In the process of suffering and overcoming difficulties, people are growing both physically and psychologically, and they are accelerating their growth.
Do you have the experience that when you are in prosperity, you are surrounded by friends and have a successful career, as if you are omnipotent, and this mentality is just a sign that a person is not mature enough. However, once we go into adversity or encounter insurmountable difficulties, we will find that the friendship, affection and love that were once considered indestructible around us are not as strong as we thought. Some people throw stones when they are down, and some people offer timely help. After suffering, we will realize how valuable those who offer timely help are. It is in this constant alternation of prosperity and adversity that people will truly screen out the most worthy affection, friendship and love in life, which is to use life to screen.
The more adversity you experience, the more you know how to cherish the remaining beauty and the more valuable you have. With the drive of cherishing and never giving up, life will eventually get better and better ...
I have a cousin who is really attractive. Since she was a child, she has been the first person to do whatever she wants. She is beautiful, studies well and is good at everything, but her personality makes everyone unhappy, and her grandparents are not very happy. Unlike her, I am really cunning. I have a sweet mouth and know that bad things can't be done on the bright side. All my relatives like me. Anyway, I am a child of other people's families and a positive textbook in a huge family, while my cousin is a well-deserved negative textbook. However, the good thing about my cousin is that she is very kind to me and never hates me because others criticize her.
A person can't be too beautiful. Beauty is the original sin that ugly creatures in the world can't tolerate. She was dropped out of school in her teens and was the first child in the school. It's normal to fall in love when I get to know some people in society by working to support my twin brother, but she's so beautiful and exotic, and that kind of temperament really can't overlap with the countryside where she lives. She was attacked by a group of old women, so why don't you learn well? Say to her face why your skirt is not shorter. Her father was seriously ill, and she was engaged to a young man, but this young man liked her very much. On the day of getting married and getting a marriage certificate, she took the opportunity to run away and went to Henan to find her boyfriend. As a result, her boyfriend pushed her to a friend and came back two years later, which became a shame for the family. Everyone insulted her and insulted her face to face. She rents a house alone, wearing only a sweater coat in the cold winter, and she buys cosmetics at the gate of a shopping mall, which is cold. I wanted my brother who went to college to take out the few hundred dollars on her card to buy clothes, but he took the money and bought himself shoes. She was so angry that she cried bitterly. Everyone called her ignorant and her brother had no money to go to college. At that time, I thought these people were blind in their eyes or hearts.
Later, he was forced to marry a family of only seven or eight households on the edge of Yecheng, Xinjiang. She didn't want to. When she went there, she was beaten, insulted and unspeakable. Her neighbors sent messages for help several times, but no one paid attention. A few years later, she ran out, and the people who met her said that she was skinny, and then divorced. Strangely, the man left happily and even dared not meet her family because she was treated inhumanely.
Later, she was married to a divorced young man, but they were the same age and the man had a daughter. After marriage, my cousin was infertile for many years, and the old man accidentally fell down and broke his leg when he went to the toilet. When her sister-in-law came, she gave her a few mouths. Which heel? When she went out, she didn't even give the fare, was beaten by her mother-in-law, was kicked out by her mother-in-law, treated infertility, dredged fallopian tubes, had hysterography, etc., and she couldn't mention her sins. Until she was 33 years old, she suddenly became pregnant, but no one believed her, and the hospital report didn't believe her, so she accidentally miscarried, and then she got pregnant again. Her husband was actually a little better to her than the previous one, and she took her to Xinjiang for fear that her mother-in-law would do
after her son was born, she turned over like a salted fish, and she opened a small light box shop with her old man. In less than two years, she developed into a company, and in the past two years, she became the richest man among her relatives. She is still beautiful, and more and more beautiful. She has a big temper, but she has always been kind to her daughter left by her predecessor. She should scold and educate, but when she bought a house, she silently bought four rooms and installed a room for her daughter. She always speaks for a family of four, and subconsciously the child is hers. I once asked her why she didn't want to give up this child. Your parents-in-law didn't trust you to be kind to this little girl.
She smiled but her eyes were red. She said that I just got married in her house, and everyone looked down on me. My family couldn't go back, and my husband's family didn't like it. This girl was only three years old and had no mother for a long time. She always thought I was her mother. She was the happiest when I got married. Everyone told me that my mother was married. My mother-in-law asked me to take her to clean me up, but she was naughty, but she liked to accompany me. At that time, I was lonely, and she was lonely. She went wherever I went. She accompanied me for four years, so whether I was born or not, she was an inseparable part of my family. I will be responsible for it in the future. At that moment, I understood why she survived the wind, frost, rain and snow, because she always had love and pattern.
