emotional. Husband and wife have been together for so many years and have understood each other's tempers. If you still have a long-term cold war, it can only mean that neither of you is willing to tolerate the other or give in.
However, the most critical factor in running a marriage is tolerance. Everyone has their own shortcomings. A failed marriage is definitely not caused by just one party. This does not mean that you should always give in blindly, but it is not a big deal when a couple quarrels. Women tend to care about trivial matters, so men should be more tolerant. In this way, the number of quarrels will be less, the time will be shorter, and the relationship between the two people will be better.
To be honest, it is better for a wife to be her original wife. Why do people get married? Isn’t it just to have a companion when they grow old? The two have been together for more than 10 years, and even if they don't have feelings, they still have a bit of family affection. It would be a pity to give up on marriage now. The Cold War is a child's play. What's the point of being angry with each other? The world will be brighter if we step back. Let's run it well, and think about how nice it would be to go out for a walk together and look around when we get older.