If you can say that a bottle of red wine a day is only a few bucks, it’s better not to mention it.
A bottle of beer a day is not normal, it is addiction. Don’t say whether it is easy or not. As a man, he should support a family. The difficulty at this time must be the indulgence of youth. . If you allow yourself to be indulged at this time, and you will have physical problems caused by drinking when you are old, you will think that someone should advise you to drink less and you will be fine. Mother-in-law is also a mother, and you can advise her when she sees bad habits.
I have always thought that the foreign method is better. When the children grow up, they can go out to be independent. Don’t mix up the financial problems, the household chores, and the raising of the children. Out of sight, out of mind, the lifestyles of the two generations are very different, the way they deal with the world is also very different, and the economic management is also very different. There are naturally many conflicts between the two generations living under the same roof. This is not a disagreement over the beer issue. The mother-in-law probably usually It’s okay to spend money, effort, and time, and meet a son-in-law who is reasonable and understands the rules. I want to meet someone like the original poster, who wants to enjoy himself and not care about the children. He doesn’t do housework and is not financially independent. He also yells and drinks. It’s hard to say that it’s a hindrance to the face of his daughter and grandson. Heavy words, you can’t drive them away, you made a wrong step at the beginning, and you become passive every step of the way! As for euphemism, say less and do more, in a word? So learn from foreign countries. Once they turn 18, let them go out and explore the world on their own initiative. There is no need to expect to provide for old age, save enough money, take good care of yourself, rely on yourself, and love your children if you don’t bother them. As for the beer problem, it was easily solved.
Old people can’t stand the life of young people, but they should digest it themselves. My mother told me at home that my brother-in-law has a bottle of beer at noon every day and a beer at night. A rural worker who doesn’t make much money can still enjoy himself, smoking, drinking and playing cards. But I praised my husband again and again. It is true that my husband does not smoke or drink. I advised my mother not to say this in front of my brother-in-law, so as not to offend others. I also feel sorry for my sister, and finding a husband who doesn’t worry about her is enough.
No matter that aspect. Mother-in-law and mother-in-law, please stay out of your children's affairs. Their families, their lives have nothing to do with you. When you live together, you have to help them and don't cause trouble. I don't like this, and I don't like that. This is your mother-in-law's biggest problem. People like you are better off living on your own. Don't cause trouble to your children. As long as both parties don't reach the bottom line. Elders talk less. It seems that this mother-in-law does not know how to educate her children. My life cannot get better.
As the saying goes, "I would rather offend my daughter than my son-in-law." Why? In fact, many parents do not understand this truth. First of all, your son-in-law is an outsider, not your own son or daughter. He also knows his place in your family. How many people truly treat their sons-in-law as their own children? When speaking out of conscience, they tend to favor their own children when it comes to the same matter, at least in their hearts. Because people’s selfish side does not want them to My daughter suffers. Well, as a son-in-law, knowing that he is an outsider, he is always careful with his parents-in-law, for fear of offending them. If parents-in-law do not know how to understand, tolerate and respect, they can easily hurt their son-in-law. The son-in-law will feel that he is being looked at in a different light, and he will feel wronged. I have not treated you well to my own parents, so you always treat me as an outsider. Such thoughts will arise. If this happens for a long time, it will definitely affect the relationship between the son-in-law and the daughter. It will definitely be uncomfortable for the daughter to be caught in the middle: her biological parents on one side and her husband on the other. This will make the whole family feel sulky. If the daughter is not smart in dealing with things, family conflicts will become more and more serious. How tiring will it be to think about her?
Even trivial things can easily turn into an irreconcilable family. contradiction. Your own daughter is your own daughter. If the same critical words are used on your daughter and son-in-law, their feelings will definitely be different. Daughters will think that it is their elders who should criticize and educate them. It's different for a son-in-law. If you don't treat him well at ordinary times, even if it's a well-intentioned criticism, he may think that you are at odds with him and deliberately looking for trouble. He will not accept it in his heart, even if he accepts it in face. Therefore, in daily life, do not deliberately be harsh on your son-in-law and ask him to do this or that, otherwise it will be counterproductive. For this reason, I advise parents, for the sake of the harmonious relationship between your daughter and son-in-law, and for the unity and harmony of your family with your daughter and son-in-law, as long as it does not violate morality or national laws, do not mess around with trivial matters in daily life. Not from mother-in-law or mother-in-law.
It’s not easy for young people now. They have their own personal rights and their own lifestyles and values ??that are different from those of the elderly. As long as they are happy and harmonious, that’s fine. Why bother yourself and make everyone unhappy?
If it were the mother-in-law who taught the daughter-in-law a lesson, everyone’s attitude would be different. The role of mother-in-law is difficult to handle, and it is not easy to play it well. It is natural for a son-in-law to be an outsider. It is probably wishful thinking to really treat him as a half-son. If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is natural enemies, then mother-in-law and son-in-law are not much better. The difference may be Everyone’s perspective on the problem. No matter which elder is dissatisfied with the other's child, try to face it with a tolerant attitude. Think about it from the other's perspective and think about what you would do if it were your own child. If the problem really needs to be pointed out, you must be more tactful. The method is based on the premise of not hurting the face of the other party and not hurting the feelings of both parties. As a child, you should understand the thoughts of the elders. No matter which elder you are, you must first have a minimum of respect. You must also learn to put yourself in others' shoes, communicate harmoniously and understand each other when things happen. Get angry at the slightest dissatisfaction. Arguing and contradicting are against filial piety and morality. Performance without quality.