I hope she will become more and more beautiful, suffer too much, be indifferent and open-minded, and have extremely low expectations for people, as if she will never be disappointed.
extremes meet, and if you don't come too soon, you will rebound when you hit the bottom, and you will fly high for a long time. When you are bitter, you will be extremely sad. Don't you all prove this truth? First, the more unlucky people are, the more lucky they will be and live a good life. There are as many ridges as there are. People should not be afraid of bad luck and hardship first, how can they gain without doing anything?
Things in the world are always divided into two parts and exist in opposition. Misfortunes always depend on each other, and extremes meet. Whether you go to Thailand or not is the only way. If you lose, you will succeed. If you lose, you will gain. If you suffer, you will be sweet. There is a priority relationship among them, but it should be noted. Get the meeting first, then lose it, then the meeting first, then the meeting first, then the meeting first, and then the meeting first. Bad luck is the same as good luck. First, the milder it is, the better it is. First, the better it is, and then the milder it is. Things always develop in waves, time is infinite, space is infinite, life is limited, and life cuts off time and space. How do you want to start? First bitter, then sweet, first moldy, then good, or first sweet, then bitter, first moldy? You can't have your cake and eat it, so you have to choose one.
Nine times out of ten, life is unhappy, and it is impossible to be good from beginning to end. However, people are fickle and moldy, and when they hit the bottom, they will gather strength for a long time and eventually fly higher and do better. As long as you are rational, calm and calm, bite the bullet, and ride out the adventure, it will be smooth. There is no way to doubt that there is no way out, and there is another village. The wind and water turn, ten years in Hedong, ten years in Hexi, and after the storm, you will see the rainbow.
When I was raising pigs for hours, I found an interesting phenomenon. Every time my neighbor's uncle went to buy pigs to raise them, he always bought old pig firewood. No one wanted it, so he always sold it at a low price. After he bought it, he starved it for a few days, and when he was extremely thirsty, he gave water and food, and then he took good care of it. Within two months, the old pig firewood was greatly changed, and it was fast and good, and finally slaughtered.
extremes meet, and if you don't come too soon, you will rebound when you hit the bottom, and you will fly high for a long time. When you are bitter, you will be extremely sad. Don't you all prove this truth? First, the more unlucky people are, the more lucky they will be and live a good life. There are as many ridges as there are. People should not be afraid of bad luck and hardship first, how can they gain without doing anything?
Things in the world are always divided into two parts and exist in opposition. Misfortunes always depend on each other, and extremes meet. Whether you go to Thailand or not is the only way. If you lose, you will succeed. If you lose, you will gain. If you suffer, you will be sweet. There is a priority relationship among them, but it should be noted. Get the meeting first, then lose it, then the meeting first, then the meeting first, then the meeting first, and then the meeting first. Bad luck is the same as good luck. First, the milder it is, the better it is. First, the better it is, and then the milder it is. Things always develop in waves, time is infinite, space is infinite, life is limited, and life cuts off time and space. How do you want to start? First bitter, then sweet, first moldy, then good, or first sweet, then bitter, first moldy? You can't have your cake and eat it, so you have to choose one.
Nine times out of ten, life is unhappy, and it is impossible to be good from beginning to end. However, people are fickle and moldy, and when they hit the bottom, they will gather strength for a long time and eventually fly higher and do better. As long as you are rational, calm and calm, bite the bullet, and ride out the adventure, it will be smooth. There is no way to doubt that there is no way out, and there is another village. The wind and water turn, ten years in Hedong, ten years in Hexi, and after the storm, you will see the rainbow.
When I was raising pigs for hours, I found an interesting phenomenon. Every time my neighbor's uncle went to buy pigs to raise them, he always bought old pig firewood. No one wanted it, so he always sold it at a low price. After he bought it, he starved it for a few days, and when he was extremely thirsty, he gave water and food, and then he took good care of it. Within two months, the old pig firewood was greatly changed, and it was fast and good, and finally slaughtered.
I can't say that the more unlucky people are, the more lucky they will be in the end, but at least they won't be worse than before. Of course, it does not rule out a very small number of people who have always been unlucky. I think this phenomenon is mainly due to the following two points, which are only personal opinions. Please criticize and correct me.
1. People's bad luck and good luck are limited
Some people may not believe this statement, but I personally believe that people have both bad luck and good luck all their lives, but any kind of luck will not last long, even for a lifetime. This is somewhat similar to the concept that the extremes meet. If bad luck or good luck accumulates to a certain extent, it will be reversed. Sometimes, just remember what you have experienced and you may find this rule.
