If men are the pillars of a family, then women are the pillars of a family, which directly determines the temperature of a family, and even in a sense, determines the direction and future of a family.
There is an old folk saying: Marrying the wrong parent affects three generations.
First of all, the mother is the most important person in a child's life. Children's personality, outlook on life and personality often come directly from their mothers, followed by the elderly. The quality of their life in their later years does not depend on their son, but on what kind of daughter-in-law his son married and whether he is filial, virtuous, kind and sensible. Once they meet an importunate, bossy and selfish person, it's good not to get angry.
Finally, what kind of woman a man marries directly determines the height and level he can reach in the future. The knife cuts bread and fingers. A woman can make or break a man. Therefore, in addition to personality, a woman's personality is the key that can never be ignored.
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Li Yang is 36 years old this year. In his own words, he has always fantasized that he can live a good life with patience. It can also be said that he is an evasive behavior and unwilling to accept the facts, but some intangible influences will not dissipate because you are unwilling to accept the facts.
After eight years of marriage, the strength of his wife made Li Yang feel inferior and weak, and he also saw his own shadow in his son.
In that marriage that lasted for eight years, Li Yang felt that he was going crazy. For the sake of the overall situation, he endured, retired, and retired. Finally, when he retreated to no way back, there was an abyss behind him. There is no other choice but to put all your eggs in one basket and jump.
If the wife is too strong and a little inappropriate, she will judge Li Yang with a condescending attitude, belittle, attack and criticize all kinds, and never consider Li Yang's self-esteem and face. Moreover, the longer she stays together, the more aggressive her behavior will be.
The mouth is like a machine gun. Even if it is only a small matter, it is aggressive and endless, and I can't wait to step on others. Even for children, it is one of the reasons for divorce. Just because the child made a mistake, the wife didn't say a word to the child for a whole month, deliberately being cold and violent.
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During that time, Li Yang felt that the child had a shadow and was often awakened by nightmares in the middle of the night. Seeing the helpless and fragile appearance of the child, his heart seemed to be bleeding, and he couldn't figure out how a woman's desire for control could be so strong. Why does she want to keep everyone firmly in her hands? I am most sorry for my parents. They are married themselves, and they can finally relax and live their own lives.
The result is completely different from what I expected, because I don't want to embarrass myself, and I also tolerate my wife's strong, overbearing, arrogant and selfish.
In that family, Li Yang never got the sense of existence and value that a man should get. He even said that he had no position. His wife never asks Li Yang's advice about what she does, and she is always self-centered. Not only that, she also asked others to act according to her wishes.
When I first got married, my wife was far from being so outrageous now. In addition, Li Yang's character is inherently soft and passable. Later, when I had children, I didn't want my parents to worry, so I became more and more condescending.
The main reason why Li Yang decided to divorce was that his wife was strong at home. Li Yang's colleague had a dinner party and told his wife in advance, but he was angry with his wife for calling home one after another, so he turned off his mobile phone. At nine o'clock, his wife rushed to the restaurant directly, giving no face to anyone, swearing and having a good party. As a result, everyone looked at each other and broke up in discord. When he got home, he was vilified and scolded by his wife.
At that moment, Li Yang suddenly realized that two people really couldn't go on!
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"Meet a strong woman, to stop in time! The longer you spend together, the deeper the impact will be, and in the end it will really ruin you and your children and parents. " Advice from a 36-year-old man.
It is said that women are the best feng shui for a family. I don't know if you believe it or not. If the wife is too strong in the family, it will bring many unexpected disasters and misfortunes to the family or husband.
Destroyed the feng shui of the family and made a family unlucky again and again. There are always a lot of unlucky things falling from the sky, making life more and more chaotic and worse.
So I will say that everything is going well at home. Look at those families where husband and wife love and respect each other as guests. They are always full of good luck and blessings. Life is booming, and parents and children are healthy.
A strong wife can not only ruin the blessings of three generations, but also be a devastating blow to the family. The stronger the wife, the greater the damage to the family.
I have read a sentence before: a woman with a strong heart is not strong at ordinary times and is not good at fighting. On the contrary, she may be gentle, smiling, resilient, unhurried and calm.
If you think about it carefully, it's not unreasonable. Only those who have no heart will turn themselves into hedgehogs. When two people are together, they should know how to tolerate, respect and make concessions, and always impose their ideas on others. That is not love, but destruction in the name of love.
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Be the master of emotions or don't be kidnapped by emotions.
Don't promise when you are happy, don't answer when you are sad, don't make a decision when you are angry, and don't make a choice when you are helpless.
People often say a word out of anger. It means more than anger, the degree of anger has reached the extreme-nothing is more angry than this.
At this time, blood is surging, and people are like an uncontrolled beast. The decisions they make, either hurt people or harm themselves, can easily lead to irreparable consequences. Therefore, it is a kind of cultivation and wisdom to control one's emotions and relieve one's anger.
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