The ancients said: when the moon is full, it will lose money, and when the water is full, it will overflow.
Just like a flower once it blooms, it will wither immediately; Once the moon is full, it will run away at once.
As the saying goes, prosperity will decline, but it will be full, full of expectations, and life will be more hopeful.
So is life. Saying nothing and doing nothing is the best state of life.
Words are not full.
Zeng Guofan, a famous minister in the late Qing Dynasty, said: "Words are tolerant."
Mei Yiqi, president of Tsinghua University, is such a man with few words.
He speaks clearly and gets to the point, but when everyone is arguing, he can always solve the dispute in one sentence.
But he is used to not saying much.
Some students even made up a limerick to make fun of him:
Maybe, maybe, but we dare not say, but the school always thinks, I'm afraid it doesn't seem so.
But what can better reflect his rigorous personality charm is that his words are not surprisingly endless and he rarely makes promises at will.
Chen Yinque once praised him: "If a government's decrees can be as rigorous as Mei Yiqi's, then this government is the most ideal."
Leaving room for speech is actually to accommodate accidents. Once you plan to go out, you can turn around calmly.
Wen Li, a colleague around me, is a person who likes to say everything.
Once, the manager gave him a business, explaining that it was very important, but it was not easy to complete.
At this time, Wen Li stood up and patted his chest and said that he would definitely finish it, and he could finish it ahead of schedule.
The manager was very happy and asked him to behave well.
After two months, it's time for acceptance. When the manager asked him how he finished it, he faltered. He said that this group of customers is particularly difficult to talk to, and they will lose their temper if they say more. He said that the conditions provided by the company to customers were not convenient enough.
As a result, it is obvious that as much hope as you give people, you will eventually give people many disappointments.
There are always people in life who like to do things that they are not sure about, and they can brag at will. I like to say everything, leaving no room. In the event of an accident, only oneself will be embarrassed.
Don't talk too much, or you will use more lies to explain the so-called confidence in the future.
A proper grasp of words is a kind of respect for others and a manifestation of self-cultivation.
Do nothing.
I once read a story on the Internet:
Anish kapoor, a contemporary British sculptor, is famous for his sculpture Falling into Hell.
Anish kapoor pondered for a while and said, "There are no secrets, but I learned two things. One is to carve the nose bigger, and the other is to carve the eyes smaller, that's all. "
The secret of sculpture is actually to leave room.
Everything has a certain "leeway", so if something goes wrong in the future, you can try your best to recover the losses.
Just like the creation of painters and calligraphers, they know how to "leave blank space" and leave room for imagination for the viewer;
Pave the pavement, leaving a contraction line at regular intervals to prevent the pavement from bursting;
If you think about it carefully, the same is true of being a man and doing things.
Criticizing people, leaving room, is to leave people a chance to turn over a new leaf; Praise others and leave room, that is, leave people with the motivation to keep forging ahead.
The ancients paid attention to the golden mean and attached great importance to "room".
Leave room for "think twice before you act"; Leave room, is "stay green, not afraid of no firewood"; Leaving room is "a gentleman can bend and stretch."
There is room for doing things, not coy, afraid to let go.
On the contrary, leaving room means going in and going out, leaving a little space for yourself and others.
Life is just a few decades, and the wind and water turn around. Doing nothing is a model and the best state of life.
People are not complacent.
Zeng Guofan realized a great truth when he was about 50 years old. He found that the best state of life is that flowers are not in full bloom and the moon is not round.
28-year-old Jinshi, working in imperial academy.
Maybe it was the spring breeze at that time and people began to swell up.
When he celebrated his father's birthday, his good friend Zheng Xiaoshan also came to celebrate his birthday, but Zeng Guofan boasted a little, which made his friends feel disgusted and left.
Zeng Guofan regretted it afterwards and was deeply ashamed of his behavior.
He began to realize his mistake: he was self-righteous, offended people without knowing it, and had to argue with others.
From then on, I wrote "Don't say too much" to spur myself, and always remember to be a low-key person.
He even renamed his study "Begging for Shortage", which means actively looking for defects and always reminding himself not to be too full when doing things.
It was Zeng Guofan's ability to correct mistakes and stop losses in time that made the rest of his life smooth.
Only neutral, humble and vain people can tolerate.
In the "exciting offer" variety show, intern Li Haoyuan asked him after the internship: "Are you satisfied with yourself this month?"
He simply said, "Satisfied!"
And give yourself 80 points, and the remaining 10 points are reserved for future space, and 10 is given to three projects that have not been typed well during the internship period.
Then, he said that he hoped to make up the score of 10 in the future and keep a humble state of 90 points and 60 points at any time.
Leave yourself room for improvement and always tell yourself that no matter what you do, don't be too complacent.
The ancients often said to guard against arrogance and rashness. Proud people often can't see their shortcomings clearly and always think they are excellent.
100% of life is too full, and 90% of life is just right. Leave yourself room for improvement.
People who really know how to do things know the truth that "going too far is not enough".
Keeping 90 points at all times is the best interpretation of whether it will be full or not.
Writer Mo Yan once said: "The most taboo thing in the world is perfection.
Looking at the moon in the sky that day, once it is completed, it will soon be owed; The fruit on the tree, once ripe, will soon fall; Everything is always lacking in order to persevere. "
Yes, life need not be perfect. Everything pursues perfection, but it is not beautiful.
If you don't leave room, don't leave room when you don't do things, leave room for yourself and others, do things in a down-to-earth manner, and be a low-key person, which is the real high realm.
About the author: An He, a book-rich columnist, is a book-rich man.