So if you are in bad luck, please don't be discouraged, do what you should, and good luck will come again; If you are in good luck, don't be too sad, you may run out of luck one day.
people are lucky, but it doesn't mean that they just don't do anything and wait for transshipment. You should know that relying on the sky and the earth is not as good as relying on yourself. Only by your own efforts and a little luck, that is the best result.
2. Psychological suggestion
When a person is at a low ebb, he will find that nothing he does is good, and bad things happen one after another. But the more so, the more his mentality may be even, because it won't be more unlucky, even if there is, it doesn't matter.
after this mentality is produced, the next action will reflect the difference between people. Why do some people have bad luck all their lives, because in the continuous trough, he gave up his efforts and gave up the opportunity to win transshipment for himself; Why do some people start to get more and more lucky in the later period? Because they choose to continue to work hard for this after their mentality is flat, and those who work hard will be taken care of by good luck.
So, no matter what period you are in now, you should first be calm, as the saying goes, "You won't be arrogant if you win, but you won't lose with grace". Secondly, don't give up your efforts, don't work hard and wait for luck, then dream!
how can you see the rainbow without experiencing wind and rain? Nietzsche said: The more a tree grows upward to a sunny place, the deeper its roots will take root in the darkness. In fact, no one is on the road to success without experiencing setbacks. Isn't happiness forced out? Even if you are a rich second generation and an official second generation, you are "richer than three generations". Even if you have a lot of friends, you will be unlucky one day, and how many friends can stay to help you?
As long as you exist in society, you are bound to encounter bad things. Sometimes, people who do harm to you are extremely vicious and insidious, which makes you hard to prevent. You should stick to the bottom line and keep your conscience. You have to rely on yourself and seek external help. In the end, God helps those who help themselves. This is the so-called extremes meet. How much pressure you bear is known, and your reaction is an opportunity to make a comeback!
sighing about life, unhappy things, nine times out of ten.
when you walk in the world, there is always a trough in your life.
Burning goose, there is a limit to everything. People can't be lucky forever and can't be unlucky forever. There are also words such as coming to Thailand, luck changing, and coming through thick and thin. When adversity reaches its peak, it will turn into prosperity. When bad luck comes to an end, good luck comes. When things develop to the extreme, they will change and turn into the opposite of this thing.
Lao Tzu said, "Happiness lies in misfortune, and misfortune lies in happiness.". To understand this truth, we should maintain such a state of mind. No matter when we are proud or unhappy, we should maintain an optimistic attitude and be friendly to others without resentment.
So, when you are in adversity, you should persist, persist, persist again, and hold on till the end with tears in your eyes ...
The sunshine is always after the rain, and any unlucky perseverance will always pass.
this sentence is relative to being at a loss in a difficult situation. Just close the unlucky door and look for the window of good luck! The key to success or failure is to move in the right direction!
Warren Buffett, a famous stock god, has three investment principles. One of them is that instead of choosing a few half-dead people, putting one egg in the east and one in the west, and cleaning the battlefield every day, it is better to put the eggs in a basket and choose the best one!
A friend took his wife's brother's money and invested it in the stock market. He wanted to earn a sum and then pay it back. His wife knew that she was determined to cut the warehouse and pay back the money, so she couldn't sell the stock, and it rose the next day. For this reason, this friend resolutely divorced his wife and asked for remarriage after two years. Why? He told me: if I didn't sell it that time, I would definitely make some money, but with my greed, I would definitely add more, and then I lost a lot. I'm afraid I can't pay it back now!
He Yongqiang in "Women in Front" abandoned Xu Huizhen, who was about to give birth. If they hadn't broken up at that time, I'm afraid life would be worse than death. What's more, they didn't find a good man later, who was considerate, caring and able to do things. They helped each other from a pub to a big company! If there was a stalemate at the beginning, how could there be a good day now?
this question. .
in fact, in the final analysis, it is a matter of personal mentality.
Life will have ups and downs, so be a man with a heart.
Be a kind-hearted person and an ordinary and powerful person.
when a person has bad luck, don't complain, don't resent, don't retaliate, and don't shrink.
stand up and live upright. The more unlucky you are, the more you should be kind to the world and people.
The world and people will repay you at some time.
believe me, it's true.
The more unlucky you are, the better you get in the end. It is such a feeling and possibility to meet anyone. This is the famous phrase "bottoming out".
As for life, as long as you stubbornly persist in living, even beggars who have reached the end of their lives, every new day comes away from yesterday's predicament. It has fallen to the abyss, and it is really impossible to fall. Then all the situations are better than the original ones. This is the feeling transformation generated by the instinct of survival. All changes are developing towards the rise until they reach the ordinary normal and enter the smooth road.
in the face of bad luck and frustration, you just need to take it as the only way in life.